https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 11:44:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-6489 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 06:39:17 +0000 hreichard 6489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took about 4 weeks for me to bond with my son. I had a very suprising pregnancy, I found out i was pregnant at 20 weeks, so everything happened so fast. I think i was still a bit in shock. We are totally bonded now and his smile just makes me melt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-6485 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 06:27:27 +0000 Andrea 6485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopysuey119 - aww, that was the same for me, too. as soon as i found out we were having a girl i had a name for her and it was all real. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-6473 Thu, 27 Oct 2011 00:09:38 +0000 chopsuey 6473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bonded with my LO as soon as I found out we were having a girl. She suddenly became very real to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-5079 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 23:17:25 +0000 geekinheels 5079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely did not have the "love at first sight" experience with Claire, and I wouldn't be surprised if it's the same with BebeDeux.</p> <p>I did not have PPD, but I did have a bad case of the baby blues. Additionally, Claire had bad colic for a few months (straight crying EVERY night from 7pm - 2am...arghh!). I thought I was going to go nuts! So I don't think I really began to bond with her until she was a lot older, at around 6 months of age. Before that, it wasn't like I hated her, but like I took care of her more out of obligation than out of love.</p> <p>One of my friends put it in a good way: everyone falls loves, and falls in love differently. It took me a while to love my husband, so how can I be surprised that it took a long time to fall in love with my baby too?</p> <p>And it's true. Because now, I really do love her more than words and I'm constantly amazed at HER just for being herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-5058 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 22:34:03 +0000 Killer b 5058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely wasn't in the love-at-first-sight camp. The hospital I delivered at doesn't go straight to breast, they do the whole cleaning/testing thing first. It's not so bad, as it's in your room and they don't take your baby away. I was totally fine with not holding her since I tore pretty bad, and my epidural wore off so the stitches were painful. My husband held her first, and I'm so happy they got to have their little bonding moment. </p> <p>She's 8 weeks now, and I'm just now starting to feel the tug between us. My heart aches a little when I'm not holding her. She's smiling pretty regularly now, and is almost to the laughing stage. I cannot wait for that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-4883 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 12:35:39 +0000 Honeybee 4883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, it was instantaneous with DD. The moment I heard that she was a girl, I turned to my husband and said, "We have a daughter," and we both started crying. Easily the best moment of my life. </p> <p>I hope it's the same with #2. I think I'll feel a lot of mommy guilt if it takes me longer to bond with him/her, even though I know it's normal to not feel bonded right away. I'm also really looking forward to experiencing that moment again, and I think I'll be disappointed if I don't feel that immediate overwhelming love I felt with DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-4503 Mon, 17 Oct 2011 14:00:15 +0000 mommacommaphd 4503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my daughter I think it took about a month. When she started smiling and reacting to me around 4 weeks old, our bond really grew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-4108 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 21:17:15 +0000 anewme 4108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It totally took me awhile, probably several weeks to really bond with her. I knew I really loved her from the start but I did feel strangely disconnected to her at first. </p> <p>I almost hated myself for it because I thought I would never have this motherly side to me, but slowly she started growing on me and when she started to show signs that she is aware of me I knew it was that unconditional love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-4082 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 18:22:59 +0000 Rock n Roll 4082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really freaked me out when I didn't bond with my daughter right away. I have a much younger sister, and when she was born I was in love with her from the first moment I saw her. But with my daughter it felt like she was a total stranger. It took a few weeks for me to feel comfortable with calling her my daughter and feeling like we had a connection. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-4079 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 18:15:06 +0000 Andrea 4079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I actually did feel that immediate bond. I wonder if it would be the same if I had #2 because I feel so bonded with my first that it is hard to imagine the same thing with anyone else, if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-3248 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 13:12:20 +0000 mrs. wagon 3248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bonding has always been an issue for me. I've always been the primary caregiver and I nursed him for 7 months, but I never really felt bonded to him and even though he was a great baby with both eating and sleeping, I was miserable. I'm not sure if I had some kind of postpartum depression or anything, but as he started to reciprocate love back to me more and more it got better. He didn't smile for 6 weeks, and as a baby he preferred the swing or bouncy chair to being held, so it was hard for me to feel close to him, even though I was nursing him every 2 hours. He's 22 months now and we definitely have a great bond, but it's not like a baby/mommy bond. It's more of a kid/mommy bond. I'm curious to see what the bonding will be like with our next baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-3239 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 12:53:48 +0000 Rubies 3239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is 10 weeks old today and I think I'm just finally starting to bond with her. She just recently started social smiling and I think it has helped. The first two months were difficult for me - I felt like a machine. Things are starting to get a lot better now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-3232 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 12:11:53 +0000 Sha 3232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took me a while...maybe 8 weeks or so - to start bonding. I'm not sure why, I was just so emotional and hormonal right after I had him and so so exhausted from the lack of sleep. Now I really like him! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-for-you-to-bond-with-your-baby#post-3231 Mon, 10 Oct 2011 12:07:20 +0000 Mrs. Bee 3231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know a lot of parents say that they fell in love with their babies the moment they laid eyes on them. I was not one of those parents. I think it took me many weeks to finally bond with Charlie, maybe because my mom mostly took care of him the first couple of weeks we were home. </p> <p>With Olive, I think the bond was definitely much more immediate, maybe because I'm already a parent. She's also so tiny I feel like she needs me more than Charlie did (who was a big as a 1 month old when he was born).</p> <p>Did you feel instantly bonded to your baby? If not, how long did it take? </p>