https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 09 Jun 2026 05:08:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1987238 Tue, 16 Dec 2014 16:49:10 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1987238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: I could've sworn I'd replied to you... :silly: That must've been so hard. :sad: Thank you for all the good wishes! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974761 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 22:48:35 +0000 Espion 1974761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Ugh, I can't believe they thought it their business to tell everyone. I was a fellow when I miscarried, and having to tell my program director was just awful. Thankfully, he was a relatively awkward southern gentleman who didn't really know what to say, so it was never mentioned beyond then. </p> <p>I am very excited for you! Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974749 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 22:28:36 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1974749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: Thank you! I've also never had much in the way of symptoms...which is common in my family , even with healthy pregnancies. Hopefully I'll figure out a good strategy (assuming this pregnancy is "the one") before too long. Sending :heart: and lots of good luck for your pregnancy!!! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974742 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 22:17:51 +0000 Mama Bird 1974742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations! Very happy for you, and I hope everything goes well!!!</p> <p>I'm 8 weeks already and even saw the heartbeat on an ultrasound, but after a loss it's very hard to relax and be confident. I don't have a lot of symptoms - with my son, I also didn't, but this time it's making me a nervous wreck. We still haven't told anyone, even though the entire extended family suspects because I felt pretty sick at a birthday party when I was 4 weeks. If everything goes well, we'll tell them when I'm 12 weeks. </p> <p>I'm sure you'll figure out what feels right for you - whether you'd rather have your close family's support now, or if you'd rather wait until you're more sure of this pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974731 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 22:01:40 +0000 brownie 1974731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: it worked because we had to tell at those times. After the nt screening is easier because we had some details and had seen the heartbeat a lot. I think it depends on who you think helps and who hinders if something were to go wrong. None of my family has had a loss so they don't get it. In the fets and ivf I had someone that went through the process and losses too. So she knew a lot more and sooner. The 3 yr old is a blabber mouth so that changed things a lot for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974721 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 21:47:35 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1974721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: The 3 year old telling his school sounds hard! :meh: Which was the best approach for you (or was each of those right at the time)? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974714 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 21:44:31 +0000 brownie 1974714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ivf #1 we didn't tell anyone we were doing it and told after we were released to an ob (8 weeks). That one stuck.</p> <p>Fet #1 we were open with doing it. Ended up in a chemical so people knew we got the beta but it was low.</p> <p>Fet #2 didn't tell anyone we were doing it. Had another chemical.</p> <p>This time we didn't tell anyone. We have a 3 year old and he knew the whole time. So he told his school. One grandparents came to visit so we told everyone because I knew he would tell them. This was like 10 weeks (earlier than I wanted). Told friends after the anatomy scan (just because of timing and seeing them). I didn't really want to ever tell. </p> <p>I still haven't told three of my four bosses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974702 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 21:40:50 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1974702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mfa_lady: :silly: That all makes perfect sense to me! And thanks!!! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974698 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 21:37:45 +0000 mfa_lady 1974698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I had a missed miscarriage, we had told everyone in our families already (we told around 9 weeks, found out at 11).</p> <p>This time, I told my mom the day I took the test (that's just the way I am with her), told my dad and brother around 10 weeks (after an US with a heartbeat), and told my in-laws at 13 weeks because we were all on a vacation together and we'd had two good ultrasounds at that point.</p> <p>We told extended family right after that.</p> <p>I was happy to wait for the larger crowd the second time around...mostly because I was so worried myself that I knew I couldn't handle people checking in on me all the time, as weird as that sounds. </p> <p>Now that I've written you a book, on to the good stuff...SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974667 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 21:07:35 +0000 LindsayInNY 1974667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're telling our families at Christmas when I'll be 14 weeks. It'll be post-NT scan at that point too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974575 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 19:23:28 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1974575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@marionberry: Thanks! Still very early, but it doesn't hurt to think ahead. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974563 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 19:09:15 +0000 marionberry 1974563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: Congratulations! I hadn't heard! So happy for you. We always tell immediate family somewhere between 6 and 8 weeks and others closer to 10 but I think it's really common to wait until 12 to make it public. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974561 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 19:03:26 +0000 fussygal 1974561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told family right away, work and FB at 12 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974498 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 17:17:48 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1974498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anya: Your mom and my mom might be the same person! :wink: It is nice to have an endless well of faith and optimism in the family! Thanks for the good thoughts! :heart: </p> <p>@simplyfelicity: I'll need to run anything by DH first...but hopefully we'll come up with a good plan! :goodluck: </p> <p>@Espion: I totally told some of my work "family" super early the first time (wasn't sure if I would have debilitating early pregnancy symptoms, wanted one of my coworkers to have as much notice as possible, since she's my maternity leave plan :wink: ). Unfortunately, one of them must have been responsible for leaking the news to my workplace at large. :bummed: </p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: @blackbird: Our families currently are on notice that "no news is probably good news." I'm just not sure if I want to be more transparent, given past experience...</p> <p>@FaithFertility: @catlady: I may feel comfortable telling family after we see a heartbeat this time...we'll just wait and see, I guess.</p> <p>ETA: Is it strange that I'm most worried about when to tell family and coworkers? HB and same-aged friends (who know the drill) don't bother me as much! :silly: I also "came out" about IF/Loss/IVF to a number of ladies in my faith community in the last couple of weeks... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974482 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:56:46 +0000 catlady 1974482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With both my first (missed m/c) and second (successful pregnancy), we told the same people around 7 weeks but the difference was that we got an earlier ultrasound the second time around and actually saw the heartbeat before we told anyone. We only told immediate family and two of colleagues at work (who I am very close to). If/when we have another, I will probably wait until we see a heartbeat again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974478 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:49:09 +0000 simplyfelicity 1974478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told family after our first ultrasound at 9 weeks. I did caution them that nothing is a certainty but that after seeing the heartbeat means the odds are in our favor. After having a blighted ovum, it was really important to me to wait until after the ultrasound.<br /> I am sure whatever you decide will be great as long as you are comfortable with it. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974474 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:47:56 +0000 Espion 1974474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't even tell my mother until I was 16 weeks with my first successful pregnancy. The only people who knew earlier were DH (of course), my sister, and my best friend. Ironically, I told work before family and friends both times, because it makes a huge impact on my schedule. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974473 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:47:29 +0000 Anya 1974473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FliegepilzHut: I know what you mean about other peoples enthusiasm, when I told my mom I was like "Im pregnant again but I'm not happy yet because I'm scared" and she was all "YAY, a baby!" like nothing bad had happened before. In retrospect though, I appreciate her having faith when I didn't. Best of luck to you and your new bean!! :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974472 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:44:28 +0000 blackbird 1974472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nobody knew I was pregnant so I waited until 12 weeks. If people knew I was doing IVF, I would have been more open. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974470 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:42:47 +0000 Anya 1974470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I announced my first pregnancy to our parents on Mother's Day too :sad: When we got pregnant again, we did tell our parents early with cautious optimism, but it was different. I didn't announce to friends and acquaintances until well into the 2nd trimester. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974465 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:34:03 +0000 FaithFertility 1974465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We waited until 8 weeks and 1st u/s with this baby, after 2 c/p after our first 2 IUIs I wanted to get past the point that we got last times, but it was sooo haed since she was a total surprise!!!</p> <p>We told friends/co workers at 12 weeks! </p> <p>I say go with when it feela right for you!<br /> ♥ many prayers for you♥ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974464 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:31:41 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1974464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they know you are doing IVF, I think I might just say "first hcg was positive, but we're just going to have to see how this goes", instead if announcing "I'm pregnant". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-announce#post-1974460 Sun, 07 Dec 2014 16:24:35 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1974460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first, we announced to our families at around 7 weeks (Mother's Day was too good to pass up)...just before our good ultrasound...and a few weeks before our bad one (missed m/c). That one also stung because it got around at work that I was pregnant...but of course not everyone got the update.</p> <p>Last time, we were going to wait until the end of the first tri...but wound up telling folks (close friends, family) when it turned out to be a blighted ovum. :sad: And (unfortunately?) a few people, including my in-laws, had already guessed by then, even though it was early (6.5 weeks), because a) they knew we were doing IVF and b) .... "glowing," I guess?</p> <p>This time, I'm not sure. I'm tired of secrecy...on the other hand, I'm worried that my mother and mother-in-law may not adequately temper their enthusiasm, even though they know what we've been going through. I'm kind of a wreck right now-- hopeful, but it's SO early....</p> <p>What did/would you do?</p> <p>ETA: I do have a few girlfriends who I did/will tell after that first (or second?) good beta... </p>