https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 05:04:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583511 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:49:51 +0000 littlebittyhouse 583511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it is so much hotter! the first few months i cringed at the beginning because it always felt like i was losing my virginity all over again but now at almost 8mo pp it.is.awesome. and more lovey dovey than ever before. for us having a baby meant that we are that much more of a team. i think there is also something very raw about DH seeing you through labor and delivery - there really isn't anything that is off limits anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583409 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:30:37 +0000 Adira 583409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: "throwing a pickle down a hallway" - OMG, I just DIED laughing!!!!</p> <p>So glad someone made a thread about this. I'm really nervous about this because sex is a HUGE issue in our relationship already (one of us always wants it WAAAAY more than the other) and since I've been pregnant, I've had ZERO drive. So hoping things go back to normal (or normal-er) after baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583405 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:29:34 +0000 Lozza 583405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Really good, actually. I think we waited maybe 7, 8 weeks to start, and while I think it was a bit uncomfortable the first time or maybe two, that didn't last at all. In fact, the fact that things were a bit looser was actually very pleasant surprise rather than a negative one. We were exhausted, but I think those first few months pp (like maybe months 3-6?) I think we just felt really close to each other and very "we are a team", plus we were up at all weird hours anyhow, so we actually had sex a LOT and it was great.<br /> I also feel like while we've had plenty of stresses as parents and as people and in our relationship since having LO, we've also kind of had to grow up and communicate better and sometimes be more assertive, and I feel like a lot of that has also gone into improving our sex life (such as negotiating a frequency that works for us, and talking about how and why it's important to each of us, and that kind of stuff). In general, I'd say my sex life with a 2 year old is significantly better than when we were newlyweds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583350 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:20:09 +0000 MrsStar 583350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We resumed at 4 weeks pp which was, um, bearable? Lo is now 5 months and sex feels normal again - I just never have the energy for it these days. We used to average about 5 times a week, now its maybe once every 2 weeks. Sleep takes preference over sex these days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583342 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:18:26 +0000 mediagirl 583342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jmarionsmith: that is so wonderful to hear. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583335 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:17:13 +0000 jmarionsmith 583335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty damn good. It took us 5 years to finally have our LO and while sex was pleasurable during that time it definitely wasn't just for fun. Now that we have LO we have sex just for fun and it's amazing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583311 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:13:06 +0000 Weagle 583311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: @sera_87: hahahaha....</p> <p>It's still really painful for me. And we definitely need to make it more of a priority. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583291 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:07:31 +0000 hilary 583291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Prep is exactly it. Glad someone else is the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583259 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:58:17 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 583259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilary: I do this too. LO's last nap of the day is right before DH gets home so I "prep" haha. Then DH gets home, we chill, we play with LO and put him down for the night...and theeennn...;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583254 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:57:13 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 583254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Amazing. Honestly.<br /> We tried at 5w...meh, I cringed the whole time. It started getting good at maybe 8w?<br /> Now, it's back to its old self which was awesome. I think it is all due to the fact that LO sleeps so well at night (and naps so that gives me time to take care of myself &amp; my house). Thank you LO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583189 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:45:51 +0000 mamabolt 583189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not good. My sex drive is non-existant, and when we do have sex it's painful for me even with loads of lube. I try and do it for DH's sake once a week or so, but I miss wanting to have sex and enjoying sex. It doesn't help that we are both exhausted and sick half the time now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583180 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:42:41 +0000 hilary 583180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We resumed at 4 weeks since I was cleared but then so painful that I waited another 2 before giving it the old college try again. It gets better every time but I still slightly cringe at initial entry.</p> <p>Might sound funny but I totally schedule it in my mind and then maybe take a bath and put on nicer undies so feel a little sexier before letting DH know he's getting lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583103 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:27:43 +0000 sera_87 583103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: it's been so long I forget who ties up who. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583053 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:20:30 +0000 mediagirl 583053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What is this thing you speak of.....sex...the word sounds familiar... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583048 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:19:36 +0000 mrsmenow 583048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After my first two I felt super tight afterwards. We DTD right at 6weeks after number three and again at 7 weeks and I felt much looser. I am hoping it is just taking longer to tighten up or I am going to be really disappointed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583044 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:19:17 +0000 betsyboop 583044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wait, people do it after they have babies? Eh not much going on over here. While I was BFing, it was painful, and these days I'm just so tired. I feel bad and should make more of an effort. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583019 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:16:26 +0000 LemonLong 583019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not so great. I feel like I've really tightened up, like maybe the doctor stitched me up too much! Sex has been painful, even with lots of lube. I also have no sex drive so sex ends up on a backburner. We're trying to make an effort to make our sex life a priority though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-583017 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:15:47 +0000 sera_87 583017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't happen often, it hurts and I'm way more sensitive. We finally used lube (NEVER needed that before) and it was much better. But right now I feel like I'm doing it for DH's needs/enjoyment and not because its mutual. Which is an awful way to treat sex. </p> <p>ETA: it keeps autocorrecting sex to Alex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-582997 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:10:48 +0000 loveisstrange 582997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Non-existant? We tried the first time after 4 weeks and yeah... its just been a mess. I'm not finding very much enjoyment in it, we're both so tired. We really need to work on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-582958 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 14:04:04 +0000 meredithNYC 582958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Me, too, as far as the looseness. I mean, it feels pretty wide open down there, which makes sex... weird. Like, not painful or anything, but not exactly enjoyable? This is probably TMI, but since I stopped breastfeeding at 2.5 months, my period came back fairly quickly. And let me tell you about the weirdness that is wearing a tampon with an extra large vag. Shudder.</p> <p>BUT, at about 7 or 8 months postpartum, things have tightened up - in a good way. So there is that! I guess I'm just kind of surprised at how long it took.</p> <p>As for the sex life, there's not a whole lot going on in that department and I think a lot of it is down to me not feeling very attractive. I also feel like such a "mom" now, which, I know, I AM a mom, but... you know what I mean? Like, it is sometimes hard to feel sexy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-582914 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 13:57:12 +0000 DillonLion 582914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is totally content (after having to have a heart to heart about his trauma at seeing me having a massive post-partum hemorrhage and him feeling like I almost died)</p> <p>Physically, I feel fine. Zero pain when we've DTD since giving birth. But that's because I'm looser than before and I'm having a mess of a time dealing with that mentally. So many people on here were like "everything shrunk right on back down yeehaw" but that has not been the case for me so far. I'm 12 weeks PP so I know there is still some healing to be done (I HOPE), but I was totally unprepared for having a loosey-goosey vag. </p> <p>And then there's all of the general largeness in the rest of my body (upper arms, upper thighs, stomach, and back) so I just feel totally unattractive at the moment. </p> <p>And breastfeeding has also done a number on my libido. I have no desire to do anything sexual whatsoever most of the time. Giving nor receiving. </p> <p>So, crappy on my end! Fine for DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-582902 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 13:54:59 +0000 Bao 582902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We first attempted at 11 weeks and it hurt so we waited til 12 weeks and that hurt, but then after that it got better. Honestly though we are really lacking in the sex dept. It sucks, but DH works a lot and after taking care of a baby all day...I guess it just doesn't become a priority, but it needs to become one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-is-your-sex-life-post-baby#post-582837 Thu, 21 Feb 2013 13:44:32 +0000 lovehoneybee 582837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I debated making this thread Gold, but I've tried to keep it real, and sex isn't something I have qualms about talking about. </p> <p>We tried to have sex for the first time around 10 weeks and it was a colossal failure. We tried again successfully around 12 weeks, even though it was definitely really uncomfortable--but more like losing my virginity uncomfortable and not like being ripped apart pain like the first attempt. The next few times got better, even though I would tense up at first entry. </p> <p>Now 6.5 months pp, and to my very pleasant surprise the sex is actually better, and more frequent, then it was pre-baby (it helps that we discovered and addressed a big issue that I was unaware of). I was so worried about my lady bits post-baby...I was concerned it would be like throwing a pickle down a hallway (even though rationally I know things are supposed to shrink back down). It feels better for both of us, and thankfully breastfeeding hasn't affected my body's reaction at all. </p> <p>So, if you're willing to share, how is the sex post-baby? </p>