https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 00:01:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-6410 Wed, 26 Oct 2011 18:35:31 +0000 twinmama 6410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are there links between fertility drugs and breast cancer? From the risks I've researched, it's typically ovarian cancer that is tied to fertility drugs. But even so, it's hard to distinguish whether the link is due to the cause of infertility or becoming pregnant later in life, or if it's really due to the drugs. With that said, part of the reason we've chosen to do IVF sooner rather than later is to limit my time on fertility drugs. So I will be doing one intense stint of drugs with much better odds, rather than more month after month after month of drugs with less of a chance.</p> <p>And as others have said, until you're going through infertility, I fully believe impossible to say what you will and won't do, for certain. Our opinions have changed so much over the last 2 years, and while going through the process you inevitably learn new facts about your situation, or your life situation changes. And part of it, is that the more you're immersed in infertility as part of your life, the more you (hopefully) learn about the medication and procedures, and the more comfortable you may feel with them.</p> <p>However, I will say that it's easy to get tunnel vision in (in)fertility land. It's hard not to let ttc take over your life, and imagine having the unlimited financial resources of a celebrity to pursue treatments! </p> <p>I wish her all the best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4549 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 16:19:08 +0000 filly 4549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is tough and I truly believe that one may never really know her answer until put in the very position. My husband and I are not able to conceive naturally, not bc we can't, but bc we choose not to. My mother is currently suffering from advanced stages of a terminally ill disease that is dominant. As a result my husband and I will be undergoing PGD / IVF. I am learning more and more that this is not a route many woman would choose - it is the route we have chosen. Point is - until we're put in the very position we may never know the journey we'd take to have a child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4527 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 15:28:30 +0000 bakingAbug 4527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. She really is dedicated to becoming a biological mother. As she said on TV this morning, there was a reason for the previous miscarriages and this child, whom she hopes to conceive after treatment, will have saved her life. It's quite touching. At the very least she is lucky enough to have the financial means to have great medical care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4524 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 15:13:21 +0000 sunshine27 4524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly don't know what I would do if I was in that situation. I know some people who would do anything possible to have a baby because they want one that bad. I think looking into surrogacy or adoption would be what I would do but you never know. The desire to carry the baby myself might just outweigh the other options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4521 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 15:08:35 +0000 Andrea 4521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like she shouldn't be endangering her own health in order to try and conceive but having seen her show ... I know how much she wants to have her own biological children. I have been hoping to hear good news that she is pregnant ... only to find out about this news instead. I have faith that she will beat the cancer and we will have some good news about it soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4488 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 13:20:55 +0000 mommacommaphd 4488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's really hard to predict what you'll do before your in that situation. My best friend is an otherwise rational person and all that rationality flew out the window once she and her hubby had started TTC.</p> <p>They knew they'd have trouble and need help TTC, but decided against injectibles because of the risk of multiples (she'd be high risk with a singleton anyway, multiples would make that even more high risk).</p> <p>When Clomid didn't work, they moved right onto injectibles- with rationales and explanations about why she'd change her mind.</p> <p>Now she's pregnant, with TWINS, very high risk, financially strapped due to cost and the likelihood that she'll wind up on extended bed rest, etc.</p> <p>The desire to have a baby makes many women/couples move outside the bounds of what they would consider before TTC.</p> <p>I'd like to say that in that kind of situation I wouldn't pursue IVF, but seeing my friend's experience, I don't think I can predict.</p> <p>My heard breaks for Guiliana and Bill. WHen I hear the news, I just thought, "What else will this woman have to go through?!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4483 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 12:48:15 +0000 looch 4483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will turn 37 next summer, so I can relate on a lot of levels. First, I waited for a long time to start the TTC process. We were lucky and got pregnant during our first try but my doctor warned me at my annual at age 34 that I shouldn't wait much longer. I was convinced we were going to have issues, but we didn't. If we were not successful, we probably wouldn't have tried much more than a few rounds of Clomid.<br /> If I were faced with something like cancer, I'd probably look into adoption or we would remain childless. It's so hard, though, to say without having experienced it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4475 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 12:25:19 +0000 tequiero21 4475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with bakingabug. i'm all for ivf, esp since i've done it myself. but after 2 (or more?) failed attempts AND having cancer, i think she should go on the surrogate route. only difference is she wouldn't be carrying it, but it'll be her child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4471 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 12:15:24 +0000 bakingAbug 4471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Dad has a saying that you need to "do what you can afford" to live with. I'm not sure if I would continue with the IVF myself but perhaps look into surrogacy if I was in her situation since money doesn't seem to be too much of an issue. </p> <p>I can appreciate wanting to carry the baby myself but I want to be a mother regardless of how my child ends up in my arms. I do wish her the best though. To be diagnosed so young and to continue with potentially risky treatments is a testament to how badly she wants to be pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-far-would-you-go-to-conceive#post-4461 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 11:32:15 +0000 mizu06 4461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I woke up this morning and found our Giuliana Rancic has breast cancer. As many of you know, she's had a very public journey towards getting pregnant with a couple of failed attempts at conceiving via IVF.</p> <p>Regardless of our personal feelings towards her as a TV personality, she apparently found out while prepping for their 3rd round of IVF. In her interview this morning where she disclosed her breast cancer, she said she absolutely still wants that baby, and once the cancer is cleared, they would try again. </p> <p>Given there are links to fertility treatments and the acceleration of pre-existing cancer in some individuals, some are shocked she would consider pumping more hormones into her body, or getting pregnant.</p> <p>Just curious to get people's thoughts on this matter. If you were in this situation, how far would you go to get pregnant? What are your beliefs (medically, in general) and where would you draw the line, if at all? </p>