https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 04:45:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2133348 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 14:26:49 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2133348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Plans with our families involve travel so they are generally made several months in advance. If we are just staying home and no one is coming to us then we make local plans a couple weeks ahead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2133301 Sun, 05 Apr 2015 12:05:08 +0000 WinterBee 2133301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: I start asking our families what's happening about 3 weeks in advance, then plans are roughed out usually about a week out. </p> <p>But we have the general understanding we'll be at this house on this day. Our families live about 4 hours a part so there has to be some planning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130445 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 10:51:14 +0000 Mrs. Coral 2130445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: this used to happen to us all the time. Now, we make plans and then tell everyone our plans and ask when they would like to celebrate. </p> <p>Stinks that FIL assumes you're just sitting at home waiting to celebrate with them. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130428 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 10:41:50 +0000 Mama Bird 2130428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like two days before... we just never know if someone will wake up with a cough and a runny nose and all our plans will go out the window. But our families are in the same city so there are no travel plans to make. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130418 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 10:37:22 +0000 daisyfay 2130418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've had a rotation since we we first started dating - one year we do Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas with his, and the next year vice versa. We do our own thing for Easter since there's no time off that goes along with it, and both our families are at least a six-hour trip away (one by car, one by plane). I'm sure one day some other commitment will pop up that will throw our schedule off, but we try to maintain it as strictly as possible to reinforce boundaries (mostly with my mom, who wouldn't be satisfied even with ALL the holidays to herself). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130361 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 10:08:55 +0000 MrsRcCar 2130361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Almost a year out for major holidays. Birthdays usual about 3 months. It takes a lot of coordination on both sides. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130087 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 07:46:23 +0000 cat620 2130087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually make plans at least a month in advance, however my family all live several hours away and DH's family live 10 minutes away. So they assume they get us by default for every single holiday! It's annoying to me, because sometimes I would rather just celebrate at home with my DH and son, but DH feels like since they are so close, we need to stop by for every holiday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130068 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 07:26:38 +0000 looch 2130068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only holiday we are "locked into" is Christmas, we alternate years since our families are on different continents.</p> <p>Other than that, we're pretty flexible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130067 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 07:25:42 +0000 mrscobee 2130067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: this is what my in laws do and it annoys me and DH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130053 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 07:03:09 +0000 ElbieKay 2130053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom had the opposite problem. She tries to lock everything in months in advance. Sometimes I haven't even thought about what I want to do for a particular holiday and she starts demanding an RSVP. She gets so caught up in hosting. I think she feels nostalgic about it but I do not. I like being an adult much more than I liked being a child so I tend to bristle at her attempts to recreate those family moments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130044 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 06:51:26 +0000 youboots 2130044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At least a month. But honestly, we check in with both sets of parents to see what they were thinking of doing. We also often get together with both sides since my sister lives a plane ride away my parents just come to wherever we are, and my IL love having them if they are hosting. Recently we have been hosting a lot since our house is big enough to host 15-20 and I like to cook. We also have a few sets of friends that we always invite. The more the merrier in my little corner of the world. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2130016 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 06:02:02 +0000 Adira 2130016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on the holiday, but usually at LEAST a month in advance!</p> <p>My parents actually just invited us over for Easter too, but we already have plans with my in-laws and I know my parents are just doing a last minute low-key thing, so they don't really care that we can't make it.</p> <p>I'm pretty stubborn about stuff like this - when people invite me to things last minute and I already have plans, I don't change my plans. If those people really want me there, then they need to make plans with me earlier. This happened a bunch with my in-laws. They used to invite us to things last minute and then were pretty upset that we were always turning them down. So now they make plans with us in advance, and whenever they do, I try to be SUPER accommodating with them so that they know it's worth it to make plans in advance. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129994 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 05:20:24 +0000 ValentineMommy 2129994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's really annoying, and I know from experience, because my IL's do that too.</p> <p>We plan a good 3-4 weeks ahead and we only live 5 minutes from both families. We've tried for years to coordinate so we could see both sides of the family, but the IL's side makes plans very last minute, and typically because they do this, the plans always interfere with our other plans. They've definitely taken offense to this, no matter how far in advance we've asked them about holidays.</p> <p>We're at the point where we just don't see them because they don't make enough of an effort to make plans in advance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129985 Thu, 02 Apr 2015 04:17:04 +0000 lamariniere 2129985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually fairly far in advance since none of our families live in the same countries! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129714 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:59:39 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2129714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Years. We alternate countries for holidays so plans are made well in advance.<br /> MIL doesn't get this and gets butthurt when we don't spend Christmas with her on my family's year. And then skips her turn to go to tennis camp. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129711 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:51:45 +0000 lady baltimore 2129711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both sides of the family have a pretty regular rotation on the holidays, so we don't usually have to plan for them. If we were going to switch up something major (e.g. changing who is hosting, switching from brunch to dinner), we'd likely at least talk about that *this* Easter, in preparation for *next* Easter. </p> <p>DH and I try to decide which side of the family we are spending a holiday with at least six weeks-two months in advance, so that we can take time off work or book flights as necessary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129707 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:45:07 +0000 Mommy Finger 2129707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family is mostly local and DH's family doesn't really celebrate a lot of holidays since my MIL passed. So our holidays are pretty set in stone in that the majority of them are at my grandmother's house. The only thing that might change in the future is the location when she feels like she can't handle hosting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129703 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:42:33 +0000 babycanuck 2129703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually get them sorted 2 months out - just figuring out who's hosting what night, but that's it. DH's family is "I'll call Monday for you to come Friday" people and it drives me batty.</p> <p>(I'm not saying they need to sort it out 2 months out, but a couple of weeks notice would be nice) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129698 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:41:04 +0000 mrscobee 2129698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We plan at least a few weeks in advance, but it irritates me so much when my in laws get mad at me for not wanting to plan Christmas like 7 months in advance! Sorry, not thinking about Christmas in July!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129690 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:28:14 +0000 FaithFertility 2129690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends my mother wants to know holidays months in advance where MIL is like days before :silly:<br /> So now though that we have DD we make the rules/plans...lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129668 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:06:32 +0000 HabesBabe 2129668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Ditto-- we are local (less than 20 minutes) from both sides of the family, so we don't need to plan in advance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129666 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 16:05:00 +0000 birdofafeather 2129666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Minor holidays can be a couple weeks to week of. Major holidays are months before.... My MIL already said she's hosting Christmas Eve this year.... So yeah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129645 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 15:46:45 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2129645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so annoying. We don't normally plan in advance, just cause family's so close. This weekend we have plans Sunday to go to my parents house, and I'd been meaning to invite my MIL. She lives alone and we try to make an effort to include her as much as possible, even though it's a pain since she doesn't drive outside of her neighborhood. I hadn't got around to calling her and then my partner mentioned it to her, and I think she felt like I didn't really want her to come since I didn't ask her. I invited her yesterday and she said wasn't sure and didn't want us going out of the way. Then she invited us over to a Greek feast cooked by her neighbors boyfriend Saturday!</p> <p>So now I feel like we obligated to spend our whole weekend having Easter meals. I don't mean to sound like a brat but it's kind of a pain when we look forward to some quiet family time just us 3 all week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129643 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 15:46:37 +0000 blackbird 2129643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Months? Easter lands on Easter.....so we celebrate on Easter. </p> <p>Kids birthdays have sometimes been told to me with 2 weeks notice. And my calendar is often planned at least that far in advance, so sorry, I often can't make stuff. </p> <p>If FIL was hoping for an Easter celebration, he should've brought it up a few weeks ago. Not &lt; 1 week in advance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129639 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 15:43:55 +0000 autumnlove 2129639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very last minute when we spend holidays with local family. Days before! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129636 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 15:40:47 +0000 Peasinapod 2129636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family is big on planning at least 2 weeks ahead of time. Husbands family usually the week before. As a result they rarely get us on the actual day of the holiday! But they don't seem to mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129635 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 15:38:46 +0000 avivoca 2129635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, for Easter, I decided yesterday what I wanted to do, but normally we decide at least a month in advance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129632 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 15:36:09 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2129632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We make plans way in advance because we live 3+ hours from family. </p> <p>Recently my IL's invited us to a surprise birthday party for my MIL that was the NEXT WEEKEND. We have to rent a car or get train tickets to go to their house. And then they got butthurt when we said no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-in-advance-do-you-make-plans-for-the-holidays#post-2129625 Wed, 01 Apr 2015 15:27:42 +0000 coopsmama 2129625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just wondering how far in advance you plan ahead. We told my grandma a month ago we'd spend Easter with her at her home and today received a text from FIL asking if we could come on Sunday. DH told him we had plans and he asked about Saturday and DH told him he was taking me on a shopping trip date he had been promising for weeks and asking if they were free at all any other day this week.</p> <p>FIL replied ":-/ We were hoping for an Easter celebration, I don't know what to say."</p> <p>It really peeved both DH and I off but we've rearranged our plans to be there Saturday. </p> <p>How far in advance do you plan for holidays? Do you have a rotating schedule or do you celebrate at home by yourself? (Obviously this question includes holidays outside of Easter as I know some don't celebrate it... :happy: ) </p>