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Hellobee Boards Topic: How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 08:35:37 +0000 jhd on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821863 Thu, 10 May 2018 21:20:07 +0000 jhd 2821863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @nana87: congrats!!! That is a huge accomplishment! ❤️ Anagram on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821855 Thu, 10 May 2018 20:38:45 +0000 Anagram 2821855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My family growing up was very low key about all holidays and luckily for me, DH grew up similarly. We always just call/FaceTime our moms and nothing more. I don't like brunch on Mother's Day because of the crowds and special, more expensive and usually worse-service menus. I think last year, we took a nice bike ride as a family along the river front. This year, I bookmarked a "family mindfulness" event that's is happening at a local museum on Mother's Day, and that is right up my alley, but I would only be able to take my oldest so we'll see if that pans out. I basically want to sleep in and have DH make me brekkie and then have a nice family day with the kids. nana87 on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821843 Thu, 10 May 2018 18:21:34 +0000 nana87 2821843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @808love: thanks!! MrsSCB on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821764 Thu, 10 May 2018 13:15:32 +0000 MrsSCB 2821764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mother's Day when six months pregnant: my husband made me cupcakes, which I thought was really sweet. First mother's day with a child (last year): went out to brunch. And my sister (who does not have kids) sent me a gift, I was really touched by that. Mother's day this year: I'm now living close to my family again. My sister and I set up a brunch for my mom on Saturday, because she prefers that to going out on the actual day. Then my mom, sister and I, plus my son, are going to a tea for moms and children at my parents' church later that day. On Sunday just me, my husband, and my son are going out for a meal. Can you tell we all like to eat? hahaha Littlebit7 on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821759 Thu, 10 May 2018 12:54:20 +0000 Littlebit7 2821759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @erinbaderin: omg thr tulip visual made me laugh out loud. We have psycho cats and a version of this scene involving lots of different mediums has occurred multiple times in our house I honestly don’t remember many mothers days. I felt badly last year; it fell on DHs birthday. But generally (and for all gifting holidays) I’m getting on board with telling DH exactly what gift I want that will bring me joy. Sounds corny but it’s true. Gifting really is my love language so getting something I’d really like from someone who isn’t good at gifting.... that’s just how it has to be. :) 808love on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821701 Thu, 10 May 2018 10:40:35 +0000 808love 2821701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @nana87: That would be awesome to walk with LO. Congrats on a challenging accomplishment! nana87 on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821633 Thu, 10 May 2018 08:17:47 +0000 nana87 2821633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This year will be the most special because I'm also graduating from my phd program! That definitely supersedes mothers' day, but it makes graduation all the more special because I get to celebrate how I made two little people AND wrote a dissertation all at the same time :heart: I think lo1 will walk across the stage with me! KT326 on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821512 Wed, 09 May 2018 15:14:11 +0000 KT326 2821512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My first Mother's day DH was out of town on a guy's weekend and I was home with a 1.5 month old! He sent me flowers though. After that, we started going to a baseball game (we have a minor league team in our city) and it ended up becoming a tradition. This will be our 6th year in a row. I love baseball so it works for me. After the game the Mom's get to run (or walk) the bases with their kids. I'm looking forward to running the bases with my 17 month old. It will be his first time out there with me. Mommy Finger on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821461 Wed, 09 May 2018 13:13:56 +0000 Mommy Finger 2821461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't really put much stock into it. I love the gifts that my kids make me at school but don't expect anything from DH. My mom lives pretty close so I'll try to go see her and maybe join them for dinner at my grandma's. Honestly, the biggest thing about the day is that I can decree that I'm not changing any diapers. :) catlady on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821355 Wed, 09 May 2018 09:38:43 +0000 catlady 2821355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mother's Day is kind of hard for me because my own mother died before I had kids. We always see my MIL, which is fine b/c I love her, but it always reminds me of the fact that I can never see my own mom again. I've had 4 Mother's Days since LO1 was born and we've mostly just had the typical brunch either at a restaurant or at my MIL's house. I think a couple of those were also with SIL and her family. They've basically been pretty forgettable. This year, we are trying something new. My kids are now 4 and 18 months but my younger one has a feeding delay so meals are really stressful for us in general and I just don't want to do a brunch. We decided instead that DH will bring the kids down to his mom's house and spend the day there, and I will get a day off for myself. I am really looking forward to this and hope it can be a new tradition. snowjewelz on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821334 Wed, 09 May 2018 08:50:17 +0000 snowjewelz 2821334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Honestly it hasn't changed that much. It's still more about my mom than it is about me, which I'm fine with! If anything, after becoming a mom, I have so much more appreciation for her! We actually didn't even get together last year, and don't plan to this year. She already sees the girls daily so the best appreciation is to leave her alone :silly: peachykeen on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821328 Wed, 09 May 2018 08:26:59 +0000 peachykeen 2821328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Growing up we used to take my mom, godmother, and grandma out for brunch after church and then we'd often go back to our house to spend the day together and the moms would open a few gifts. We'd usually have a nice early dinner and dessert. We did similar things for father's day with my dad and grandpa. Year 0 - I was 5 months pregnant with DD1 and felt a little weird about the day because I was in limbo. We didn't do much to celebrate but I did get a couple mom-to-be cards from my mom, godmother, and sister. I didn't know it yet, but this was my last mother's day with my mom (though not physically with her because we live in different states) before she passed away :heart: Year 1 - I had expectations and apparently did not voice them to DH well enough. I had to get up early with the baby while DH slept in, and he had made no plans for brunch or have anything special planned. Apparently he was waiting for me to tell him what to do :bummed: Year 2 - I honestly don't remember this year very much. My mom had passed away 2 months before and I know I was very sensitive on the day. I think we went to brunch after church and passed the day quietly as a family. Year 3 - I was 6 months pregnant with DD2 (a rainbow baby). DH was prepared this year and ordered me a beautiful necklace from DD1. He offered to take us to brunch but I wanted to keep this quiet. I dictated the day's activities and I think we mainly just played outside and didn't do much. This year I instructed DH early on that I don't want him to do anything, mainly because I'm so busy with 2 girls that I don't want to have to do anything for father's day :wink: (he could care less about gifts and such) It would be sweet if 3.5yo DD1 acknowledged the day on her own and if DD2 said mama again (she's apparently forgotten this word) but I have no real expectations about either of those things! 2littlepumpkins on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821311 Wed, 09 May 2018 07:13:12 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2821311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't make a big deal out of mothers days except for our moms. When I was pregnant dh bought me flowers and that was exciting, unexpected, and sweet. The next year when we actually had a baby he worked all day (by which I mean overtime into the night) and ordered me something which fell through but didn't even bring it up, which I wasn't super happy about because on my end it seemed he totally forgot, but then I also had PPD/A and was pretty much feeling undeserving of any celebrating anyway. We went out to lunch a few days later. The year after that I got a thoughtful gift but was in the ER. The following year I got jewelry if I have it all straight in my head. The year after that I got flowers. Last year I think I got flowers too but I can't remember if we did anything else because we were also buying our house around then and I was first trimester pregnant and very nauseous and not wanting to do anything! This year I will be out of town and I know dh hasn't done anything but whatever because between all the birthdays in may/June, Mother's Day, Father's Day and our anniversary, I am so busy I don't mind.. there will also be a celebration at my oldest kiddos school. bloved on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821310 Wed, 09 May 2018 07:00:25 +0000 bloved 2821310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @bhbee: same! Year 0 and 1 were all about me. Now that we are on year 4, I know my husband has not gotten a gift yet and we are back to going to my in-laws to celebrate! Not a huge deal bc I am not super big into the holiday, but I did note with amusement how it has changed. Mrs. Lemon-Lime on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821305 Wed, 09 May 2018 06:22:55 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2821305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Year 0- my LO was barely a month old. I took my mom to brunch at my favorite beach brunch spot. She told me I wasn’t happy and needed to find my happy and DH should pitch in more. :shocked: Excuse me for being honest when asked how I am doing that the newborn days were rough and the restrictions from having a cesearean were annoying AF. Year 1- had lunch with DH and LO. We went to a fancy seafood restaurant with a dress code, which is just what I thought we should do on Mother’s Day. We took a picture of the three of us after we ate and all of LO’s patience was over. :silly: I love that photo though. Year 2: I’m hoping the day slips DH’s mind because he has a habit of sending large bouquet of uninspiring flowers. I ordered a kite for LO and would love just to take his frisbee, ball and kite to the park and have a picnic lunch. This year though I realize more than ever how a mother’s child will always be a baby in her eyes and I sent the grandmas a small gift to let them know their first babies still care. ElbieKay on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821304 Wed, 09 May 2018 06:05:47 +0000 ElbieKay 2821304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My first year as a mom, when my son was about 2mo, my mother guilt-invited us over for lunch and then invited this random friend of her -- who I dislike -- without checking with me first. For the next two years I made brunch reservations for our family, my sister, and our parents. My MIL did not especially like coming to us on Mother's Day, nor did she like that it was just brunch and not a more extended visit. Last year my MIL basically took over Mother's Day and my husband did nothing to stop it. She had just had major surgery, but I had just had my third miscarriage (which my she did not know about). I was really hurt by my husband decision to passively ignore me to pacify his mother. This year his mom asked him to spend the day at her house doing chores. I told him that he has to arrange something that works for all three moms. Since I am ending my second trimester with twins and also annoyed about last year, I am not spending any time planning anything. As far as I know he has made zero progress so we may not be doing anything at all. That is still better than spending the day camping out at my MIL's, so whatever. Hallmark holidays make me grumpy! Mama Bird on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821266 Tue, 08 May 2018 20:48:32 +0000 Mama Bird 2821266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I used to kind of not care because I grew up with different holidays and this wasn't even on my radar. Then it was a small blip because DH started to get me flowers once we had kids. Now it's a huge big deal because the kids are old enough to have shows/school events going on, and that means that if I'm lucky, I get to take a day off to be with them. lamariniere on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821260 Tue, 08 May 2018 20:40:01 +0000 lamariniere 2821260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We don't really do holidays, so it's just another day. Also, between our two cultures and the local culture, we never know which mother's day to celebrate, so we don't :silly: . (Same for father's day). Usually the kids make something at school, and that's about it. I actually loved my gift from DS last year, it was a little booklet that he illustrated and wrote in. I saved that. :heart: wrkbrk on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821243 Tue, 08 May 2018 19:59:02 +0000 wrkbrk 2821243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Gosh I don’t even really remember. Bad! Haha. 0 - I was pregnant. Visited in-laws in Atlanta but we shopped for DS’s crib bedding so it was fun! 1 - DS was six months; visited in-laws and flew back on the day of. But DW got me a gorgeous DY necklace with our son’s initial! 2 - Went out for brunch I think? This year - Hosting dinner for my mom but going out for cocktails a couple of days after! 808love on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821240 Tue, 08 May 2018 19:55:30 +0000 808love 2821240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Almost every year, we go camping where food/activities are provided. DH sets up the tent, carries gear and is at my beck and call. If not, we go to my aunt's/cousins' house and we spend quality family time. This year DD and I are going horseback riding and I'll see my cousins on Memorial Day. bhbee on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821234 Tue, 08 May 2018 19:39:25 +0000 bhbee 2821234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I feel like it was most special the first few years. Not that it isn’t now but everything is just more crazy :silly: although having a kid who can read and write now makes for special cards! I have two January babies so in both cases I think I got that sticky bfp by mother’s day - so while I was still worried about more losses then it is a special memory now. Last year I had a d&c about a month or so before which was little wistful ... what could have been. This year I’ll be 6m pregnant so I really just want to sleep but my MIL is visiting so I’ll be cooking! erinbaderin on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821228 Tue, 08 May 2018 18:59:32 +0000 erinbaderin 2821228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My most miserable one was a few days after what would have been my due date for a pregnancy I lost at six weeks. I remember being in church and the minister talked about thinking about women who had lost their children and women who wanted to be mothers but weren’t able to be, and I cried. The next mother’s day I was halfway through the 2ww for an IVF cycle that ended up working. My first actual mother’s day was a letdown, my husband planned nothing and as a gift gave me a bunch of “coupons” for “time off” that I never actually used. The next year my husband bought me tulips, which I loved, except we had a cat who chewed all their heads off. I shut them in a bathroom and the cat threw herself against the door so hard it opened and when we came home that afternoon it was tulip carnage. Last year I finally got smart, told my husband what I wanted, made us brunch reservations, and we had a great day. This year I’ve done the same thing. crazydoglady on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821222 Tue, 08 May 2018 18:51:14 +0000 crazydoglady 2821222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mothers day 0: I was still pregnant and went to a special mothers day MLB game Mothers day 1: Did not turn out so well. All I wanted was to go to brunch, but my MIL wanted to go to the same game and it conflicted. I ended up crying in the bathroom because my first mothers day was a letdown. Mothers day 2: got a massage and went to an amazing brunch. DH wanted to make up my first mothers day to me. This year: brunch, nap, and day spa in a couple weeks! DesertDreams88 on "How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-mothers-day-changed-for-you-over-the-years#post-2821220 Tue, 08 May 2018 18:45:44 +0000 DesertDreams88 2821220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't really have any clear memories of Mother's Day traditions growing up, so I'll skip that. Year 0: After 10 months of TTC, a loss, and fertility issued diagnosed on both sides in April - in May I found out I was pregnant, and my super-squinter test turned clearly positive on Mother's Day weekend. Year 1: I really have no idea what we did to celebrate. LO1 was 4 months, I had just returned to work, etc etc. Year 2: I had clear ideas what I wanted for the day. I want DH to buy and wear a helmet when bike riding, and for him to babyproof our bedroom & master closet. On the day of, we got cronuts from a specialty donut shop and took toddler LO1 to a unique park nearby. Then we went shopping for succuluent garden supplies but I decided to not go through with is. Year 3: No idea what I want or want to do. I did order 12 dresses from Amazon that I think will allow easy nursing access but also hide my postpartum tummy.... I plan to try them all on and keep maybe 4? maybe more? I also am toying with the idea of just disappearing into the bedroom for the day and having DH take care of LO1 (28 months) and LO2 (3 months) plus all the household chores I normally do. I'd like him to have a bit more appreciation for all that I do around here.... but that's my more cynical side. How has Mother's Day changed for you over the years?