https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 05 Aug 2026 03:52:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-your-so-changed-after-baby#post-1928795 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 10:59:10 +0000 looch 1928795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He didn't change at all, and I think that's actually a good thing. He was and is a family man. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-your-so-changed-after-baby#post-1928787 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 10:56:06 +0000 stiletto_mom 1928787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for sharing your experiences.</p> <p>I only ask because I am super curious as how it would change/not change my husband. It's very hard to picture because I feel like he would be very different than how he is with our nephew and godkids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-your-so-changed-after-baby#post-1927403 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 14:42:23 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1927403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's basically the same as he's always been.<br /> positive changes are that he's kinder, more thoughtful &amp; more sacrificial of his time (Pre-LO if he was tired after work there was no way you could get him off the couch. Now he helps me &amp; plays with LO)<br /> Initially though, he was the exact same unhelpful whiny all about him bump on a log he always was. It has only been within the past 2 months or so that he seems to really enjoy the stage LO is in &amp; makes a huge effort to really be truly involved with us &amp; helpful. He's a great dad &amp; has been the entire time. I think some of the changes are just due to use being together longer. We had only been living together for a year when LO was born &amp; we got married a month after she came so I feel that some of these adjustments would have happened for us seven without LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-your-so-changed-after-baby#post-1927380 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 14:27:50 +0000 sarac 1927380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband was always eager to have children, though he didn't feel the real urgency that I did. As soon as our daughter was born, though, that was it. He just grew so much. Being a father has really completed his identity, and he is just an even more amazing person for it. He'd happily have ten children if we could. </p> <p>Negatives revolved mostly around learning to get all of our needs met with reduced time to do so. That's about it, though it is a big and ongoing thing. Our relationship is in the greatest place that it ever has been - life is just so good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-your-so-changed-after-baby#post-1927123 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 11:48:53 +0000 edelweiss 1927123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my husband is more appreciative of me and all that i do, particularly now since my responsibilities involve LO. </p> <p>i was also worried about the impact having kids would have on our relationship, and definitely during the first few months there was some resentment, but in the long run i feel like we are more of a team. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-your-so-changed-after-baby#post-1927045 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 10:55:17 +0000 LBee 1927045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I tried to answer your questions like you listed them, but things aren't that cut and dry. My husband hasn't really changed at all - he's still an incredibly kind, loving, and hard working man - but our relationship has evolved. We have a lot more responsibilities and have to figure out how to share those and remain sane. </p> <p>Prior to having our son, I thought having a kid would ruin our marriage. It was my main anxiety during pregnancy. I saw it happen with so many of my friends and those who having a child negatively impacted were fairly vocal about it. While our marriage has changed, we have both adapted and are just constantly trying to be the best version of our selves - for each other and our son. For instance, he washed my pump parts this morning because he knew I was up at 2 AM with our son feeding him. I didn't ask him to, he just did. I would say the biggest way we've "changed" is that we both try to be a little more cognizant of each other. It's not just us anymore. We still frustrate each other, but we make a huge effort to say "thank you" a lot and acknowledge feelings. </p> <p>As an aside, I expected that having a baby wouldn't change any of his (or my) negatives / positives in the marriage. I figured it would exacerbate them. </p> <p>I don't know if this helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-has-your-so-changed-after-baby#post-1926674 Sun, 02 Nov 2014 23:55:02 +0000 stiletto_mom 1926674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What was your SO like pre-child(ren) and what is he/she like now?</p> <p>What were some positive changes?</p> <p>What were some negative changes?</p> <p>What didn't change at all?</p> <p>Did you expect these results? </p>