https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 00:48:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-suggest-parenting-ideas-to-your-so-wo-telling-them-how-to-parent#post-952601 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 11:57:21 +0000 birdofafeather 952601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i bring up articles all the time if i think something might work for our family. i try REALLY hard to not hover. i fail a lot, but i'm trying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-suggest-parenting-ideas-to-your-so-wo-telling-them-how-to-parent#post-952600 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 11:57:11 +0000 sarac 952600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For things like this, I tend to say 'hey I've been trying x with a lot of success' or 'hey maybe let's try y for this behavior'. For small stuff I just let it go, but for big stuff I try to be really collaborative. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-suggest-parenting-ideas-to-your-so-wo-telling-them-how-to-parent#post-952441 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 11:13:34 +0000 MrsRoo 952441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do the same as above. Just tell him that I read something somewhere and that Id like to see how it would work for us. I definitely try to time it so that I'm bringing it up during a neutral time. Like over diner or when we are just hanging out. I don't want it to seem like something he did with LO prompted me to bring up a different way to parent, if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-suggest-parenting-ideas-to-your-so-wo-telling-them-how-to-parent#post-952434 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 11:10:06 +0000 Bookish 952434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually tell him I read something somewhere and ask his opinion. I've learned over the last couple weeks that he's very sensitive to my offering opinions on his parenting (understandably)...so I'm being very careful about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-suggest-parenting-ideas-to-your-so-wo-telling-them-how-to-parent#post-952410 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 11:02:48 +0000 Mrs. Blue 952410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually do something similar to @blackbird:, like, "I read an article that talked about how it is more effective to really praise behaviors you want kids to continue, instead of just getting on to them for behaviors you don't want them to repeat. I was thinking about testing it out and seeing if it works for the boys. Do you think we should try it?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-suggest-parenting-ideas-to-your-so-wo-telling-them-how-to-parent#post-952325 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 10:41:19 +0000 blackbird 952325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually say, "i read this really interesting article on XYZ today....what do you think?" It opens up communication nicely. He knows i do all the research in our house, anyways :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-suggest-parenting-ideas-to-your-so-wo-telling-them-how-to-parent#post-952298 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 10:32:13 +0000 mrbee 952298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are there articles or blog posts on subjects that you can forward to each other? That can be a pretty neutral way to exchange ideas about parenting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-suggest-parenting-ideas-to-your-so-wo-telling-them-how-to-parent#post-952292 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 10:30:19 +0000 mediagirl 952292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are some parenting ideas that I have read about that I like the idea of such as, making a big deal about good things (like sitting on your bottom on the chair) vs a big deal about bad things (like standing on the chair). I have a hard time talking to my husband about them because either:</p> <p>a. I feel like I am telling him what to do<br /> or b. he will feel like I am telling him what to do.</p> <p>We are a team. We are both good parents. Sometimes I'll come up with a thought or read something I like the idea of that I want to try and I'm afraid I'm coming off wrong to him. I don't want him to automatically think, "She thinks I'm a bad parent."</p> <p>Full disclosure: I have been known to say things like, "Don't say that to her!" and I know that bugs him. We have talked about how it bothers him when I "tell" him how to parent, even if I don't mean to do it. I've been working on this and am looking for suggestions.</p> <p>How do you suggested parenting ideas to your SO? </p>