https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 07:57:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825905 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 21:57:55 +0000 skipra 2825905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: I 100% agree about awful work culture here! DH is in IT but on government/law enforcement related projects so in some instances he does need to be available for unscheduled ot. But other times when they just tell him Fri evening that they want him to work Saturday and/or Sunday unnecessarily and his co-workers just go along with it. That is a problem! Why do people not value their free time more and put up a fight?<br /> I was in a finance related field so a lot of hours. At one point I didn't need to do extra for my job but other people did (I wasn't involved in their work so would be no help) so my boss told me to show over the weekend and I could just sit and play solitaire on my computer but should just show my face. Like my time meant absolutely nothing to him. It is just soooo bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825890 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 21:09:06 +0000 Becky 2825890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like maybe this is a culture thing in his industry (maybe he’s working in finance like my husband who said he’d be home 3.5 hours ago 🙄). We have a lot of nurses in my family and that and working in hospitals as a clerk in college gave me a perspective that I apply to my own job which is if no one is dying, it can wait (understanding that in some industries that’s not possible but then there needs to be some compensation). The work culture in the US is pretty embarrassing. My hours went from 37.5 to 40 without any increase in pay the same week France mandated a 35 hour work week. I don’t think there’s much we can do other than choose an industry that fits our morals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825866 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 19:54:43 +0000 skipra 2825866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: yeah with IT I totally understand things happening unexpectedly that need to get fixed asap. That is not my gripe at all. The way DH makes it sound is that the people running the project are doing a terrible job and because of that they just expect others to work whenever they ask. Several times his team has had to do one off things late at night (like past midnight) only to have it fail because other teams work was never ready in the first place. It doesn't sound like that is how your husband's company is operating. A little heads up and allowing to take time off to make up for it is what I would expect! Like they value your husband's time.</p> <p>@Mama Bird: that sounds tough! DH used to have a thing about needing to get overtime approved so they just wouldn't approve his time sheet if he put down anything over 40 hours. Your husband is lucky they don't do that to him! And your job sounds like my previous one. Never replacing people that leave so there is never enough time for all the work. Good luck with mat leave! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825857 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 18:55:38 +0000 Mama Bird 2825857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has a new boss that keeps asking for more paperwork that he has no time to do, but getting overtime approved is a whole thing. Stuff always comes up at the last minute so it's impossible to anticipate when he needs advance approval. He's basically been leaving stuff undone, picking up and going home as soon as eight hours are up. It's not like he gets any thanks for getting stuff done, so same difference. </p> <p>My overtime is random and kind of unpredictable, sometimes I know only a couple of days in advance and sometimes I try to plan ahead but fail miserably - once again, we don't have enough staff for the workload. It sucks in terms of planning my life - I really don't want to dump all child care on DH when he's already stressed, and lately he's often not even able to help because of his mom's doctor appointments. I have to run home early instead of staying late, and then end up in a worse mess. I'm too tired to work from home (because the bed is right there) so that's no help. But at least no one questions my hours and people actually appreciate when I turn in work on time. I can't really say no to extra work, especially not when I've got a fun conversation about yet another maternity leave coming up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825842 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 17:23:55 +0000 gotkimchi 2825842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skipra: ok my husband does IT also and he will randomly have things happen that he needs to stay late or go in after he’s already home. Sometimes he will also log in from home. The few times he’s needed to work on the weekend we’ve know 7-10 days in advance and he always backs out his hours in the days before or after </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825839 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 17:15:34 +0000 skipra 2825839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: IT. And he did say no for next weekend and a couple other times but it directly and negatively impacts just a couple of his coworkers so he hates to do it to them. </p> <p>@looch: He used to get comp time too but they changed the policy unfortunately and he has maxed out all his PTO now so he can't even accrue more anyway. </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: Yeah, he does work a lot of nights at home too and the only fortunate thing is on the weekends it's normally a few hours in the office and the rest at home. We are lucky that I am able to stay home because it would be awful trying to balance two careers with a lot of overtime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825837 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 17:03:43 +0000 Foodnerd81 2825837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH’s job can be like this and it’s super annoying. He works mostly from home and usually can take a break to help with bedtime but then has to get back to work. And it’s unpredictable. It’s one reason I will probably continue to stay home when the kids are in school- it’s too hard to deal with as is when I have that flexibility. </p> <p>@gotkimchi: in our case, he could theoretically say no but he worries it would impact his bonus and promotions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825833 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 16:54:33 +0000 looch 2825833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I work jobs where weekend work is expected, but it's on a cycle that is predictable. We know when the releases are happening, when there are freezes and when we are expected to be on call about a quarter in advance. </p> <p>When we work weekends, we're comped with a day off the following work week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825832 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 16:51:59 +0000 gotkimchi 2825832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What field is this? Can he just say no? Is there extra pay associated? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-overtime-work-for-you#post-2825830 Fri, 01 Jun 2018 16:43:43 +0000 skipra 2825830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you or your SO work a typical 9-5 salaried position, how much overtime do you typically put in and when and how is that arranged? Do you often know well in advance or is it usually last minute? If it's last minute, how do you plan your life outside of work? </p> <p>I am getting really frustrated with DH's company and how they deal with asking for extra work time so I am curious if I am being unreasonable and this is the norm or if they are asking too much from their employees. I SAH now but in my previous jobs I did put in a lot of overtime but I always knew when to expect it. Sometimes there would be random late nights but usually I had a pretty good idea when I would be busy and need to put in longer hours or work over the weekend. In my field it was always an issue of extra workload at certain times, not that work had to be done at specific times.<br /> For DH, he is working on a project that sometimes requires him to work off hours, late at night or over the weekend. I 100% understand that but often they will not express any need for work outside normal business hours until they ask him to work all weekend on Friday night. (And they have weekly 6pm meetings on Fridays too, who does that!?!?) They do this at least once a month and we never know when. This is in addition to the weekend work that typically happens once every 4-6 weeks which is actually planned in advance. I am getting so annoyed because today he sprung it on me that he may have to work over the weekend and we have had plans to go away next weekend for months and now they want him to work then too. I feel like we can't have a family life outside his job and it's driving me crazy. He really only worked one other professional job before this and the overtime work was known and planned out well in advance, similar to my previous jobs, so that is what seems "normal" to us. </p> <p>So what is typical? Do I need to just suck it up and deal? </p>