Hellobee Boards Topic: How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Jul 2026 22:14:59 +0000 Honeybee on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503480 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 14:35:05 +0000 Honeybee 503480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My DD and DS are 21 months apart, and i think that age difference is just about perfect. DD was potty trained at 18 months so that was nice, and she was pretty independent by the time DS came along. The transition from 3 to 4 went really smoothly and DD and DS are great friends already. Plus i like that we're moving closer and closer to the end of the baby stage! If we have a third, we'll shoot for a similar gap. Mrs. Bee on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503267 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 13:13:47 +0000 Mrs. Bee 503267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ charlie and olive are 22 months apart. i wouldn't have changed a thing. originally we wanted them 3 years apart, but like mrs. superhero said, it is harder in the beginning, but easier as they get older because you get the hard baby stage out of the way faster, they can share toys/clothes, and be best friends (hopefully!). we got pregnant the first month we started trying. DisneyBee on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503264 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 13:11:32 +0000 DisneyBee 503264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My DS is 2 years old right now, and we're talking about TTC soon. My DS loves for us to play with him, and mainly sees my DH as his playmate. So DH says that it's time to conceive a playmate for him. We'll see what happens. We're aiming for 3 years apart. banana on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503240 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 12:58:41 +0000 banana 503240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Our kids are 27 months apart and so far it's worked out really well for us. My son is almost fully potty trained, which makes things SO much easier. We wanted our kids around 2-2.5 years apart so the timing worked out for us. My brother and I are 4 years apart and there were periods of time where we weren't very close (especially when I hit jr high and he was still in elementary school) so I always wanted my kids to be closer in age. mamabolt on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503228 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 12:52:55 +0000 mamabolt 503228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have one, would like to have a second when LO is around 3. We want time to enjoy our first, and I'd like to negotiate working PT when number 2 arrives, so I feel like I need to put in some more good time at work first and let DH's salary pick up some more. littlek on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503153 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 12:24:55 +0000 littlek 503153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Subscribing... we are starting to try soon... Mrsbells on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503146 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 12:23:15 +0000 Mrsbells 503146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ we want a 3-4 year age gap. thats the gap between myself and my siblings and we turned out just great. I dont think having them closer in age guarantees that they will be closer as friends.. I also cant imagine having 2 kids under the age of 2, plus I feel kinda bad for the older sibiling when they are under 3 and lose a lot of attention, I think once they are over 3 they understand things better Mrs. Superhero on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503121 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 12:05:56 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 503121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ours are 23 months, we wanted a 2-3 year gap and got pregnant the week we started trying. I think close together is more work at the beginning, but it also gets you through the baby stage quicker. I like that they will enjoy things at the same time (ish) as it will make sharing toys and experiences simpler. Anagram on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503115 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 12:04:04 +0000 Anagram 503115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm from a family of 6 kids, and we were very spread apart (same parents, they just weren't into family planning), but I'm still close with my sister who's 6 years younger, my brother who is 22 months older, and my sister who is 8 years older. We're the last 4. The first two are SO much older than me, I'm really not as close to them. So even though one sister was 8 years older and one was 6 years younger, we are still pretty tight! Just for fun, pics of us (I have them on my computer since I did a project for my students with pictures of me growing up). Me with my older sister, and me with my 22 months older brother. [attach=2976/13/mgmkqs.421x600.sisters.JPG] [attach=2976/13/mgmkqu.420x600.siblings2.jpg] [attach=2976/13/mgmkqv.600x420.siblings.jpg] GrapeCrush on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503110 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 12:02:41 +0000 GrapeCrush 503110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We weren't trying for #2 when i got pregnant. DS is 8 months old and i'm almost 10 weeks pregnant. they will be 15 months apart. i'm happy they are going to be close in age. My brothers and i are extremely close in age. i'm the oldest and first brother was born 12 months and 12 days after me and the next brother was born just under 17 months after him. so 29 months between me and my youngest brother. but like @duckduckkristen: i'm really tired since DS isn't STTN and it's much harder to relax this time since i'm chasing a crawling 8 month around all day. but in the end, i wouldn't change it(i say that now! ha) duckduckkristen on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503099 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 11:58:37 +0000 duckduckkristen 503099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We started trying for #2 when #1 was only 5 months old. DS is now 8.5 months and I am 6 weeks pregnant which will make them 16 months apart. I'm excited to have kids so close together, but this first trimester has been rough so far. DS still wakes up once a night, and before I got pregnant it was fine, but now I'm just too exhausted, so I kind of wish we had waited until he was STTN before we started trying. We are going to do some sleep training if he isn't STTN by 9 months, so hopefully I'll get more sleep soon! I'm sure all of this exhaustion will be worth it, but just something to consider. :) I'm also still BFing DS and its a little painful right now, but it does mean I get to stuff my face. Lol. chopsuey on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503091 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 11:55:29 +0000 chopsuey 503091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We didn't plan, but we didnt prevent either. My kids are 21 months apart. So far so good! My only regret is not having potty trained my daughter before my son arrived! Beebug on "How Far Apart, why, and would you do it differently if you had a do over?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-apart-why-and-would-you-do-it-differently-if-you-had-a-do-over#post-503029 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 11:35:44 +0000 Beebug 503029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH and I talked/planned when we'd hope to have #2 a week after LO was born in Oct. I thought we were crazy then, but we've talked about it numerous times since and hope to stick with trying for that timeline! For those of you with more than one already, if you "planned" the timing between LOs, any regrets? Wish you tried sooner? Or waited longer? Why the timing that you chose? For those with LOs around 18 months apart specifically.....how'd it go!? For those with just one, with plans for another, what timing between LOs are you hoping for, and why? For us, I have to go back to work to get 600 hours to "get" another maternity leave and we'd like some buffer time on top of that just in case. Otherwise, we hope to have another soon after that window. For us, awful as it sounds I'd like to get babies "done with" and having a sister 8 years younger than me, and who I had little/nothing in common with, siblings close together is something I never experienced and was always envious of! DH is 8 years older, so him not being an "old Dad" is a factor too. DH said we'll go with two for now, and get them past daycare age and see if we'd like another, but we for now are going to stick with hopes for two. All of this is of course pending no potential issues in conceiving again, here's hoping.