https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 12:28:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-parenthood-affected-your-friendships#post-2829 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 10:44:57 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 2829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We tend to hang around with other couples with kids. It makes it all that easy and majority of the time were in bed by 10. haha. how times have changed.</p> <p>My single friends still come over, but not as much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-parenthood-affected-your-friendships#post-2792 Fri, 07 Oct 2011 00:56:58 +0000 Mrs. Schoolbus 2792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I married later that most of my friends and we're trying for our first right now. Most of hubby's friends are single or dating/not married while most of my friends are married with 1 or 2 kids. I'm not really invited to most of my friends' events because they are baby birthdays, play dates, etc... I think it's a combo of us not having kids and them thinking that we don't really want to go to these events that we don't get invited. I also have a set of friends who are single or newly married/not wanting kids right now so I always feel like I don't belong in either group. Hubby's friends invite us to stuff but they like to hang out late which I don't like to do... Strange how life works sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-parenthood-affected-your-friendships#post-2761 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 20:15:40 +0000 Rubies 2761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have two circles of friends. In one circle, we were the last to get married. In the other circle, we are the first to get married. In both cases, we are the first to have a baby and it has affected our friendships drastically. Some of my friends have stopped asking us out knowing we can't...Some don't know how to talk to us anymore...It's sad and I feel lonely a lot of the time because I want nothing more than to go back to the way it was before the baby but I know it isn't possible. I suppose change was inevitable and with time all will be better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-parenthood-affected-your-friendships#post-2697 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 16:13:13 +0000 PBandBaseball 2697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have kids yet but I think that most of our friends will still invite us to whatever they're doing. Most of our current activites would be kid friendly so I'm hoping that it won't be an issue. Like @tequiero21 we have some friends who have children and I think they assume that we aren't interested in doing child focused stuff. So, I'm hoping that we actually gain invites. Fingers crossed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-parenthood-affected-your-friendships#post-2694 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 16:07:50 +0000 tequiero21 2694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we don't have kids yet but we're actually in the opposite boat. most of the people we know already have at least 1 (some have 2, 3) kids and we've been trying so long. lots of their activities are kid-related so we don't really get invited to those. i'm hoping to even the playing field when my twins arrive lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-parenthood-affected-your-friendships#post-2690 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 15:58:23 +0000 Adira 2690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I haven't had children yet, but my best friend has, and I know it's affected her relationship with her friends.</p> <p>With some of her friends, like me and a couple others, I think it's actually brought us all closer. She was the first to have children, and those of us that WANT children just wanted to be around her and her child! Plus we wanted to know EVERYTHING about being pregnant, going into labor, raising a child, etc. I think she feels super closer to us now and can't wait for US to have kids so we'll have even more in common!</p> <p>But with some of her friends who don't want children, I know it put a barrier between them. They weren't understanding of why should couldn't go and party with them. They didn't know why she wanted to bring her daughter over when she was invited over. They just weren't kid-people and didn't want to be around her kid, which certainly made her not want to be around them!</p> <p>I feel like, for her, it separated her friends into the likes-kids/wants-kids category and the doesn't-like-kids/doesn't-want-kids category. It became just easier to hang out with her likes-kids friends than her doesn't-like-kids friends because she could bring her daughter with her and her likes-kids friends didn't mind and even WANTED her to bring her child.</p> <p>Is that how it's been for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-parenthood-affected-your-friendships#post-2689 Thu, 06 Oct 2011 15:41:22 +0000 anewme 2689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For a long time I was the only one that was married with my group of friends, than I became pregnant when most of my closest friends were still finding themselves at bars and parties. Finally some of them are catching up but parenthood has definitely had an impact on the relationships I've had with some of the closest friends in my life. Some have come to love my child like she is their own and some seem like they want nothing to do with her and I now. I guess it's very hard for people who aren't parents and dont have children to wrap their heads around the change. </p> <p>Just curious to know how has your friendships changed after being a parent? </p>