https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 02:09:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441390 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 16:07:40 +0000 AprilFool 1441390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Is your husband my husband? I would of written the exact same post word for word. Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441388 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 16:06:17 +0000 .twist. 1441388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: OMG! Haha when DH is annoyed with me, I totally go wash the dishes because I know it will make him happy. LOL</p> <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I really like his method too! I would be okay with that approach. </p> <p>@pui: ugh, I hear you on not fully discussing the situation. That happens to us all the time. I wish we could talk it out to make sure it doesn't happen again but by the time he's cooled off, I'm over it, albeit, still a little annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441346 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:48:18 +0000 pui 1441346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I don't know when I developed the ability, lol, but I can just sort of tell when he's not angry anymore. The tension is just gone.</p> <p>And I'm with you, I like to get things sorted out to feel better and it kind of bothers me sometimes that DH needs space. A lot of times we never even fully discuss whatever we were arguing about, but since it's not often important stuff I guess it doesn't matter. It was a little hard for me to get used to, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441343 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:47:20 +0000 Littlebit 1441343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He apologizes as soon as I start ugly-crying usually. Ha! I mean, I don't cry in a fight often..so it's not like I purposely use it against him. I'm the one who needs time and space. He wants to keep hashing until we're ok again. Whereas even though he's said 'sorry' I still need some time by myself to cool off. We have gotten into bigger fights because he won't leave me alone sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441332 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:43:22 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1441332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He DOESN'T ever say sorry. He will just fix it. For example, if we argued over the fact that he throws his clothes on the floor right after I cleaned, then he will wait until the argument is over, think about it a little, and then go and clean the ENTIRE bedroom and come up to me and kiss and me an tell me how much he appreciates what I do for him. But, he never says sorry. I prefer his method though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441295 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:31:01 +0000 Dandelion 1441295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While DH is terrible at verbal apologies, he gets a little more generous towards me and DS when he knows he's wrong and lets me buy nice things I've had my eye on, lol. He also does things for me, like cleaning the bathroom or something, without me asking or him talking about it first. </p> <p>He's more of an action guy than verbal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441279 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:26:21 +0000 mrsjyw 1441279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is much better about apologies than I am. He does need cool off time, as do I, but he always apologizes (first) either in person or by text/call </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441221 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:04:51 +0000 Weagle 1441221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is SO MUCH BETTER at apologizing than I am. I like space to cool down and then kind of hope it passes. But that's not the best approach. It's better to just deal with the issue than be stubborn, which he's great at doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441201 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 15:01:46 +0000 CottonCandy 1441201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am always the one that needs space, DH is always the one to want to apologize and move on right away. It annoys me because some of the time I'm not done being mad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441104 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:35:10 +0000 MrsRcCar 1441104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After we fight/argue, I need space. He gives me like half hour to an hour to cool down and then he gives me a big hug and says sorry. I have a bit of a hotter temper then he does.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441098 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:32:19 +0000 .twist. 1441098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsH: yea, he's definitely gotten better over the years... He still doesn't actually like to talk about it though. If I try to keep talking about it he gets mad again! Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441094 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:31:08 +0000 MrsH 1441094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I wish my SO apologized like that! Mine will just say sorry - sometimes- and then doesn't want to talk about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441092 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:30:36 +0000 .twist. 1441092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: LOL! </p> <p>@snowjewelz: haha I hate that! Tries to come and give a little kiss and im like "doooont touch me! Rawr!" Hahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441088 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:29:02 +0000 .twist. 1441088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: that sounds like me! I can't be mad at people! </p> <p>@Alivoo01: that's totally us too except opposite. He shuts down and I lay it on him! Haha I have a feeling he feels the same way about the text messages too. He can think about what he wants to say, how he really feels, and I am not there to interrupt him. </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: ugh, so. Frustrating! My DH does a lot of stuff that is "not his fault". Crazy men. </p> <p>@pui: did it take you a while to be able to sense when he was calmer? I have always need to sort out arguments right then and their, so meeting someone who needed space was really hard for me to adjust to at first. I'm a lot better now, and DH has even gotten better about not taking as long, or coming to me when he's feeling better or thinking clearer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441084 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:28:23 +0000 Foodnerd81 1441084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@avivoca: When it's something bigger, he always *says* he is going to make it up to me, but he never does anything big like sending flowers. More like he says he'll give me a massage later then keeps putting it off until I forget why he owes me, only that he does and I never got my massage. Jerk. (I kid.... kind of.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441083 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:27:06 +0000 snowjewelz 1441083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH gets mad fast &amp; in the heat of the moment he def needs space/time to calm down but once he does, he forgets about it and will try to kiss/hug me and I'll still be simmering mad :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441081 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:26:19 +0000 avivoca 1441081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: This. </p> <p>However, if he's been a complete ass, he sends me expensive flowers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441071 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:23:29 +0000 pui 1441071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is also a "needs space" type of guy. He usually goes off to another room to cool off. Then when either he's ready or I sense he's feeling better we hug, kiss and make up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441061 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:20:14 +0000 Foodnerd81 1441061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. He says "I'm sorry" but in a voice that doesn't SOUND very sorry. More like, I'm saying I'm sorry but I really just think you are making a big deal out of something that isn't a big deal but apologizing will hopefully diffuse the situation. All I want is for him to say sorry once, sounding sincere, and say he messed up instead of blaming it on everything but him. Luckily our fights are usually about small annoyances that happen frequently enough to piss me off, but still not anything major (like, being late. All the time. And it's never *his* fault). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441059 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:19:38 +0000 Alivoo01 1441059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bottle up and shut down when we get into arguments and explain better in text because I have time to sort my thoughts. I also don't get interrupted and can say what's on my mind.</p> <p>DH will approach me in person to reconcile, but hates when I shut down. I just don't know what to say or how to react when he's just "laying it on me". I think it has to do with how I was disciplined as a kid maybe? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441054 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:18:40 +0000 IRunForFun 1441054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He will usually act like he wants space, so I give it to him, and then after about two minutes he'll come find me and be like "I can't stay mad, I'm sorry!" And ask for a hug. LOL. He's bad a being mad at me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-does-your-so-apologize#post-1441043 Fri, 21 Feb 2014 14:14:58 +0000 .twist. 1441043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This morning DH and I got in a little tiff and were annoyed with each other for a few hours. We rarely argue, and this morning was seriously about nothing which made me more annoyed that we were arguing about it. </p> <p>DH is kinda of a "needs space" kinda guy when he's frustrated or mad. So I was giving him a bunch of space while I let go of my frustrations. He had some things to do so he left to do them, said he was going, and I said ok, said bye and I said nothing. (it's so rare that I don't say goodbye to him, so I guess he knew I was SERIOUS! haha)</p> <p>Later, while he was out I got a text message from him telling me how much he loved me and how sorry he was for our misunderstanding. </p> <p>He always does this. After he's taken his "time" he will send me love text messages and apologize and explain why he's sorry. haha I think it's the cutest thing ever. He says what I need him to say (and I always apologize back, if I need to!). </p> <p>Not sure why he can't say it to my face, but he can't. I appreciate that he does try. Sorry for the novel! </p> <p>What is your SO apologizing style? </p>