https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 18:45:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-comfort-your-lo-with-no-nursing-at-night-night-weaning#post-1098990 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 17:28:52 +0000 brownie 1098990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cranberryapple: We weaned at 2 years old so he had used a sippy since he was 6 months old (maybe earlier as I believe he started refusing bottles and it was the only way to get him to take milk (breastmilk or formula) at daycare). </p> <p>He also slept with us. So DH just took him away from my smell. But really they know if it is you and can smell the milks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-comfort-your-lo-with-no-nursing-at-night-night-weaning#post-1098967 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 17:17:56 +0000 edelweiss 1098967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cranberryapple: i know what you mean--even letting him cry/fuss for 15 minutes when it's 3am feels like an eternity. LO definitely got more upset when i tried to comfort him--i swear i could hear him say "why are you torturing me, woman with the boobs???" i also had extra motivation to wean because i knew what life was like when LO STTN, and i did not want to go back! also, a couple of times when LO was self-weaning he didn't fall asleep when i nursed him even though i kept offering, and i was like, dude, if you're not even going to fall asleep, then what's in it for me :) </p> <p>you're right, one has to be totally committed to the training in order to be consistent and hold out. you don't have to do it, but if you want all of you to STTN, i am confident that you guys can do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-comfort-your-lo-with-no-nursing-at-night-night-weaning#post-1098782 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 16:11:37 +0000 cranberryapple 1098782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: *Hugs* We're in it together! Hehehe. </p> <p>@brownie: When did you start offering him a sippy? Unfortunately, don't know how willing DH will be to go in to fetch DS! </p> <p>@Ms.SK: I don't mind so much now, and if there was a way for me to know that he would drop these feeds on his own and sleep through the night eventually, I think I would be more reassured. I just heard that it would be better to do it sooner rather than later when he is older and more stubborn/vocal. I am planning on nursing him in general until he is at least 2 years old, but yes, I would like us all to sleep through the night if possible before then. ;) </p> <p>@edelweiss: Thanks for sharing your experience! It sounds like I need to be willing to make a sacrifice of a few night's sleep for this to work. It's just that I've been a wuss about it. I know 1+ hours of crying isn't that much in comparison, but while we're awake during those hours and feeling helpless, it feels muuuuuch longer!! LO is the type that just gets angrier if we pick him up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-comfort-your-lo-with-no-nursing-at-night-night-weaning#post-1098293 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 14:20:50 +0000 edelweiss 1098293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think the decision to sleep train is different for every person, because i think people tend to sleep train when they're feeling at the end of their rope, or simply need/want a change, and that's different for each person. </p> <p>i don't have the situation but in case this helps at all: LO had been STTN, but this past weekend we were traveling and one night he woke up in the middle of the night, inconsolable. after trying to soothe him, we gave him a bottle and to our surprise, LO downed 8 oz of formula, and then nursed on top of that before falling back asleep (turns out something was wrong with his tooth, which is another story).</p> <p>the next night, he woke up at midnight, crying and screaming. we gave him 20 minutes to settle down, but it got worse. DH went in there to try and soothe him, and after about 15 minutes of unsuccessful soothing i went in to try. that was a mistake because LO then wanted to nurse and pitched a fit when i tried to put him down. so DH went in again, and after about 15-20 minutes, put him down. LO cried, but not as hard, for a little while longer before falling asleep. all in all it was about 1 hour 15 minutes. seems short in retrospect but was not fun at the time or the next day.</p> <p>the next two nights, he woke up crying but settled down after 5-10 minutes, and now i hope that we're back to STTN. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-comfort-your-lo-with-no-nursing-at-night-night-weaning#post-1097743 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 12:40:45 +0000 Ms.SK 1097743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I may be attacked but why would you want to stop something that benefits you 99% of the time? The twins are the same age and my husband asked me when I was going to wean. I asked him why would we take away something that works and chance not having that again?<br /> I get it that you want more sleep but as you found CIO wasn't a lasting solution but nursing is. Just my opinion though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-comfort-your-lo-with-no-nursing-at-night-night-weaning#post-1097706 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 12:33:21 +0000 brownie 1097706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did this. Ultimately we let him have a sippy of water to replace the nursing. And made daddy take care of him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-comfort-your-lo-with-no-nursing-at-night-night-weaning#post-1097608 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 12:17:55 +0000 mediagirl 1097608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I don't nurse her, I don't know how long it would take. We haven't tried it. She's 15 months. I feel your pain and I want answers, too. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-comfort-your-lo-with-no-nursing-at-night-night-weaning#post-1097262 Thu, 19 Sep 2013 11:07:00 +0000 cranberryapple 1097262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 14 months old, and I am STILL nursing him back to sleep in the middle of the night. He wakes up at least twice a night now. We had a blissful period where we sleep trained him with CIO when he was 9 months old, and that worked for maybe 2 months (or less), but then traveling and/or teething occurred and I went back to nursing him to sleep. </p> <p>The problem is, I'm too much of a wuss NOT to nurse him back to sleep! It works 99% of the time! Otherwise, who knows how long he can continue to cry for in our arms??!! I think we tried once before and it was at least 20 minutes of screaming, in both DH's arms and mine! I've heard it's better to let DH go in so DS will know there's no milk coming, but that just pisses him off even more!!! (Plus, I feel bad for making DH go in because he's the type that NEEDS his sleep!) </p> <p>I do want to break away from this dependency, because that's what it is! He doesn't need milk at night nutritionally, and I'm wondering if I'm setting him up to associate food with comfort! I'm completely fine with letting him CIO when he's not teething, but then again, when is he NOT teething at this stage??! He has three molars that have just broken the surface! </p> <p>Anyway, how did you do it, and how long did you have to hold your LO for to comfort him/her sans nursing? How did you handle the teething curveballs? When did you know it was time to CIO? </p>