https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 20:12:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2074043 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 17:13:20 +0000 shellio 2074043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsHoneyC: I just always had the idea that with my kids close in age, they would be closer as they grew up. Also as children they might be more likely to play together and be interested in similar things at the same time. The newborn time was challenging in many ways, neither of our kids were the type that sleep anywhere or anytime and we can't stand missing naps so it means being stuck at home a lot. So there was also an element of wanting to get that time period over with. But you've already been through the baby period and know how you deal with it. I know some people can be more active than we were. </p> <p>As for making it easier... Hmm. My DH and I were both home for my entire maternity leave so its not like it was just me drowning in diapers or anything like that. I think part of it was sleep deprivation on his part, he doesn't deal well with that and was grumpy a lot. That put a lot of strain on our relationship and created a lot of tension in our house. I guess it was less noticeable with our first son because there were two of us to team up on him, and he slept through the night really early. The second was never a great sleeper, and even though I got up with him every time, DH was very stressed out for a long time. I hate to place blame but it is hard to remember anything that made it harder than that stress reaction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2073466 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:48:04 +0000 erinpye 2073466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>8 months with DD1 (which was 6 cycles), 1st cycle with DD2. I found going from 0-1, and from 1-2 difficult in different ways. My girls are 1 day shy of 22 months apart, and I wouldn't have it any other way :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2073429 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:34:14 +0000 MrsHoneyC 2073429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shellio: I'm curious to know why you would have liked them to be closer in age than 22 months? What would have made it easier do you think? :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2073333 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:49:09 +0000 shellio 2073333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TTC #1 for 18 cycles. #2 first cycle. #3 3rd cycle of actively trying. First two were 22 mos apart and while I love the age difference and would have liked them even closer together, going from 1 to 2 was SO HARD. I didn't find it hard at all to go from 0 to 1. Our first baby was more laid back and a better sleeper so that helped. I'm hoping 2 to 3 is a very easy transition so maybe DH will be open to 4! There are tons of pros and cons to any age difference you come up with. If 2.5 years sounds good to you, go for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2073311 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:39:16 +0000 MrsHoneyC 2073311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bunches: oh gosh DH and I were just talking about this scenario !! I'm not sure how I would feel. We want 3 kids my husband is a twin so he thinks it would be perfect because then we'd be done haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2073034 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 09:31:37 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2073034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been blessed in this department. We have conceived every child on our first try </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2073030 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 09:30:29 +0000 Bunches 2073030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our second only took us one try. We were VERY surprised and even more surprised to learn it was TWINS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2072980 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 08:48:42 +0000 Alivoo01 2072980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both babies took awhile to conceive for us so after DS turned 1, we started trying for #2. Took us 6 months, but my periods postpartum were all over the place. The kiddos will be 27 months apart when LO#2 arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2072958 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 08:39:25 +0000 yin 2072958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO1 was our happy surprise. LO2 was conceived on my first cycle once we decided to try for #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2072949 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 08:30:47 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2072949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsHoneyC: We got pregnant on the second month trying for #2. I'm still really early - only 6 and a half weeks.</p> <p>Tiny baby stage was rough for me, so I just keep thinking about them being in elementary school and being adults and how glad I'll be we had two. Thinking about newborn stage while having a toddler in the house stresses me out if I really think about it. In fact, we wanted this baby SO much, but the day I got the positive test, I cried and told my husband we were ruining our lives! I'm going to blame that one on the pregnancy hormones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2072818 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 01:42:22 +0000 BabyMats 2072818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsHoneyC: I really thought because I was nursing and my cycles were too regular that we would end up ku a lot later so told dh we should start a bit earlier. 1st try and they will be 20 months apart. We decided to try for a 2nd sooner than later so we could just ge t the newborn phase out of the way since we didnt think we would go back to it if we waited long enough.<br /> Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2072815 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 01:35:32 +0000 FannyMae 2072815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 we had decided that we would start approx 6 months after having the discussion, and we fell pregnant almost immediately. with #2 the same thing happened, we thought about starting around *now* but I fell pregnant last october and miscarried at 9 weeks. seems like we are just eager beavers. I'm not sure about when we will TTC again, I'm in two minds about starting next cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2072455 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 20:28:37 +0000 blackbird 2072455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsHoneyC: heh my motto is to start as early as you are comfortable with-no earlier, no later if it can be helped. Because you never know. I wanted a late spring baby, but was expecting a summer baby.... :shocked: I didn't want a &lt; 2 year gap but I'll be damned if I'm not splitting hairs over here </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071737 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 12:12:16 +0000 babynumber1 2071737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am pregnant with #2 now. They will be 3 years, 3 months apart. LO took 15 months to conceive, this one happened the first month. </p> <p>I am glad they won't be too close together, that would be incredibly challenging, but we were shocked it happened so fast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071635 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 11:02:56 +0000 MrsHoneyC 2071635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This post has actually made me feel a lot better, thank you for everyone who took the time to reply. I've really appreciated it, my mom told me there will never be a 'perfect' time but I feel like a 2 1/2 year age gap might be do able ? Plus I haven't really factored in the multiple complications that can arise since we were so blessed with a short 3 month TTC time with our son. We would like a spring baby, so TTC July ish? But now I wonder if we should start a smidge earlier since I am doubtful we will get KU on the first try.... :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071614 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 10:55:26 +0000 Pumuckl 2071614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Conception was easy both times. #1 took 2 cycles and #2 happened on the first try. </p> <p>Going from 0-1 was definitely more of a challenge than going from 1-2. You just run out of hands a lot quicker with two but one quickly develops strategies how to deal with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071606 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 10:48:08 +0000 Blueberry 2071606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got pregnant on the first try which was shocking. But even before I was pregnant with #1 we talked about the ideal age gap for us and we stuck with it. DS is a tough little toddler at times but I am SUPER excited for DD to get here (in 4 weeks!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071541 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 10:18:18 +0000 LuLu Mom 2071541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We knew the timeline we wanted, I knew I really wanted a spring/early summer baby. We decided to start trying after I was a bridesmaid in a wedding in April. Then I cold feet and decided I wanted May to "enjoy the summer" a little bit before being pregnant. IT took us 2 months, and I was pregnant in July making a March baby. We got lucky and got exactly what we wanted, the girls will be almost exactly 2 1/2 years apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071530 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 10:09:49 +0000 Mary Mary 2071530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First baby took over a year of trying and eventually fertility treatments. </p> <p>Second baby happened while not trying at all, and I was still breastfeeding. So, conception at least was a lot easier. </p> <p>As for the actual parenting, we'll see (I'm still pregnant). I've heard 1-2 is easier than 0-1, just busier, which I believe. I think the biggest mental change is going from non-parent to parent. Now that I'm already in the mode of being totally responsible for someone else, I feel like I could have 3 more kids &amp; it wouldn't change things as dramatically as my life changed when I first became a mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071497 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 09:51:28 +0000 Corduroy 2071497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The decision to TTC#2 wasn't nearly as romantic as LO1. We knew we wanted 2 but we really didn't like the baby phase with colicky LO1. We thought if we waited too long we would never go back. </p> <p> We started trying after I weaned LO1. It took longer than with LO1 (6 months vs 3 months). The spacing will be 2.5 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071474 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 09:40:52 +0000 Mamasig 2071474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got pregnant with both of my boys on the first month we actively tried. They are 20 months apart. We always knew we wanted them close in age so it worked out perfectly. Going from 1-2 was way easier than 0-1. Yes it's hard but totally worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071468 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 09:38:25 +0000 travelgirl1 2071468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Making the decision was easy but we had to wait for my period to return after LO#1, which wasn't until 15 months pp. we got pregnant with #2 straight away but miscarried at 8 weeks and then it took us another four cycles to get pregnant again. So it ended up being a longer process than we would have liked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071463 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 09:37:02 +0000 Ajsmommy 2071463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsHoneyC: hi! :) We're just about to start trying for #2 (although I probably should bring DH up to speed on that) The decision for both wasn't hard, it's more of an age issue and just knowing we want 2. Also, DD has been easy so we don't have concerns with that aspect (not traumatized from newborn stage and my recovery was easy-ish) so those things don't worry me.</p> <p> I do worry about DD losing time w me and I will miss spending all my time w her, I just hope we've got a strong enough bond to keep us close.</p> <p>I am also worried how adding #2 will affect everything though... schedules, DH and I, me and DD, DD in general. It seems like it will be much harder to me to add another, to go from 1-2 than it was to go from 0-1... but knowing how much I love dd and how much joy she brings us I can't even imagine having another and how much more joy we'll have in our lives :) so it'll all be worth it (hopefully) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071462 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 09:36:47 +0000 creativemomma15 2071462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were very blessed... We got pregnant with DS &amp; DD both in 2 active cycles. I'm in the tww of cycle 2 with TTC #3. Our kids are 21 months apart so we had our moments in the beginning but the transition went pretty well for us. DS doesn't remember life without DD and was always concerned about where the baby was and not leaving her behind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071413 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 09:02:21 +0000 MrsADS 2071413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is an interesting topic. I'm pregnant with #1. But it's important to me to have 2, I don't want to have an only. I would probably prefer a 3-4 yr space but my husband is older, so I think it's going to have to be less. We had fertility issues and it took about 9 months including Clomid + IUI to get pregnant with this one, so I don't know what the timeline will be. Not worried about it now, but it's something we'll have to think about down the road. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071381 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 08:46:59 +0000 lilteacherbee 2071381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 took 13 months, including a m/c. I was worried that we would have the same issues with #2, so we started NTNP when I got my first pp period (LO was 11 months). I was completely shocked, but I got pregnant that first time and I'm 15 weeks right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071375 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 08:41:22 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2071375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 took 18 months and two miscarriages to conceive and #2 too, 18 months, 2 miscarriages and surgery done by a RE to conceive. #1 and #2 will be 3 years apart as long as everything works out. </p> <p>LO was extremely colicky as well. I know the jump from 1 to 2 will be super hard, but LO will be 3 by then, and hopefully will understand more. I'd love for him to be potty trained by then too, but I'm not getting my hopes up too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071367 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 08:33:13 +0000 regberadaisy 2071367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 took a year to conceive and #2 took 9 months.</p> <p>My first was so fussy and high needs. She didn't sttn till 7.5m and I had about 3m of hourly wakeups before that! #2 is a much more chill and laid back baby but sleep isn't that great either. 1-2 is waaay easier than 0-1! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071360 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 08:28:12 +0000 travellingbee 2071360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Making the decision was about the same. But actually making the baby has been much harder. We got pregnant right away with #1 but with # 2 we've been trying for 9 months and had 2 miscarriages and still aren't pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-easy-hard-was-it-for-you-to-ttc-2#post-2071356 Mon, 16 Feb 2015 08:24:06 +0000 lovehoneybee 2071356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I'm hoping this will be us! </p>