https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 17:43:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704845 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 10:24:38 +0000 snowjewelz 1704845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay you did it! Hopefully people will just spread the word! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704831 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 10:19:30 +0000 Adira 1704831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: Awww, that sounds so cute!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704731 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:56:20 +0000 MamaG 1704731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Darn, I'm late! I struggled with this as well for different reasons. I did send an email (but my team has all met my daughter and seen her pictures). There also was a tradition at one point of bringing donuts when you are pregnant, it's been lost but some people still mention it... </p> <p>My email was "Some people say it with donuts, others through word of mouth. We are letting C share the news with you…" And then I had attached two pictures of C that we had taken for our announcement. The announcement pictures had her with two different signs "Pink or Blue, either will do. Mommy's expecting number 2" and "I'm being promoted to BIG SISTER". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704707 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:43:31 +0000 Adira 1704707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Yes! I'm always nervous to tell someone if I'm not sure how they will react! So glad it's over and done with and now I can just tell people who I know will be excited for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704571 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:58:11 +0000 SweetiePie 1704571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Good! I'm glad that you came to a resolution you are comfortable with. It is a nerve inducing thing, telling bosses and coworkers. I found this to be the least painful ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704537 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:48:16 +0000 Adira 1704537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: I appreciate your advice!! So I told my two bosses now and I'll just inject it into conversation if it makes sense to do so with the rest of my team (unless my boss just tells them)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704535 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:47:48 +0000 ShootingStar 1704535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did the same as @SweetiePie:. I'm a software designer and I told my boss really early for various reasons, and then after we announced to family I mentioned it to a few people on my team as "by the way I' pregnant". Everyone else I didn't tell explicitly. I figured they either figured it out through word of mouth, or eventually because I was visibly pregnant. And later it just came up naturally, even with male co-workers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704510 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:39:56 +0000 Pumuckl 1704510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: But don't tell her before you tell your friends ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704506 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:38:40 +0000 SweetiePie 1704506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I also work in technology and most of my coworkers (Id say at least 75%) are men. Same situation where we all have a great working relationship and I interact with probably 20-30 core people each week, 5-7 daily.<br /> What I did for the most part was mention it really casually. I know you said it'll be weird to interject into a conversation but I actually found that to be way easier and got funny reactions because it was unexpected (until I started to show, ha).<br /> Formally, I first told my two supervisors. I told them it's not a secret but I'm not doing some grand announcement either.<br /> Then I told my partner (I'm project and he's product).<br /> I started with those 3 becaue they were most impacted (ie had to find replacement, take on extra work, etc). I too am in the midst of a MAJOR redesign project and it was important for them to know.<br /> I also told 2 work friends who I'd feel bad if they found out through the grapevine.<br /> Then I just told people where it felt appropriate. For example, if I was in a meetin and someone said something about a launch in Sept, I'd say something like "oh so, I actually won't be here because I'm due in sept". It was casual but relevant and it was fun seeing reactions. No one ever was mad or said "but what about the project?!"<br /> Then once it was blatantly obvious I literally said in our weekly meeting (which I run and is about 7 people) "by the way I'm pregnant". At that point 1 or 2 already knew by word of mouth and the others exclaimed "I knew it" and we all had a fun laugh, talk about due date, etc.<br /> I have to say that no one except supervisor and my partner asked about when I'd be out, how long, etc. so I agree that telling the rest of your team probably isn't necessary. I think that's up to your supervisor to communicate if it impacts schedule or people have questions. </p> <p>Long winded way of saying that while every work place is different, I think that the rule of "tell a few key people and let it spread naturally" is the most appropriate way to go. And the easiest. I was uneasy at first about not telling people, as if I was lying or hiding. But really I think that most people realize that it's a personal thing and when they need to know they'll know.<br /> I often said to people too after they heard or flat out asked "I didn't want to make a big fuss, I figured you'd all know eventually" and they usually agreed or laughed or whatever. </p> <p>Good luck!</p> <p>ETA: Doh! Just posted and saw that you already told your boss. Ok well, at Least you and whoever searches this topic in the future now know my experience :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704501 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:36:16 +0000 Adira 1704501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: And I'll tell the big gossiper that sits in my area so she can spread it around, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704493 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:32:19 +0000 Pumuckl 1704493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: yay I was kinda expecting you to say that :silly: , should be a fun lunch break today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704488 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:31:33 +0000 Adira 1704488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: I feel relieved, haha! And now that he knows, I can tell all my work friends, which is much more exciting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704470 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:25:52 +0000 Pumuckl 1704470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: yay! Does it feel good? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704461 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:23:31 +0000 Adira 1704461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha, okay, I told my project boss!!!! Done!</p> <p>Thanks ladies for all your help!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704452 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:19:40 +0000 Weagle 1704452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're overthinking this. Tell your work friends. Tell your boss. Let office gossip do the rest. Honestly, after the first pregnancy people don't really care unless you're close, so I wouldn't put too much effort into it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704444 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:17:47 +0000 Pumuckl 1704444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Oh no, having to find the courage twice is mean ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704443 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:17:06 +0000 lawbee11 1704443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just forward this thread to everyone. Done. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704441 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:15:53 +0000 snowjewelz 1704441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll call him for you :grin: </p> <p>Don't overthink it! I was "fortunate" since I was in a situation where I had to tell my boss (super early too). And I literally just said, "I'm pregnant!" And his daughter works here too so he told her, and eventually she congratulated me after thinking it's past 3 months and then words just kinda spread from there... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704434 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:13:03 +0000 Grace 1704434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's actually really fun to see how long it takes for people to catch on. I told my boss and a few people I was close with. Some of the men (who I do see every day) didn't figure it out until I was 7 months. Then I got to tease them for not noticing. It was fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704430 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:11:08 +0000 Adira 1704430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, you girls convinced me! But I just went into his cube and he wasn't there! Gahhhhhh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704424 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:07:00 +0000 LBee 1704424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I think I'm having trouble because I've never been on a team where we don't meet / or see each other at least of a daily basis. If I was, I would just tell my higher up. Come to think of it, he will probably appreciate being told before the rest of the team as opposed to being blindsided. Similar to what @Smurfette said, I assume that in the next meeting or two something will come up timing wise and it will be said you are pregnant. </p> <p>The bottom line is you want to no longer have to hide about being pregnant. I think once you tell this second boss you are in the clear. If any of your teammates ask you just confirm it! I would not be offended to hear through the grapevine about someone I don't personally know and/or interact with on a daily basis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704422 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:06:31 +0000 jedeve 1704422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say, "because the meeting was cancelled, I didn't get to share my news. I am excited to announce I am expecting my second child mid December. I realize this has some implications for our project's timeline. I'd be happy to discuss the plan I've worked out with my boss at the next meeting." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704421 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:05:25 +0000 winniebee 1704421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: just go in, ask if he has a minute. Say "I have some news, We are expecting a second baby in December. We are very excited about it. Also I wanted to let you know that I do intend to return to work after the baby is born." Done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704418 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:03:26 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1704418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't want to announce. I would just tell people in person. The only way I'd send an email is if there were a couple people I never saw in person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704416 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:02:57 +0000 Adira 1704416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: Assuming it's not ALSO canceled, the meeting will be Monday. And my team is about 6-7 people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704414 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:02:27 +0000 Adira 1704414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: haha, you don't think my boss might be annoyed to find out my pregnancy second hand?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704413 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:02:22 +0000 Smurfette 1704413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: I think that works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704411 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:02:03 +0000 Happygal 1704411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: sorry for missing out details...when will your next meeting be? How big is your team? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704410 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:01:01 +0000 Adira 1704410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: That's what I'm saying - I want to announce to my TEAM. Or something... I don't know what I'm doing.</p> <p>@Smurfette: Well... I feel like I need to tell my team somehow. I'm the only software person on the project and software is supposedly on the "critical path" meaning we're already behind schedule. And I'm going to be out for 12 weeks, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-this-sound/page/2#post-1704409 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:00:52 +0000 Pumuckl 1704409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I'd go up to his cube and say something along the lines of: "Hey boss, do you have a minute there's something I need to talk to you about. Just wanted to let you know that I am expecting Nr. 2 mid December."</p> <p>The weird part should then be over ;-) </p>