https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 23:00:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2862073 Fri, 14 Dec 2018 08:14:24 +0000 foodiebee 2862073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I both are very anti-FB. We don't have accounts. Not only do we not agree with how the company acts, but we also don't like how the content pushed on it molds/manipulates people's opinions in an endless echo chamber. I basically believe it's teaching people, especially older generations who are on it a TON, how to not think. It's shrinking their compassion for others. My mom has fallen prey to numerous scams and lost a good deal of money, and FB did nothing about it. We also don't post any photos of our faces on social media and won't post our child's face either. How our child wants to be represented online is up to him/her to decide when she/he's older. Who knows what the internet will be like by then! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2862051 Fri, 14 Dec 2018 00:33:32 +0000 bhbee 2862051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I can never quit fb because of groups. My neighborhood moms groups, local area group (not mom related), local artisans (like fancy cookie lady), first grade moms at our school, you name it. Oh and sometimes local buy and sell. I don’t post much - maybe 4x a year I post a kid pic and tag my mom for her friends to see it. I unfollowed most of my “friends” because they’re not people I need updates on and it keeps my feed to just my relevant groups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2862048 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 23:43:59 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2862048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kaohinani: Yes, it was definitely not a family member's place to share information like that. How frustrating. I hope you were able to vote in the midterms on your own terms! Please thank your husband and sister for their service; we really appreciate it!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2862022 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 19:45:28 +0000 lamariniere 2862022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn’t get it until my late 20s. I posted a lot of photos when I was young and single in NYC, but nothing incriminating. I’ve posted maybe 2-3 times in the last couple of years. I’m a voyeur and basically use it to see what people are up to. We’ve lived abroad for the last 7 years, so I have to admit it’s nice to have it to see pics of my nieces and nephews and see what certain friends are up to. I recently deleted it from my phone and it has been great. I only check it on the computer once every few days, but honestly, I only log in when I’m trying to kill time and forget about it most of the time. I think I could permantly shut it down if it weren’t for some of the groups. </p> <p>@LCTBQE: I love this idea of having a more anonymous account just to use it for groups and the marketplace aspect! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2862020 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 19:34:18 +0000 misolee 2862020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use it kind of like my blog reel or news information. I follow blogs, news sources, and like to read the articles that comes up. Occasionally, I like to see pics of old friends and their families as a way to connect. If there is an excessive poster about politics, or any other useless topics that is taking over my feed, I hide them or unfollow them. I do post like a monthly pictures (to free up space on my phone) and like to have it one place. I'm sure there are other apps and services that do this...but I can't find a good one bc this is easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2862017 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 19:14:34 +0000 Pollywog 2862017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have almost all my photos hidden. There's a lot from college I don't want people to see. I post photos of the kids maybe twice a year. I occasionally post a work product (not as bragging, but sharing. People wouldn't know I worked on the project). </p> <p>I honestly hate Facebook. I keep it only for work and because I have an awesome moms group </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2862004 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 17:40:23 +0000 smuckers 2862004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Facebook is... hard. I had it in college, but I thought I was going into education so was VERY careful at the time what I posted (pictures and otherwise). I have deleted a few things that have popped up in memories (SO ANGSTY, ugh), but not a lot. I used it a LOT when my nephew and nieces were babies, because I was the main photographer for the family. StepSister (parent of 2 of the kids) didn't have a camera or a smart phone, so the pictures I have of the kids are really some of the only pictures she has of those times. </p> <p>For DD, we keep her mostly off of all social media. The internet is just so scary, and I'm not fluent enough in legal-ease to truly understand the terms &amp; conditions I agree to on Facebook, so it just feels safer to proceed with caution. Any pictures that are posted are either group shots or a shot from behind. We've asked family to ask us before posting any pictures of her. We're not hard set with those rules, but she's 18 months old now with maybe a dozen shots of herself on Facebook. We did an announcement when she was born (and again a few months later when my family was being asked if she was ok) of our intentions to keep her mostly off social media, and communicated our willingness to share pictures personally if needed (like via email). We also made sure to print physical pictures for my parents and ILs, so they could share those with family if "needed".</p> <p>On top of the safety thing: honestly, I feel like it will be SUCH a gift in our kids' generation to have a blank-ish slate when it comes to having an internet presence. As an example, my SIL posted a shot of my niece in her crib at 10 months... with her walls and sheets smeared with poo, and a naughty grin on the baby. Even if it was the CUTEST (I don't personally think it is), why run the risk of exposing your kids to bullying down the road? What if it went viral because you forgot to set the privacy settings? For my DH and I, risk wasn't worth reward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2862001 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 17:35:00 +0000 DesertDreams88 2862001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use it a bunch. I don't care. I mainly use to to share photos, crowdsource information, sell things on marketplace, and share articles. I don't use instagram or twitter, FB is my only social media. </p> <p>My extended family loves seeing my photos and always tells me so. My teacher/activist friends enjoy the political posts about education. I hide a bunch of people I don't want to see and I assume they do the same to me. I've had it for over 15 years now so it is my closest high school friends, my college friends and community, my study abroad group, my professional networks (Teach For America &amp; AEA activists), and coworkers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861993 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 16:54:05 +0000 codeitall 2861993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use facebook like a classifieds/group tool. Sometimes I scroll through my feed for the major life changes, but it is mostly posts from my mom groups and neighborhood groups.</p> <p>I should probably do a purge of friends, but I only post 3-4 times a year total. Usually when my child has done something super adorable or mindbogglingly hilarious. If I want to share with family though, we have a slack that works much better for us.</p> <p>I got facebook in college, but was fairly tame in my posts, so I've only untagged myself a few times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861951 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 14:43:39 +0000 Kaohinani 2861951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChiCalGoBee: Hi, I completely get and respect your position. I do agree that people are extremely passionate over politics at this time.<br /> In response to your queries- my husband's and my joint page was just that: his and my name together with both of us posting (we always post sign as to who was posting what to limit confusion when he or I would write). We shared the password and would collectively add pictures, content, etc.</p> <p>As for people getting upset over me voting, I did NOT write anything of the sort. A confrontational family member had written on my page about how I hadn't taken the time to vote during the election (* I do not believe it was her business or her place to do so) which alerted others to that fact. She only knew because she had asked during a phone call weeks earlier. I hadn't checked the page in a week or so and, during that time, that post spiraled out of control. Other political posts followed from friends and family supporting both sides (Clinton v Trump). From that, DHs and my FB page became a political debate ground and a place for bullying without our permission. I am very much a non-confrontational person and I prefer to "agree to disagree" in most instances; however, such disregard and disrespect was uncalled for and hurtful. I do not think it is okay to go on another's page and bully, nor do I believe it is okay to try and force or coerce someone to feel bad for not voting ONE year (out of all the other years that I have) as it was my prerogative not to do so for personal reasons (namely that I did not feel that I could make an educated decision between the 2 unappealing candidates) ... I would rather to have not voted than to have made an uninformed decision which completely effects and affects my family and country (which my husband and sister serve in the military to defend) more. I did not bring this to anyone's attention via our FB page. The point would have been mute by the time I checked my page. It was easier to remove the offending posts, friendscape, and not return.<br /> So, as you can see, it was pretty much out of my hands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861924 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 13:35:26 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2861924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kaohinani: I'm curious about how you and your husband share a page? Does one of you run it? I think in the scenario of wanting to keep people up-to-date it'd probably be one of us versus a joint page, which is why I'm asking! It doesn't surprise me that people were upset if you publicly posted you didn't vote, but sorry it left a bad taste in your mouth. People are pretty passionate about voting, especially in the current political climate. I'm sure if you have friends who aren't eligible to vote it might have ruffled feathers that you chose not to. But my guess is you realized that after you posted :wink: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861922 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 13:30:27 +0000 LAZB 2861922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use it a lot. I post several times a week, am part of a few mommy groups, rarely post when I’m selling something, etc.<br /> I really like being able to look back and see my memories.<br /> I also will occasionally use it as a platform to raise awareness for certain causes I’m passionate about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861900 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 12:04:14 +0000 LCTBQE 2861900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pachamama: “how Facebook uses me”—seriously. My profile picture is one photo of my son as a baby, and it’s my real name—the mommy group I made the account to join is private (even though it’s like 12k members) and serious about only letting real people join—I had to send them a picture of our gas bill to prove I was real and not a troll. But I only have two friends (other moms here, not people I really know well) and it’s otherwise totally blank. My husband uses fb to lurk but has a real account. He asked me if we could be friends and I said no and rejected his request 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861898 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 12:01:12 +0000 Mamatimes3 2861898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m old (40) so Facebook didn’t exist when I was in college. I joined when I was 30 before I was married and had kids. I’ve always posted but not excessively. I also do not post all of my business on Facebook for the world to see. I mainly post pictures of my kids so that family and friends can see. Friends that I don’t see on a regular basis have commented that they love being up to keep up with my family and to keep posting pics of my kids. I’m also not friends with random people so I’m not too worried about who sees it. I don’t think I post “perfect” pictures just my family life which sometimes includes all 3 kids crying at once. And I try not to post any pics of my kids in personal situations like on the potty or something. </p> <p>I do tend to unfollow people that post too much about politics or religion. I just want to see pics of your kids and hear funny stories. I don’t care who you vote for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861897 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 11:56:45 +0000 pachamama 2861897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: this is fascinating. do you have a fake photo and everything?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861895 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 11:53:11 +0000 pachamama 2861895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's so much how I use Facebook but rather how Facebook uses me 😑 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861892 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 11:45:20 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2861892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really like seeing other people’s reaponses here because I’ve been questioning Facebook for a while now but don’t have the guts to quit! I use messenger a lot with my grandma to send pics and chat as well as have a bunch of group messages with old friends. I don’t post much besides major events like our sons being born, cute pics every so often. I have my privacy settings very strict and I just deleted a bunch of random people and unfollowed a little while ago. I can part of several groups for buy nothing and local moms which is great.</p> <p>From all the corruption and fake news and junk that’s been happening on social media, I am starting to question it for sure. Whether by using Facebook I’m supporting this behemoth that is a danger to our society. But I struggle because I feel I would lose touch with those who I talk to a lot but live far away unless we all decide as a group to move elsewhere...but then is any platform really not corrupt and messed up?! So for now I stay put.</p> <p>I also am of the generation to have gotten Facebook when you could only join if you were in university and college and remember telling all my housemates to join so we could post pics of each other being drunk haha :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861878 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 11:08:21 +0000 wrkbrk 2861878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cat620: I am a relic of a different time, and I never have had FB! That said, I joined IG in 2015 when I was trying to get pregnant and I love the community there! I am guilty of scrolling way too much daily, but I love the friends I have made and love seeing their photos and videos, plus I follow cool companies and entrepreneurs and meme accounts for a laugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861872 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:48:11 +0000 LCTBQE 2861872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I deleted my real Facebook account in 2013 because IMO it’s a digital cesspool. Started a new, fake account this summer to be a member of my new town’s mommy group and lounge group. I use it to find electricians, plumbers, where to go apple picking and to keep abreast of car break-in rings, which it is terrific for. I only check it when I need something. Zero personal information on it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861868 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:17:15 +0000 Ajsmommy 2861868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a FB lover and chronic poster. We didn't have fb when I was in college and I feel like I lost touch with a lot of friends from HS and college that I could have stayed in touch w if we'd had fb. I have reconnected with some HS friends and I really enjoy seeing their lives/kids/vacations etc via fb. I love that I can stay connected to people I don't get to see any more. And I love that even though we don't see each other we still have a relationship. </p> <p>My relatives and my mom also love to see my photos/kids. If I go a day or two without a post my mom will literally ask for a pic bc they make her happy. I am sure some people get annoyed at my excessive posts but to them they can just unfriend me or hide me or whatever.... </p> <p>I also try to avoid drama as much as I can.... and I am conscious of who my friends are and who their friends might be... for example my mom friended a man whom she "met" and didn't know much about him... I told her I wasn't going to tag her in my pictures anymore bc I didn't know this man and didn't want him seeing my kids... she unfriended him.</p> <p>I also try to stay true to life on fb too.. like I don't try to portray a perfect life by any means.. I post dirty faced/screaming melt downs sometimes just bc it's real.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861866 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:14:41 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2861866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lahela017: I don’t post pictures of my kids on Facebook, and decided this years before they were born. My Instagram is private and has a much smaller list of people, so that’s where kid pics are. </p> <p>To answer the OP’s question, I pretty much use Facebook for the BST pages, and one of my besties and I chat on messenger. I went to summer camp years ago, and we had a massive international staff, and I’ve found many friends from that period of life via Facebook. Since we’re connected there it makes it easier to get in touch if we’ll be in their neck of the woods or the other way around. Beyond that, though, I’ve definitely considered closing my account. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861865 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:13:41 +0000 yellowbeach 2861865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: Apparently I used to post in 3rd person... I'm hoping that wasn't just me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861861 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 10:00:53 +0000 josina 2861861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skinnycow: lol, I have some really dumb ones, like 'eating lucky charms'. My old self was so embarrassing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861860 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 09:57:58 +0000 yellowbeach 2861860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FB didn't exist when I was in college, so I've only ever posted more adult (non-party) stuff. I post mainly photos of DD and DH and I on trips or what have you. When I had DD, I added the life event to FB, and it suggested the option to create a secret group to share her photos with close family and friends, rather than having her pictures out there for all 1200 FB friends to see. That was more comfortable for me. Our family is very spread out across the globe, so FB is a main way we all stay connected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861859 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 09:56:57 +0000 skinnycow 2861859@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: Yes, I can't believe the mundane/random stuff I used to post!</p> <p>Like, "Econ final today UGH." Why did I think the world cared about that?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861855 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 09:53:02 +0000 gotkimchi 2861855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I use it to stalk only lol. For real thought I went through my friends list and was ruthless and deleted most people including extended family. I basically stay on to make sure people aren’t posting pics of my kids and also to keep up with some family and friends who post. But I value privacy and I’m not on other social like Instagram etc </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861854 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 09:52:00 +0000 periwinklebee 2861854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just use it to follow groups - i.e. a local food allergy group, a moms' group. I don't visit that often. I also joined during college, used to post more, but haven't posted in at least a few years. </p> <p>I feel like there's been a general decline in facebook activity amongst people I know. In contrast, so many people seem to be using twitter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861852 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 09:50:10 +0000 josina 2861852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My freshmen year of college I remember writing to get our college added to facebook!<br /> I've deleted a lot of my old albums from then, I used to post entire albums of photos from nights out, weddings, etc. Now I might post one picture to my timeline, maybe 2-3 a month? I used instagram a lot more.<br /> I use timehop and I used to have the DUMBEST status updates, lol, but I also feel like thats what facebook used to be!<br /> I do wish more people posted kid/family/etc. pics of their actual lives vs. random shared posts, memes, political images, etc. Which is probably why I use instagram a lot more. I love sharing photos but also don't want to over-post to facebook.</p> <p>ETA: I use facebook garage sale sites now, use it to communicate with other mom's at my step-daughters school, keep track of what's going on at her school with sports, arts, clubs, etc, check local events. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861851 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 09:49:24 +0000 Kaohinani 2861851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I had a shared a FB page as neither one of us are huge social media people; however, with all of the travel we do (and the fact we live so far away from family and friends) we felt compelled to "stay connected." I abandoned FB after people on my page began posting political propaganda and having social debates (Clinton v Trump) with others (which escalated into name calling) during the last Presidential election. I "friendscaped" many people after I asked that they stop repeatedly and then was berated (ON MY HUSBAND'S AND MY PAGE, mind you) for not voting because I did not like my presented Presidental choices and could not find a lesser evil. All messages were deleted and I have yet to return to FB ... It left a bad taste for me. My husband made a few updates last year, but nothing that I know of since. We used to post family pictures and updates (MOS changes, deployments, balls, moves, updates with the kids, fun activities, graduations, parties, etc) so everyone felt as if they were participating from afar. DH and I had all security settings on so only those invited "friends" could view our content. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-use-facebook#post-2861847 Thu, 13 Dec 2018 09:47:45 +0000 Lahela017 2861847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skinnycow: I've been doing that same thing- using the memories feature each time on log on and I delete anything I don't want on there anymore. </p>