https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 08 Aug 2026 05:05:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process/page/2#post-230827 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 08:22:37 +0000 GreenThumb 230827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we've had to delve into the world of infertility, DH knows way more than he ever wanted to know about TTC. But even before that, he was pretty interested to be part of the whole process rather than just the "fun" stuff. So he pretty much knows the deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process/page/2#post-229856 Sat, 21 Jul 2012 18:12:52 +0000 ParkerHaus 229856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband knows a lot- I have to give him credit- We practice NFP and before we got married he did the NFP classes with me. He loves the science of it all. He records all of my info on my charts and has been great through all of it including our fertility testing. He was with me for my HSG (held my hand) and also for my ultrasound. He's quite comfortable talking mucus, CP ect... and he knows all the TTC terms. He keeps me from taking pregnancy tests early and helps me not to symptom spot. I can't complain about how involved he is and he encourages all of the husbands that we know of couples TTC to also get involved. I puffy heart him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process/page/2#post-224578 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 22:31:28 +0000 ChuckNorris 224578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He knows very little. LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224183 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 16:17:56 +0000 Shutterbug 224183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All he knows is when we start having sex every single day then "it's time". And he knows I temp (obviously). I think he'd be shocked to know how much I know about it... I'm trying really hard to be cool about it because I don't want to give him a complex/performance anxiety. </p> <p>Sometimes he's like "well how do you KNOW when you're ovulating?" and I say "Do you really want me to go into it? I just know." He does not want me to go into it, LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224119 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 15:24:40 +0000 edelweiss 224119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my husband didn't know anything beyond what any male might pick up/retain from high school sex ed. the couple dynamic and differences regarding TTC/pregnancy kinda remind me of what it was like to plan a wedding, with obvious differences of course. most guys just won't be as into the process, but that doesn't mean they won't be excited and involved when it counts (i.e. being a dad, being married). still, i hear your frustration, and clearly you're not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224115 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 15:20:54 +0000 mrs. bird 224115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetchic: i think learning about the baby making (aside from the act itself, lol) is VERY different for men than learning about the baby developing after conception. i know for DH it's important for him to DTD just to DTD, not just because it could make a baby, but because that's our time &amp; a part of us outside of making a family. he doesn't want our sex life to revolve around baby making and thinking too much about that part of it ruins it for him. that being said, he is all about parenting styles and loves when i talk to him about baby gear/names etc. </p> <p>men like sex, too much info/thinking ruins it. women get to be the keepers of the knowledge in the TTC department, think of it as an excuse to initiate sometimes ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224104 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 15:10:44 +0000 Meridian 224104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Hrmm, interesting to know... but now you seem very interested in reading up and researching various child-raising techniques. </p> <p>I guess my worry is that he won't read up on anything even AFTER I'm pregnant! I want him to be curious and want to learn about raising our kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224093 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 14:50:22 +0000 lemondrop 224093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gave him one of the summary chapters at the end of Taking Charge of Your Fertility after a few months of no luck. In the end we found that the less he knew about timing, the happier he was with less pressure. He was easy, so he told me to be on seduction patrol when the timing was good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224092 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 14:50:01 +0000 mrbee 224092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew nothing about the process. Even now, I'm not that interested in learning about TTC. Not sure why... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224088 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 14:43:19 +0000 JessicaMcB 224088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Between DH and I, I am the reader/researcher/obsessive person and he is the easy-breezy que sera guy. He knew basic stuff like I had to take temperatures and OPKs, but BD timing he wasn't aware of (I just told him we'd BD for two weeks straight because that's how it was! lol) and he had no realistic grasp of how early you could take a pregnancy test. He tried to get me to take one at 1DPO!</p> <p>We got pregnant right away both times (m/c and then Emma), which I'd attribute more to the constant BDing, but he just figures it's because he's a stud lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224074 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 14:34:30 +0000 meaganceleste 224074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: I actually loved discovering that site, really helped me to visualize what was going on down there.</p> <p>My husband knows the basics, but only what I've told him. I feel that by nature, women are more curious about their bodies and what's going on than men and truthfully getting pregnant has so much more to do with the woman's body than the man's, timing and cycles and all of that are things a man doesn't have to think about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-224037 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 14:13:09 +0000 ShootingStar 224037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH knows the basics or a little more about actually TTC. But when it comes to actual pregnancy/baby stuff, he has been putting me in shock. He's not much of a reader, but he's read What to Expect, Happiest Baby on the Block, and half of Bringing up Bebe. He's fascinated by learning all about this stuff. It makes me feel a lot better than when the time comes I'll feel like we're on the same page, knowledge-wise.</p> <p>Maybe you could suggest something for him to read? Or something for the two of you to read together? DH likes when we read the same book and we can talk about stuff we learned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223949 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 13:16:25 +0000 JoJoGirl 223949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: OMG awesome!!!! SO penis-like :-D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223945 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 13:09:55 +0000 mrs. bird 223945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: ahahaha! Look on your phone ;) just not right after eating... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223944 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 13:09:41 +0000 Running Elley 223944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Wow!!!!!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223941 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 13:06:48 +0000 JoJoGirl 223941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ARGH I CANNOT LOOK AT WORK. I'll so get fired! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223929 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 13:02:39 +0000 mrs. bird 223929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: WARNING: THIS IS SUPER GRAPHIC, YOU DON'T SEE VAJAY JAY, BUT IT'S NOT FOR EVERYONE!! YOU'VE BEEN WARNED! <a href="http://www.beautifulcervix.com/" rel="nofollow">http://www.beautifulcervix.com/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223927 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 13:01:45 +0000 JoJoGirl 223927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: YES! There were a lot of shots of cervical cancer that came up for some reason and I did NOT want him seeing those! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223921 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:59:40 +0000 Adira 223921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Hubs definitely was not involved in any of the research or timing of things. He just wanted me to tell him when we needed to have sex and that was it. After the first couple months of trying, he did decide we weren't trying hard enough and insisted we do it every day instead of every other. We did that one month and decided it was WAY too much for us, haha.</p> <p>I kept him informed as far as temps, CM, when Diablo was around, etc, but for the most part, he wasn't really involved or interested. Occasionally he'd ask "When are you out of commission?" and I'd be like "Hopefully I won't be, you jerk!" but that was basically the extent of him taking interest, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223920 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:59:07 +0000 Running Elley 223920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: Ummmm....is it sad that now I really want to see that website and the cervixes??? I think I'm still a TTC nerd at heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223919 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:58:48 +0000 Foodnerd81 223919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are currently charting to TTA right now, so he is actually learning a bit about temps and charting to find out when we can safely BD without other contraception. I've explained a bit about the temps and thermal shifts, but he would never, ever look this up himself. He really wants to avoid getting too clinical about the BD and timing when we do start TTC (next month!) because he doesn't want it to turn into a chore. I think that fear is a bit much, but I'm happy to be kind of quiet about it (while still making sure we BD at the right time) for the first couple of months. After that, he may learn more, but I'm still sure he won't be looking anything up about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223911 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:56:43 +0000 Smurfette 223911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine wasn't really involved at all. Except when I told him it was go time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223908 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:56:06 +0000 mrs. bird 223908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: hahahaha! once, i googled something about your cervix during ovulation, and it took me to some beautiful cervix website where people had posted pictures of their cervixes throughout their cycles..... i'm super laid back &amp; cool with most bodily issues, but some of those pictures turned my stomach and i was so glad DH didn't see them! we wouldn't have been BDing for a loooooong time =D</p> <p>edit to add- the website was named something relating to beautiful cervixes, i'm not calling them beautiful!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223903 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:53:20 +0000 Running Elley 223903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: I wouldn't be surprised! The pictures even grossed me out at first. Little did I know....lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223901 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:52:05 +0000 DillonLion 223901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was not super informed, and like PP have said, I think that is just par for the course in TTC, pregnancy, and motherhood. I'm not really offended by it. Having DH around to be relaxed and undisturbed really helps ground me. Sometimes being super informed doesn't really help anyone enjoy the process. Having one of us be more "go with the flow" is beneficial to the whole experience, I think.</p> <p>He is still a really, really supportive person during this process. He comes to all my appointments and listens intently, but he doesn't know nearly as many details as I do, and doesn't intend on learning them, either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223900 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:51:47 +0000 JoJoGirl 223900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: I googled EWCM once (per a suggestion on HB) and turned my computer away from him... he kept asking "what are you doing?" and I'd say "nothing"... repeat... til finally he looked and learned his lesson the hard way. I will protect you from the parts of TTC i know you don't want to hear about, my love ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223893 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:49:25 +0000 mrs. bird 223893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: once, i tried to show him the pictures explaining CM in 'taking charge of your fertility'..... i think that is probably what caused him to shut down &amp; have a BD'ing cap on the TTC knowledge =D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223885 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:46:51 +0000 mrs. bird 223885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: hahahaha! wow!</p> <p>DH would rather just be oblivious. actually, that is his request, that yes he wants to make a baby, but that he doesn't want to know about anything other than the BD'ing, that it's too much pressure on him. he will ask me 'how was acupuncture?' or 'when your done with that medicine, how long before you're normal again? like not so crazy?' </p> <p>it's hard because it's not socially acceptable to talk about, and DH wants to talk about 'once we have a baby', but not TTC, so other than HB, i'm kind of on my own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223871 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:42:16 +0000 Apex 223871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetchic: Lol. That sounds so much like my DH. He had no idea there was a science to the whole baby thing!!! For someone who researches everything to death, i found myself explaining the entire (Basic) menstrual cycle to him. I couldd'nt help but wonder where he was in high school when everyone was being taught the basics. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-knowledgeable-is-your-dh-about-the-ttc-process#post-223870 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 12:40:36 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 223870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He is pretty involved. He knows all about charting, CM, and ovulation. He read about it some, but gets most of his information from me. </p>