https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 13:15:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2345792 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 16:09:22 +0000 chibee 2345792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a super easy pregnancy/delivery and despite our tiny stint in the NICU I still say my labor/delivery was extremely smooth. However, I had a really really rough time when he was a newborn (maybe a touch post partum depression thrown in there in hindsight) so that made me declare that he shall be the only one for good. Then when he made the turn around at 2-3 months (sleeping through the night, mostly), by month 4 I was itching for another haha! At 14 months right now we are still about 2 years away from a second but i have the fever bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2345769 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:58:37 +0000 littlejoy 2345769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnancy &amp; birth were fine for me - I loved it. I had tears, and birth hurt so bad, but I got over it quickly. For me though, BFing was the hardest thing I've ever done, and even at 22 months (no longer nursing), I am still bothered by it. </p> <p>I do find that after the first year, I stopped dwelling on things related to the first 3 months. I'm still nowhere near ready for another, but if I did get pregnant, I wouldn't need to work through anything emotionally, because I feel like I've "healed" that part of my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2345730 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:41:22 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2345730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me I think a couple of years. (I'm at 3 now.) And I haven't forgotten, it just feels more like a distant memory. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2345645 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:09:44 +0000 daniellemybelle 2345645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My pregnancy was fine for the most part, but I had a terrible birth and recovery. The newborn stage won for traumatizing though. It was very hard.</p> <p>I still have not forgotten. I am scared to do it again. But I want another LO. I guess I think I can suffer through if it's that bad again to get to the toddler stage which I just love. I've done it and lived to tell. And, I'm clinging to what people say about second babies being easy if your first was hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2345101 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 09:09:56 +0000 HazelEyes 2345101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a pretty easy pregnancy and birth, but a rough run of it for the first 5ish months.</p> <p>I was ready to be pregnant again at about a year, but definitely not ready for a newborn. I voted 1-2 years because I wasn't ready to actually TTC until 18 months. We got pregnant pretty quick and I"m still not sure I"m ready for a second! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2345087 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 09:03:15 +0000 jape14 2345087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an easy pregnancy and mostly easy induction &amp; delivery. However, I broke my tailbone delivering DS and he was a reflux baby so the first couple months were no picnic between recovery and a baby who hated sleeping and battled feedings for quite a while. Basically until we sleep trained right after the 4-month regression, DH and I were solidly in the one-and-done camp. Once his reflux was resolved and sleeping got better, it got pretty easy to forget that stuff. By the time DS was 6-8 months we were talking about definitely having one more and probably two more. We are still waiting though - our ideal spacing would be right around 3 years or a little before (DS is 14 months now). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2345018 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 08:13:24 +0000 Greentea 2345018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would not even think about it until she was over two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344939 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 06:31:15 +0000 JCCovi 2344939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hated being pregnant but I go pregnant for the 2nd time when my daughter was 8 months old. I don't think it was because I forgot how rough pregnancy was but more like pregnancy seems short the further removed you are. My thought process was more 'this will really suck but then it'll be over and I'll have another beautiful baby and that will be so worth it.' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344904 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 02:45:38 +0000 Cherrybee 2344904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took me to get pregnant again to "forget" the horror of birth and the newborn days. It must be the hormones! I had flirted with baby fever between 12 and 24 months pp but it always came with a feeling of "but I will have to go through all that again and I don't know if I will survive". Now, at 15 weeks pregnant, I'm having romantic thoughts about birth and teeny tiny newborns. Its weird because I know it was traumatic but I cant recall why..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344889 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 01:03:06 +0000 lemondrop 2344889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rough pregnancies both times, births were fine, above average newborns as far as being good. My first we joked that we would have another no problem when we arrived home from the hospital (after a brief jaundice stint in the nicu). At 10 months we were ready to try again, didn't get pregnant for another 9 months, thank goodness! </p> <p>I'm still at a zero (or -1,000,000) interest level now that #2 is 18 months. We will renegotiate again next summer, but I'm not sure how likely I will be at changing my mind. Pregnancy sucked, and while I always see us having a third, our two boys are pretty awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344879 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 00:08:41 +0000 BabyTsMom 2344879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never! I had a great pregnancy and an ok birthing experience , but the PPA/PPD I went through has permanently scarred me. Around 12-16 months, I could finally see how people could actually consider having another kid, but personally I am not willing to experience the newborn days ever again. It's just not worth it to me. So we're happily one and done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344869 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 23:16:59 +0000 yellowbird 2344869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>18 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344868 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 23:16:18 +0000 travelgirl1 2344868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first, I felt ready to face morning sickness again when she turned one. After having MS with my second, I swore I would never, ever do it again. Then he was born and even though recovery was a lot harder this time, I had baby fever right away. I haven't forgotten the awfulness of any of it, I just don't have age on my side but love babies and being a mum. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344847 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 22:20:31 +0000 Caly 2344847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't vote. My twins are almost 2 and I'm pretty positive we are done. Most of that's attributed to a horrible pregnancy and horrible newborn (omg, I've never been more exhausted in my entire life) experience. The birth and recovery itself were a breeze but the other parts were awful. The thought of being pregnant again gives me a mini panic attack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344825 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 21:38:46 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2344825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first it was only 8-9 months when I started forgetting just how hard the newborn days were. I wasn't too traumatized by the pregnancy/birth although I definitely didn't love it. The second time around was over 2 years. It was so hard being pregnant with a toddler at home, and then having a little one that didn't STTN until after age 2…when he started sleeping, or rather when I started sleeping again, I started to forget... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344814 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 21:16:38 +0000 Mae 2344814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was over the pregnancy pretty immediately (but mine wasn't that bad). I was over the birth after about 6 months (not too bad pain wise but very emotionally traumatic). I am still not over the awful awful newborn days at almost 18 months. Which isn't to say I've totally foreclosed the idea of doing it again. But it won't be with rose colored glasses because I forgot newborn days blow. It will just be with the realization that its worth it for the kid they become. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344810 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 21:12:57 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2344810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Really rough last month of pregnancy (extreme rib pain, breathing problems, pre-eclampsia diagnosis, bedrest), awful labor (induced), terrible post-partum healing and I didn't get sleep for a loong time. Then I had terrible PPD/anxiety. </p> <p>Because of that, I didn't even want another child. Ever. I told my husband there was no freaking way I would ever do that again.</p> <p>It's been 3.5 years. I did not forget one detail and I don't particularly want to do it again, however I am beginning to entertain the idea of having a second. But I still don't feel 100% ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344809 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 21:12:44 +0000 Mamasig 2344809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I ever forgot how hard my 1st pregnancy was. But we wanted more than one and close in age, so we went for it when DS1 was about one. I dreaded being pregnsnt again, but it wasn't bad at all. I got baby fever after #2 when he was about 3 months. Got pregnant with #3 when he was 16 months. This pregnancy has been harder because of morning sickness, but this is the last one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344798 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 20:54:24 +0000 MrsBrewer 2344798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted less than a month. But truthfully I had an easy pregnancy, birth, recovery and newborn. I am very blessed. So I feel like I could have a ton of kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344797 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 20:54:17 +0000 SweetCaroline 2344797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: I feel the same way (DD is almost 9 months), and it scares the crap out of me! Labor was really terrible (48 hours), but honestly it's the 42 weeks of pregnancy that took me the longest to get over.</p> <p>Regardless, we also won't be having another little one anytime soon. We're enjoying the craziness with DD for now :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344796 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 20:53:56 +0000 pastemoo 2344796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Over three years.... Not sure i can do this again but here i am </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344774 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 20:36:10 +0000 Rockies11 2344774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first HG pregnancy, right after I had her I thought I could do it again. With my second HG pregnancy and horrific birth, she was 6 months before the thought of - I could consider maybe realistically doing it again. We really want another so I do have to pull it together, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344764 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 20:30:59 +0000 Grace 2344764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Close to 2. For me, it was when she started sleeping through the night consistantly. I think the memories fade with sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344732 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 20:02:07 +0000 Oxana 2344732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted 3 - 6 months, because we started TTC at 9 months (as soon as my period came back). I had a really bad birth experience (two days of induced labor ending in an emergency c-section), but since giving birth, we discovered an abnormality that explains why I had such a hard time. A VBAC isn't possible with this complication, so I know up front that I'll need a repeat c/s. That makes me feel so much better. A schedule c/s sounds like heaven compared to last time.</p> <p>I had super bad morning sickness the entire pregnancy that led to me actually weighing less the day I gave birth than I weighed before I was pregnant. You can barely tell I was pregnant at seven months, and later I just looked like I was in my second trimester. I'm not looking forward to a repeat of that.</p> <p>The only other thing that worries me is breastfeeding. I have flat/inverted nipples and could not get the hang of breastfeeding, even with a shield, so I pumped around the clock last time until LO was around 10 months old. In some ways, I feel more confident because I know I can pump full time if I have to--I did it before. On the other hand, maybe I should try harder to breastfeed...then again, if that leads to cracked nipples or mastitis, that could set us back even further...I don't know. It's kind of the devil you know vs. the devil you don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344720 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 19:47:15 +0000 mrsjyw 2344720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never had baby fever for #2! I knew we wanted a sibling for ds but we didn't try until he was almost two! And he was an easy baby.</p> <p>I have baby fever this time and ds is 3.5 months and we're not even sure we want a third! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344710 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 19:36:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 2344710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a relatively easy pregnancy, delivery, and recovery, but I did forget what morning sickness felt like and what labor felt like- just because it was "relatively" easy doesn't mean it wasn't the worst pain of my life. I simply can't remember what it felt like. That was immediate, like still in the hospital. </p> <p>The newborn stage was really hard though. It wasn't until friends with babies the same age started getting pregnant that I even thought about it, though I knew I wanted another one day. When she was 20 months old I told DH I was ready to start thinking about trying for another soonish, or at least being a little less careful about avoiding. I got pregnant that week. </p> <p>I think it will take me a lot longer to forget how much pregnancy with a toddler sucks though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344704 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 19:34:14 +0000 SweetiePie 2344704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Somewhere around 10 months I was like "maybe I could do this again". But when the moms in my local moms group talk about actively trying, or even my Sept 2014 moms here, I have a very panicky feeling and I think "not ready! Not ready!" So I guess I haven't truly forgotten :-) But I can see enough good to make it possibly worth it to do it again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344703 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 19:33:49 +0000 Truth Bombs 2344703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 years... And then I got KU three months later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344687 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 19:07:45 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2344687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Raindrop: I had another but I still remember the tough newborn moments with lo1. I started talking about another between 9m and 12m pp. but part of that was wanting to get the baby stage over with. It took awhile to actually get pregnant and have another though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-it-take-to-forget#post-2344683 Wed, 04 Nov 2015 19:04:10 +0000 lovehoneybee 2344683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>6 months before I put the rose-colored glasses on, but I didn't feel ready to even try for another until he was 2. </p>