https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 18:07:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-435220 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 16:31:26 +0000 Mrsbells 435220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH doesnt really mind but I could never do this. I also got pregnant easily without even trying, but I know for sure I dont have the strength to "give away" a baby that grew inside me for 9 months </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-435216 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 16:29:53 +0000 winniebee 435216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't asked him because I wouldn't ever do it - I would have considered it for my sister but she has 3 kids or for my future SIL - but I had a complicated first pregnancy and so it wouldn't be a good idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-435154 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 16:12:17 +0000 Rescuemom10 435154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it for someone I was really close to. I would not hire one for myself though as I would seek out adoption instead. I think DH would take a lot of convincing for me to be a surrogate. We kinda talked about it once....but I think he is "weirded out" by the idea of someone else's baby being carried by his wife. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-435129 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 16:05:04 +0000 Mrs. Train 435129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't use a surrogate. When I had fertility issues I adopted. I don't think a baby has to be biological to be loved. There was some loss and mourning that I had to do for the fact that I wouldn't have a biological child but I go over it quickly especially when I brought m handsome little boy home.</p> <p>I would not volunteer to be a surrogate at this point. Maybe when I Was younger. But now I have four young kids and I have had two c sections. I would not put my body through another pregnancy and c section. I think the mental and emotional connections would be very difficult. I think it would be very difficult to explain to my kids also. The only exception would be for my sister and she already has three kids so I don't think she needs my uterus.</p> <p>But I do think its awesom that you are willing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-435009 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 15:26:15 +0000 prettylizy 435009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my sister needed that I'd do it in a heartbeat. I love her and would do anything for her. The hardest part for me would be post partum hormones without being able to care for that baby that created them :S </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434998 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 15:21:57 +0000 autumnlove 434998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be a surrogate and I probably wouldn't hire one. I would probably try to adopt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434919 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 14:56:58 +0000 Cherrybee 434919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is such an interesting question!! I just asked my DH now and he said he'd have no problem with me doing it as long as I could handle it... and he would be concerned that having to give the baby up would be really difficult for me, emotionally. Thinking about it, he's right. I'd do it for my best friend in a heartbeat but anyone else, well, the risk (to my mental health) would be too great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434889 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 14:45:12 +0000 Weagle 434889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be a surrogate and I wouldn't hire one. If we had problems getting pregnant we would go straight to adoption, and would encourage others to as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434880 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 14:42:05 +0000 Adira 434880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs would probably veto me being a surrogate simply because I've had no sex drive while pregnant, haha. But we haven't ever really talked about it, so I'm not sure how he's really feel. There's also no one that I could think of that I would want to be a surrogate for. Hubs sister has two kids, and I don't have any sisters. Maybe if my brother gets married and his wife couldn't get pregnant though, I would consider it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434836 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 14:19:23 +0000 runsyellowlites 434836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is definitely a no-go on the idea and despite having a pretty easy pregnancy and literally loving to BIRTH babies, I think I'm a no-go too. Pregnancy was pretty rough on our marriage in ways I didn't expect so I leave those issues for our kids and our kids only.</p> <p>I did get a crazy off the wall request for this from an ex though! It was only hypothetical if for some reason him and his wife couldn't conceive but still.... I think it being "him" just really shut the door to the idea for DH. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434820 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 14:14:35 +0000 yoursilverlining 434820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would never be a surrogate because I didn’t enjoy being pregnant haha, so no; unless you are paying me $50k or more, I won’t be going through 6 months of throwing up on a daily basis, constant hip/pelvic pain, etc. for anybody.</p> <p>My husband wouldn’t love the idea because he was really worried about my health/safety throughout pregnancy and delivery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434804 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 14:09:40 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 434804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I would do it. Pregnancy seems to be really hard on my body, and on my mind, for that matter. I've never thought to ask DH what he thinks though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434695 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:24:09 +0000 anonysquire 434695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Ya I think it is so weird. Not for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434691 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:23:28 +0000 jetsa 434691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: @anonysquire: I understand the brother thing because then both women are represented. My husband and I always said if we couldn't get pregnant we'd want an immediate family member to donate for us if they would. =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434688 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:22:40 +0000 mediagirl 434688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's for me. I think people who are surrogates are amazing women, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434684 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:21:43 +0000 blackbird 434684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would only do it, for, say, a sister of mine. I don't have sisters, though. And if DH tried to say no, I'd still do what I want. My body, my decision.</p> <p>I've also handled pregnancy really well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434683 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:21:34 +0000 jetsa 434683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I talked about this while sitting at a winery one day and decided if it came down to it and we couldn't have kids, surrogacy would be an option we were both okay with. We definitely assumed it be one of my sisters who would do it for us but I do not think the thought would change now.<br /> As to wheather I'd be a surrogate it depends on the person and how my body handle pregnancy if I ever get pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434680 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:20:19 +0000 travelgirl1 434680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so sweet of you to want to do that! I would do it for a sister or very close friend. I have PCOS so had infertility issues before having our sweet little girl and I know how it feels. Not sure how hubs would feel about it though - I was a puking, starving, heart burned monster while preg, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434679 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:20:05 +0000 Mrs. Pen 434679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: ew brother?!?!? what the heck... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434676 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:19:10 +0000 anonysquire 434676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>COnsidering I can't even get pregnant for myself I don't think I would do it.</p> <p>Side story: My last ex has a lesbian sister and her and her wife needed some sperm so my ex donated... umm too close! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434674 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:18:15 +0000 T.H.O.U. 434674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend of mine who did this just yesterday (I guess its IVF)? Anyways, she went through an agency and found a family. I support her doing it but I don't think I would unless it was close family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434671 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:15:48 +0000 futuremama 434671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I talked about it long before we thought about kids and both said we wouldn't try IVF, surrogacy or adoption if it came to that. We have seen how stressful they all are for couples going through them. Now that I'm struggling to get pregnant, I wonder if either of us will change our minds. </p> <p>I don't think I could be a surrogate for someone else. It would be so hard to let that little one go after 9 months of carrying them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434670 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:15:41 +0000 Mrs. Pen 434670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I had ms up to 18-20 weeks as well (I think we discussed this before!), had sciatica, splayed ribs and pre-e but for this particular family member I would do it all in a heartbeat for her to experience the joy and love of being a mother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434647 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:05:35 +0000 MamaMoose 434647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could never be a surrogate. I had morning sickness until 20 weeks, pre term labor at 26 weeks, and all sorts of other issues along the way. I'm very lucky to have a happy healthy baby but my body doesn't seem to be the best baby cooker available : )</p> <p>If for some reason something happened and I wasn't able to carry another pregnancy, but I still had viable eggs I would absolutely consider using a surrogate. I have a feeling the cost would be prohibitive (unless a family member was stepping up to do it) but from a comfort stand point I would be OK with it.</p> <p>ETA: I think my husband would definitely never want me to be a surrogate because of the risks associated with a pregnancy and labor and delivery. I think he would entertain the idea of using a surrogate for the sake of having another biological child, but probably would never be 100% comfortable with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434638 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 13:02:55 +0000 Foodnerd81 434638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it for a sister, but DH and I talked about it (hypothetically, no known fertility issues with my sisters) and he would not want me to. He was worried that there is still a risk and he couldn't handle it if something happened to me, especially when we already had kids. I guess I'd bring it up again if it really came down to it, but I'd probably be getting old to even offer when the time came- which hopefully it never will. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-dh-feel-about-surrogacy#post-434619 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 12:54:41 +0000 Mrs. Pen 434619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a family member who was told she can't get pregnant and I told DH I'd love to be a surrogate for her and he freaked. Even though it'd be their baby, he said he'd still think of it as ours because it's growing inside me.<br /> So I guess that options off the table. I just feel so bad that I got pregnant soooo easily and she would make such an amazing mother - she deserves a baby! I wish I could help..</p> <p>would you be a surrogate? Or would you hire a surrogate? </p>