https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 10 Jun 2026 09:36:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-795778 Mon, 20 May 2013 13:53:57 +0000 bamblm 795778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: That's not an issue for us. No one lives within an hour or two, all parents and siblings live in a variety of different directions, and GP's are talking about moving various cheaper places for retirement also. Basically everyone would have to travel to visit anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-795710 Mon, 20 May 2013 13:30:24 +0000 heffalump 795710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it just depends on what your priorities are. DH and I feel that it's important for LO to be close to family, so we would never just pick up and move. I'd rather sacrifice other things to be here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-795681 Mon, 20 May 2013 13:20:54 +0000 bamblm 795681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the input, everyone! I guess I have a fear of the unknown. I've only lived where I grew up (20+ yrs), and where i am now (last 10 yrs). Also overwhelming, is that if we are going to pick up and move, we might as well go all in and just find a place that has everything we both want, even if it is someplace unknown.</p> <p>On a better note, SO has been googling houses in a couple of areas in Colorado, Virginia, North Carolina, Georgia. We can afford such a nice house if we move! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-795410 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:01:49 +0000 LovelyPlum 795410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think about this a lot. We are pretty much on the same page, but I have no idea where that means we will end up. I will be applying to teach at university, and that job market is not so hot right now. For a while, we will likely go wherever I find work. </p> <p>We love open space, but we're not suburbs people. If possible, I thin we would like to try to find a walkable community where we can have a small yard and lots of parks. That is what we have now, and we love it. Like I said, though, this won't be an issue for a while, so for now, we will go with the flow :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-795291 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:23:52 +0000 wheres_c 795291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are planning to pick up and move out of state so that we can have this for our LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-795063 Mon, 20 May 2013 10:11:30 +0000 Foodnerd81 795063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You sound like DH and I-- I want to eventually move slightly out of the city so we can have a real house, but I'd have a small yard and a smaller house in exchange for a short commute for DH and the ability to walk to lots of things. DH feels like once we leave the city, he wants a big house on a big piece of land, which would mean an hour long commute or more for him. And we haven't even looked into school systems!</p> <p>I don't know if we would take the initiative to pick up and move just for the 'childhood experience', but we would if it was for the right job offer for DH and it was someplace that had everything we want for our kids. We already live pretty far from both our families. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-795023 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:59:08 +0000 looch 795023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Anything is possible if you have the right mindset. Both my husband and I have relocated internationally, so to me, a state to state move is somewhat less traumatic, because you've got things like knowing the language and customs on your side. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-795000 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:50:27 +0000 regberadaisy 795000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We struggled with this. I'm from NYC and DH is from a smaller city Upstate. We struggled with where to settle down and raise a family. On the one hand I want our children to have the big city exposure. It might sound silly but I don't want our kids to ride the subway for the first time as a teen! But DH grew up with undeveloped land behind his childhood home. So his memories are building forts, playing till the streetlights went off. That's the kind of childhood we wanted to give our kids. So we chose to settle down in Upstate NY.<br /> When it came time to look for our forever home we were once again torn on what kind of home. Did we want to live near the city where the homes are older and full of character and charm? Walking distance to shops. But TINY yards? And the school districts are less than stellar. Basically to get a good education you either get into a G&amp;T program or private. Ultimately we decided suburbs bc we want our kids to have a big backyard, a playset, a tree house etc etc. That's the kind of childhood we wanted our kids to have. To us it's worth it.</p> <p>The "city" near by is just 15 minutes away and NYC is just 6hrs away and we go back frequently to visit my family. So she gets the awesome childhood we want for her and the exposure of the big city..</p> <p>At this point our life is about her and future kids, not us.</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Yes! We wanted our home to be the revolving door between all their friends. I'd much rather all their friends hand at our home than their homes. I don't trust other parents. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-794997 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:49:35 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 794997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of what we chose was for our vision of our children's future. We wanted our home to be the center of their social life and did everything we could to make that happen. (Backyard pool, lots of amenities). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-choosing-los-childhood-home#post-794983 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:43:56 +0000 bamblm 794983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Currently we live in the city. Our neighborhood is close to downtown, very walkable and convenient, but very suited toward couples with no children, and terrible schools. Our LO is six months, and our plan was always to move to a better school district within the next three or four years. </p> <p>We both want to give LO a little bit of our own childhood experience. I grew up in a smallish city in the south, SO grew up in a rural area. He wants 1-2 acres of land, and not to move to a subdivision of McMasions with houses on top of each other. I do not want a commute longer than 20-40 minutes, and I'd still like to be able to walk places, and not drive 30 minutes for the closest stores, and have some exposure to events and a variety of experiences not always available in suburbia. </p> <p>We can't afford what we both want in our area, one or both of us would have to sacrifice something. We could if we moved somewhere completely different, meaning far enough that we'd be changing jobs, have to find new local friends, possibly changing states.</p> <p>Is it crazy to start a whole new life? It just seems to me that those type of changes normally come when you have to move for a job or school, not just to create the childhood you envisioned for your LO. </p>