https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 08:45:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2751463 Fri, 23 Jun 2017 15:29:47 +0000 codeitall 2751463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: They would adapt. That's definitely true. DH is still doing online school and entry-level jobs, so mine is the real critical, insurance-providing job.</p> <p>@avivoca: I like the idea of your firm deadline. I mean, anything could happen between now and him aging out of his daycare (they only go till 5). That takes the pressure off.</p> <p>@PawPrints: We do currently live in the city center and that does have an impact on it, but having a commute of less than 10 minutes really is good for my mental health :happy:. That's a good point though, we're just priced out of the 'next neighborhood' right now as it is mostly new development or a much longer commute. Guess I should have seen this coming with a tech industry in a college town!</p> <p>@ShootingStar: Basically web optimization for B2B lead generation. I have a lot of crossover with Marketing Ops. And I'm having the same worry about moving to a new job! What if it really is the only one that is in the area and I hate it? AHH! With young kids, it would be nice to have family support, so I was thinking back home, but perhaps I should be open to other tech areas. My husband hates hot weather and I hate high COL so that limits us, haha!</p> <p>@starchild: What tech position are you looking to get into? Is it something you can get a certification while you wait? Yes, just choices that hurt the least. That's a good way to put it.</p> <p>@kiddosc: The simplest but hardest answer :wink:</p> <p>@caterw: A whole year away? That is awful waiting. But hey, a whole year to pack :silly: </p> <p>@looch: There are two charter schools; I don't agree with their learning philosophies but if need be, I would pick them over public school. That's a good point. We could make it work longer here if needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2751211 Fri, 23 Jun 2017 08:16:06 +0000 looch 2751211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What are the options for school in your current area? Are there any magnet or charter schools that you could investigate? Is private school an option? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2751199 Fri, 23 Jun 2017 07:54:08 +0000 caterw 2751199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh it's the worst. We are also moving back home (hopefully in summer 2018) so my husband can go back to school and change careers. I keep seeing great jobs at home (for me) but we are financially committed to our current city because of our lease and our preschool contract (it's a small coop, so we have to pay the year anyway if we leave in case they can't fill our space). I worry that these great jobs that are within my interest and where I have connections from college won't be available next year but we don't have a real choice so oh well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2750987 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:56:51 +0000 kiddosc 2750987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you need to keep looking and be ready to move when the job opportunity presents itself. It will never be the best time, but the kids and your family will adapt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2750985 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:54:30 +0000 starchild 2750985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish I had an answer for you because we're in the same limbo right now too and it's hard. We live 8 hours from his family and know that we want to move back to that general part of the country long term. I'm miserable in my current job but I hate to look for something around here while pregnant knowing that we're going to move eventually. It's almost like is there anything I can do to be less miserable and wait it out till after the baby and then start looking to move, or do we just decide to start looking to move now? Our current area is very affordable and we have the same exact worry about daycare, or worse, being at the bottom of a long wait list in the new area if we move. Sometimes there are no good choices, just the ones that hurt the least. (PS, tech adjacent trying to get into tech job here ha) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2750973 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:38:34 +0000 ShootingStar 2750973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can I ask what you do? I have a somewhat niche job in tech as well. There are tons of jobs where I live, but I can't just move anywhere and expect the same job market. We've thought of moving to where there's better weather, but I'm also leery of moving and having it take forever to find a new job and then when I do, be totally stuck in that job because there's no where else to go.</p> <p>Where are you open to moving to? If you move, do you just want to move "home" or are there other tech areas you'd be open to? I know for myself I've considered RTP in NC, and I've also heard good things about Austin. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2750970 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:30:28 +0000 PawPrints 2750970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there an option C), figure out where other parents in your industry/general geographic region are settling? Surely you aren't the only couple facing this conundrum. Do all the parents in your industry just leave the entire region when they have kids?</p> <p>I live in a very tech-based city (not Silicon Valley though) and people here definitely go through a progression of desired neighborhoods as they get older, moving a little farther from the city center as they have kids, but still remaining in easy commute distance of the tech jobs. </p> <p>It just doesn't seem like a great bet for you to move back home if that's not where you'll find anybody hiring for your niche job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2750962 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:22:30 +0000 avivoca 2750962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@codeitall: I'm currently dealing with this and limbo is kind of strange. Moving home would only mean moving 45 minutes away, but we would be leaving our excellent daycare and I would likely try to find something in the school system (end goal is to either work part-time or on a school schedule). Our hard deadline is to be moved before DD1 starts Kindergarten in 2019, but earlier would be better for our finances if we can do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2750953 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 14:00:06 +0000 lamariniere 2750953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If the end goal is to move, I would keep looking for jobs in your desired location. Can your DH also find a job there, or would the move be more focused on your career? Your kids will eventually adapt and it sounds like you would have more of a network and better opportunities for schools (aside from daycare) if you were to move home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-do-you-wait-in-limbo#post-2750920 Thu, 22 Jun 2017 13:19:20 +0000 codeitall 2750920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in a pretty niche industry and position. So jobs aren't easy to come by, and really aren't easy to come by outside of a silicon/tech area.</p> <p>But we have decided we don't want to raise our kids where we are. Schools aren't good and the community is really transient. At this point all our friends have moved away except for our neighbors (who finish their program next April and will leave then).</p> <p>In researching a move back home, it has become clear that our daycare is amazing and we won't find one like it or as cheap back home. Since LO 2 will be starting daycare soon, our costs would literally quadruple if we moved now. Plus, LO 1 just got used to this new daycare after the last closed and they have saved a spot for LO 2.</p> <p>It is so hard to know that we want to move back home, but I'm starting to realize that maybe we need to wait just a bit longer for the sake of the kids and the budget.</p> <p>So do I keep looking for jobs back home, or look locally, or even I guess stay at my current place that I'm not thrilled with? I've been pigeonholed at my current place and lost all my friends here through layoffs and better offers elsewhere, so I'd really like a new place, but I don't know if a new job when I want to leave the area is a good idea... </p>