Hellobee Boards Topic: How does your family feel about CIO?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How does your family feel about CIO? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 18:29:17 +0000 Trailmix on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2453331 Mon, 08 Feb 2016 10:35:56 +0000 Trailmix 2453331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mom was pushing me to do it long before we actually did, and then supported me through the months and months and multiple attempts that it took to finally get my son to STTN at 20 months! My MIL was totally supportive as well. I think when you have twins, all bets are off in terms of survival, functioning and sleep. It wasn't fun but I was dying, and I think they both saw that and felt it's what I had to do to survive. avivoca on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2453288 Mon, 08 Feb 2016 10:08:52 +0000 avivoca 2453288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My FIL gets annoyed when she cries in the night, but he wakes up for the day at 3:00 am and is not quiet so I try not to let it bother me. My mom told me that I needed to do CIO when H was 5-6 months old because she didn't need to get up anymore. I finally did CIO to go to sleep at 8 months and we never had to do it in the middle of the night. Once I night weaned she slept through the night. mediagirl on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2453286 Mon, 08 Feb 2016 10:05:19 +0000 mediagirl 2453286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wouldn't do it. My mom suggested we do it. yin on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2453261 Mon, 08 Feb 2016 09:54:50 +0000 yin 2453261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents wanted me to let the baby cry it out in day one. Haha. I'm pretty sure my parents just let us cry as long as we were fed and changed as babies. My in-law's are the opposite and want us to rescue LOs as soon as they make a noise. snowjewelz on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2453241 Mon, 08 Feb 2016 09:48:53 +0000 snowjewelz 2453241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think my mom would've supported CIO, since she's always the "stricter" one. I'm the firmly anti-CIO camp though. Initally my mom was concerned about MY lack of sleep but I explained to her my viewpoint and she totally suported it. ScarletBegonia on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452968 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 18:39:35 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2452968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents don't really know what "sleep training" is but at a certain point let us cry ourselves to sleep. Our son is by a very large margin the best sleeper of all their grandchildren (knock on wood) so they definitely see the benefits of us sleep training first hand. gingerbebe on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452930 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 17:37:36 +0000 gingerbebe 2452930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My in laws also did not sleeptrain and can't handle crying. But my poor MIL was a SAHM with 3 kids born back to back like clockwork every 2 years and did all the night wakings herself. She never sleeptrained her kids because she didn't know that was a thing plus there were 5 people in a tiny house. Anyways, my BIL apparently was still getting up at least once a night screaming in his bed for a "warm bot" at 2 years old and my MIL would get up as fast as she could to keep the other kids asleep, heat a pan of milk on the stove, pour it into a sippy and take it to him. He would apparently chug it and then go back to sleep but she did this every stinking night. When she went into labor with #3 she told her mother about how he would need a bottle and to make sure it was warm, etc. etc. Grandma said ok and sent her to the hospital but was like I'm not getting up to make warm milk for anybody and let him holler his head off. MIL came home a few days later and Lo and behold BIL had stopped asking for warm bots and was STTN at 2 years old finally. My MIL thought Grandma was a genius. Corduroy on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452908 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 16:49:17 +0000 Corduroy 2452908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Like lots of other posters my parents are pro CIO (and sort of tough love in general) from a distance. When they stay with us its a totally different story. arosebyany on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452879 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 16:05:03 +0000 arosebyany 2452879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL got mad at me the other day because DS was fussing in his bouncer so I picked him up! She told me I need to let him fuss, that it's good for his lungs lol! I'm not against CIO but the kids only 7 weeks old 😳. I really just want to hold all the cuteness and get all the snuggles! Littlebit7 on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452852 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 15:35:20 +0000 Littlebit7 2452852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ my parents don't mind. My inlaws mind a bit more. I get more "oh the baby is crying, should we go get her?" I"m like "nope, give her 5 minutes" sure enough she's out like a light in 5, max 10. My parents are like "WHOA that is AWESOME" when I just put her down and walk out at night. mrsrain on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452838 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 15:12:30 +0000 mrsrain 2452838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We are open to CIO, but didn't have to do it much with DD. We tried to help her learn to self-soothe early on (for example, swaddling with her arms out), and letting her fuss herself to sleep. She's naturally a pretty good sleeper, thankfully, so the rare times she has really CRIED have been because something was wrong. We've never had our methods challenged by family, other than my mom going and walking her around during the fussing stage. I just roll my eyes, because eventually she has to put her down and the fussing starts all over! She's almost two though, so it hasn't been an issue for a while. DS is due next month, so I guess we'll see what happens the next time around! Torchwood on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452776 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 13:54:57 +0000 Torchwood 2452776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My dad and stepmom started CIO with my siblings very young, like under a month, maybe within a week. Even at 14 and not against CIO at the time I was horrified. I'm now staunchly anti CIO and would never, ever consider it. Though I don't consider what you're describing as true CIO either. I've been *really* surprised how little they've said to us about it. I know they disagree with us cosleeping, etc, and normally they're very vocally opinionated, but they haven't said a word. Tanjowen on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452632 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 10:25:47 +0000 Tanjowen 2452632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My family is pro-CIO, but my mom and I had a major blowout the one night I stayed at their place and I let him fuss (not even cry, mind you) while going down for a nap and she kept commenting, "How cruel." So in theory, they like it. :silly: DH's family does not practice CIO. I have done CIO for max 20 minutes a few times with our LO, but don't have the heart for it. I'd rather have him come snuggle in bed and we all get some sleep, and I'm a softy. brownepiano on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452481 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 06:44:31 +0000 brownepiano 2452481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL and FIL thought we should have sleep trained earlier! They watch him occasionally overnight and I never doubt that they will make him nap and go to bed on time... Not that it is that hard with my kid. anonysquire on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452478 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 06:41:14 +0000 anonysquire 2452478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ They all practice it. And I'm in the boat where "if baby is crying, something is wrong and I'll try everything to fix it but if nothing works I'll just hold the baby". FaithFertility on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452468 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 06:15:51 +0000 FaithFertility 2452468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mom never let's a baby cry! So I think it's hard for me to do CIO maybe because I never remember my sisters crying! MIL I'm not sure on her stance oliviaoblivia on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452454 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 02:49:49 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2452454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents think we should CIO. We haven't sleep trained any of the kids. They sleep well though so it's mostly a non-issue. Boogs on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452444 Sun, 07 Feb 2016 01:59:59 +0000 Boogs 2452444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Can't take it! Like I've had LO2 be watched by two different relatives and they refused to put him down for a nap just so he wouldn't cry. I was super upset because we all know how much more fun a kid who doesn't sleep is. Dahlia on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452387 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 22:49:17 +0000 Dahlia 2452387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents were pushing us to do CIO pretty early. But only because they live on the other side of the country - when I jokingly told them if they were so pro-CIO then I would call them in the middle of the night and let them listen to her scream, they shut up pretty fast! Zbug on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452382 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 22:42:53 +0000 Zbug 2452382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents didn't sleep train us, and we aren't sleep training either. My mom used to talk about how I didn't sleep through the night until I was 1. I thought that was insane until I had DD - who was NOT sttn at 1 year. Apparently, I was easier :) gingerbebe on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452366 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 22:22:38 +0000 gingerbebe 2452366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents never sleeptrained - culturally, cosleeping or at least room sharing was the norm so my mom would just have us sleep with a boob in the mouth all night. However when my son was born she was lecturing us about how we should sleeptrain, which was annoying because she had no idea what she was talking about. We DID end up sleep training and she loves to take credit even though she freaks out whenever she hears him cry and can't stand hearing him fuss for more than 5-10 minutes when she's around. My dad also boasts how we were never sleeptrained and slept just fine. They are hypocritical inconsistent weirdos. Astro Bee on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452364 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 22:20:19 +0000 Astro Bee 2452364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @RegberaDaisy: Sorry to hear that. I think boundaries are important. I hate when family disregards parenting wishes. My dad gave my then 9-month old several licks of his lollipop when my back was turned. Not okay! Foodnerd81 on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452363 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 22:19:35 +0000 Foodnerd81 2452363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mom thought the whole sleep training thing in general was sort of BS until she baby sat my nephew for a couple weeks when my sister went back to work. He just was not sleeping at all and was overtired and miserable the first week. My sister did CIO during the time period and my mom saw what a difference it made and now she is pro whatever it takes for your kid. So she has never questioned us on sleep training. (How she raised 5 kids and never did sleep training I don't know). Dhs parents have never said anything either way. Greentea on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452351 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 22:08:46 +0000 Greentea 2452351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have never, would never. My family doesn't practice that either. regberadaisy on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452333 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 21:44:07 +0000 regberadaisy 2452333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Astro Bee: my mom just can't handle kids crying. Period. This is my second so she's not new to us letting our kids learn to self soothe. Even know when we are disciplining our almost four year old she tries to step in. When my nephew fake cries and throws a tantrum because his mom is trying to discipline. she literally gives him candy to get him to stop! Love my mom for so many things. But this part drives me craaazy! Mrs. Champagne on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452332 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 21:41:48 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2452332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Our families seem supportive. My son cries for a few minutes before every. Single. Nap. And a lot of nights before bed too. Goin in makes it about 10000 times worse so they support us in letting him cry for a couple mins. Maybe they don't behind my back, but I don't care! Astro Bee on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452330 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 21:39:46 +0000 Astro Bee 2452330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We sleep trained LO over Christmas while we were at my parents'. Not ideal, but since DH was going to be around and not working, we decided to go with it. My parents were both like your mom in that it really bothered them, and they couldn't understand why I was doing this to him, so I got many offers to go and walk him around. I was okay with them doing that for naps to make sure that he got on a schedule, but put my foot down at night. It was more stressful since there were 4 people sitting around listening to him cry - but thankfully he always fell asleep bw 5-20 mins. I sat them down and explained the reasoning behind it, and they had seen how bad his sleep was when they'd visited the month before. Still, they didn't relax on the side-eyes and judgement until he actually started sleeping way better. I've actually gotten a few "You were right!"s out of them since! Have you sat your mom down and explained how CIO is supposed to work and how your daughter will benefit in the long run from self-soothing? blackbird on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452328 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 21:38:20 +0000 blackbird 2452328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Honestly, it's never come up! But everyone's always been amazed by how well my kids sleep compared to the other ones....so any negative comments and they can go suck an egg gentlelunette on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452327 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 21:37:12 +0000 gentlelunette 2452327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My family was supportive, although the we didn't fully CIO. We did the "chair method", where we sat beside her crib and offered bum pats and shushing and pick ups as needed. There was still some crying! My family saw just how exhausted and completely spent I was and knew that it was best for me and my daughter to go through that process. My MiL was semi-supportive, but I don't think she really understood what we were doing. Lol. catomd00 on "How does your family feel about CIO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-family-feel-about-cio#post-2452325 Sat, 06 Feb 2016 21:35:41 +0000 catomd00 2452325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mom was telling me to let DD CIO at a week old, lest she manipulate me, sooo yeah. Both my sisters are also pro-CIO. We do not find it an acceptable option for our children. My Inlaws are the only people allowed to have DD overnight because we trust they wouldn't let her CIO. Can't say the same about my parents. My mom constantly makes comments about our decision to not let our kids CIO.