https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 20 Jun 2026 23:24:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-173289 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:38:45 +0000 MsMamaBear 173289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None at all, which he didn't have a choice anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-173287 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:38:02 +0000 hilsy85 173287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw that episode tooo and that guy was SO annoying!!! </p> <p>Dh would prefer me to have a natural birth, I think...that's also my preference, but I'm open to having an epidural if I really can't take it. And he would be supportive of that as well--he trusts me to know my body and what it needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-173277 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:33:02 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 173277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH let me decide. The only thing he probably wouldn't have gone for was a home birth, but that was never on the table anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-173240 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:22:09 +0000 Minnie_Girl 173240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're on the same page about my labor and delivery choices. I definitely made the choices on my own, after doing all the appropriate research and soul searching, and my husband has been completely supportive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-173210 Wed, 30 May 2012 10:11:28 +0000 EloiseKE 173210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my husband ever had an opinion about my chosen birth methods, he's never told me about them. Which is probably a good thing for him &gt;:-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-172090 Tue, 29 May 2012 12:19:27 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 172090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just watched that episode. That husband was obnoxious! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-172030 Tue, 29 May 2012 11:39:38 +0000 MrsBrewer 172030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH doesn't care what so ever. One thing he does feel strongly about is having a hospital birth. One of my very good friends had a home birth, and DH feels strongly against it. I am fine with that, I mean I was there with my friend and it was awesome that she was in her own house, but I totally understand where DH is coming from, and I think I would personally feel safer in a hospital as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-172019 Tue, 29 May 2012 11:34:13 +0000 sandy 172019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: haha...that was me too! I really wanted to go med-free and he was all about it but when I actually went into labor and said I was going to get the epidural he was totally supportive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-171981 Tue, 29 May 2012 11:09:55 +0000 LuLu Mom 171981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH wanted to do whatever it was that I wanted. He was very much "its your body you do whatever you want/need to bring our baby into the world." I don't think I would want him to have a lot of say since it's not him going through the pain. I do like his input, but I want the final decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-171958 Tue, 29 May 2012 10:50:03 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 171958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha... DH could not impose anything or say anything really about labour. Luckily he went with the flow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-171903 Tue, 29 May 2012 10:24:22 +0000 purrpletulips 171903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first time DH was very supportive of my choices and didn't really offer up any alternatives/objections to what I wanted. This time however, he has been more open about suggesting maybe we should look into natural but still plan on what I want. He wants us to be prepared just in case.</p> <p>He did ask if we'd have to sit through the all day class again and I told him only if he wanted to, he does not (doesn't like needles and had to close his eyes for the epidural video). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-171252 Mon, 28 May 2012 18:31:10 +0000 prettylizy 171252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was pretty hands off up until we took our prenatal education classes. He knew I was researching everything at ton and trusted my judgement, but he really became an active partner after learning about natural labor and avoiding interventions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-171250 Mon, 28 May 2012 18:29:52 +0000 PrincessBaby 171250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Oh, Fritz???? My mom and I wanted to strangle him!!!</p> <p>DH and I have not discussed this, but if he pulls a Fritz on me- we're going to have a problem!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-171249 Mon, 28 May 2012 18:26:29 +0000 leelee 171249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has been very supportive. He says that it's my call and that as long as LO and I are healthy he is happy. The only thing we differed on was who we wanted in L&amp;D. He wanted to have our families there and I put my foot down saying that I was not comfortable with having anyone there except him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-171199 Mon, 28 May 2012 17:03:39 +0000 cyndistar3 171199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both wanted the same things but he said either way it was my descision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-171184 Mon, 28 May 2012 16:36:09 +0000 BeachMama 171184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw that episode too and I wanted to kill that guy. The poor wife was clearly just doing it because he wanted her to, and he was so uneducated about the whole thing.</p> <p>My hubby pretty much said that it was my body and my decision. If he had felt strongly about it I would have taken it into consideration, but I really feel that it's my body and I'm the one going through labor so it's my decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170756 Sun, 27 May 2012 21:36:43 +0000 googly-eyes 170756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH ultimately said it's up to me, but doesn't really support the natural birth thing. It's ok because I'm not anti-epidural, but I don't want to get the epidural too early either. Even though he says "just get the epidural" I know he will support me if I"m in pain! I think me being in that much pain sort of freaks him out too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170698 Sun, 27 May 2012 19:47:00 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 170698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He agreed with my choices, but I think he would have let me decide even if he didn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170635 Sun, 27 May 2012 17:20:36 +0000 lavender 170635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He supported whatever I wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170592 Sun, 27 May 2012 16:35:14 +0000 MsMini 170592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me and DH were on the same page, he was happy with whatever I wanted, because he knew I would do whatever necessary to assure our LO's safe arrival, no matter what it meant for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170591 Sun, 27 May 2012 16:33:25 +0000 littleveesmommy 170591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was really supportive and said he'd support whatever I wanted as long as its safe for both baby and I. I pushed hard for natural birth at a birthing center and he only asked that the backup option is available in case I needed it. The birthing center we chose was inside a hospital, which worked out because I ended up needing an emergency c-section. However I think things will be different next time around. He was really scared throughout my 16+hours of labor at the birthing center because they mostly left us alone, which I wanted but he didnt realize that would be the setup. He felt like something could have gone wrong and it was just us. He's already spoken up and said next time, we're doing hospital and regular OB. He said I can still do natural birth but in no way can it be same setting where he is left alone. We also have to factor in that I've had a c-section so need to find a doc that advocates VBAC. We shall see when the time comes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170582 Sun, 27 May 2012 16:11:05 +0000 Mrs. Cat in the Cradle 170582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He would be supportive of any decision I would make. The only input he offered was that he'd feel more comfortable with me giving birth at a hospital and not the local midwife center, in case something would happen. Luckily I'm most comfortable with a hospital, so no disagreement! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170565 Sun, 27 May 2012 14:52:20 +0000 Arden 170565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband supports practically anything I say in the pregnancy-birth area because he knows that I've done the research and I know what I'm talking about. Which is a relief, cause some of the things I want most husbands would balk at. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170557 Sun, 27 May 2012 14:35:13 +0000 mrsjazz 170557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I were on the same page with wanting a med-free birth. My best friend is having this problem now...her DH wants to stick to the hospital (they had their first in the hospital) and she desperately wants to try for a water birth. They are at an impasse about this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170553 Sun, 27 May 2012 14:29:38 +0000 chopsuey 170553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh was for whatever I wanted to do. When I wanted to go natural he was supportive. When I said F it gimme drugs!! He was supportive as well :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170549 Sun, 27 May 2012 14:19:09 +0000 mediagirl 170549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're on the same page. He knows that he has no say when it comes to delivery because it's my body, not his. He just wants me to be comfortable wih what I choose to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170542 Sun, 27 May 2012 13:58:34 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 170542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I were pretty much on the same page, but he leaned a little more on the med free side of things. I said when he has the baby we can talk about his options ;). He was fabulous through it all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170539 Sun, 27 May 2012 13:53:55 +0000 jennylynn 170539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ummm not at all. He went with a "your body your choice" mindset. ALthough I'm sure he would have spoken up if he disagreed strongly with what I wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-involved-was-your-so-in-decisions-about-labor-and-delivery#post-170535 Sun, 27 May 2012 13:45:06 +0000 heffalump 170535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I watched Pregnant in Heels the other day and one of the SO's really made me mad. He was pushing so hard for a natural birth with no assistence, telling his wife to just work through the pain. Meanwhile you have no idea what the wife is thinking because she can't get a word in. I feel like it's her body, she's the one who has to go through the pain, it should be her decision how she deals with it.</p> <p>I knew I wanted an epidural, but I did ask DH how he felt about it. If he was extremely against it because he was worried it would hurt LO, I would have thought about that and maybe tried a natural birth because I don't want him to be uncomfortable wtih my labor and delivery. But luckily we were on the same page, he said he'd support whatever I wanted. </p>