https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 02:05:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2535872 Thu, 28 Apr 2016 11:19:14 +0000 ShootingStar 2535872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Engaged at 32, married at 34, baby 1 at 35, baby 2 at 38. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2534704 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 21:40:51 +0000 Anagram 2534704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got married at 32. I thought it might take a while so we stopped preventing immediately. And I got pregnant the first month, and we had our first LO 2 months before our first anniversary.</p> <p>We had our second the month before our 3rd anniversary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2534494 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 15:37:57 +0000 travelingnanny 2534494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you to everyone who responded. Hugs to those of you who had struggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2534295 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 12:04:06 +0000 LulaBee 2534295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married at 31, first baby at 32, last baby at 35. I didn't have any problems because of age, but I did have a miscarriage and a stillbirth in between my kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2534191 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 10:38:33 +0000 californiadreams 2534191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got married at 30 and wanted to finish my phd and enjoy a few months of being married and get a job etc. Instead I was (accidentally) 12 weeks pregnant by our first anniversary and finished my phd just after my son turned 2. Sometimes I'm wistful that we didn't have more alone time but I'm also glad to have just had my second kid at 35. My age is a factor in whether or not I want a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2534184 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 10:30:54 +0000 lemong 2534184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Got married when we were both 33, got pregnant a month or so after the wedding. LO1 was born when I was 34, LO2 was born when 36. And we're done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2534127 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 09:48:52 +0000 HazelEyes 2534127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got married a few months before turning 32. We waited for about 6 months--mostly because we delayed our honeymoon until the winter, so we had something new to plan and look forward to. </p> <p>We were pretty lucky and I had J at 33 and am about to have #2 at 35. I wish we had a little time before kids to travel, but I am also very glad we didn't wait too long bc I really wanted to be done by 35. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2534119 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 09:39:05 +0000 MediaNaranja 2534119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got married at 27 &amp; 31. We're now 31 &amp; 35 and still don't have kids, but are thinking of ttc later this year :P It took a while to get to a place where we felt truly comfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2533991 Tue, 26 Apr 2016 06:22:08 +0000 catomd00 2533991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was 26 when I got married but DH was 33. We had a baby by our first anniversary. I have no regrets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2533949 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 22:23:09 +0000 808love 2533949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Miscarried 3 months after marrying - without trying to get pregnant, just never updated my Fertility Friend tracker (to prevent) that month until we found out we actually did it during GO time.Conceived 3 months later when we actually tried for the first time. So gave birth a year and 3 months after marrying, well over 30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2533944 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 22:01:08 +0000 AngelicOne 2533944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married at 33 and had DS at 35. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2533869 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 19:29:56 +0000 wrkbrk 2533869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelingnanny: Married at 29, tried at 31, baby at 32. Good luck! There is no wrong answer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30/page/2#post-2533863 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 19:22:59 +0000 Ajsmommy 2533863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married 35, ttc 6 mos later, got pg with dd had dd at 36. Started ttc #2 at 38.....still ttc #2. Dealing with secondary infertility. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533857 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 19:18:37 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2533857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't get married until 39 &amp; still waited 6mos until we sold my home. It took us 10mos to conceive my DD with one miscarriage in the middle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533855 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 19:13:17 +0000 Mrs D 2533855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married at 29...Ttc 14 mos later... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533840 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 18:52:43 +0000 petitenoisette 2533840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got married at 29 (almost 30 :silly: ) and we started trying and got pregnant right away 2 months before our first anniversary. In retrospect waiting might have been nice for several reasons but I had baby fever and of course don't regret having our daughter! </p> <p>I really understand that unknown feeling and anxiety about your fertility. I had zero reason to suspect fertility issues (except for successfully avoiding pregnancy for 10+ years!) but I still was so worried, for naught. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533809 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 17:47:44 +0000 simplyfelicity 2533809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got married right after I turned 29 and we started ttc 5 months later. We had two losses and took 8 months to conceive our son. I had him a few months before I turned 31. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533806 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 17:38:57 +0000 yoursilverlining 2533806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was only 28 when we got married, but my husband was 44, so we had to think of timelines due to his age. We still waited 1 year to TTC and were very lucky to pregnant immediately. Had we both been in our early 30's when we got married, we would have waited several years to TTC. 30 is definitely not an omg-old age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533802 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 17:36:03 +0000 Ree723 2533802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married at 31 and had our first baby two weeks shy of our first anniversary.</p> <p>I worried we might have trouble conceiving as well, but we got lucky on our first shot. Had I known it would be that easy for us, I might have waited a year, but really though, no regrets as this has worked well for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533784 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:56:19 +0000 Shantuck 2533784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married at 29 and got pregnant immediately at 31 (baby born at 32). I started trying for #2 at 35 and suffered a year of infertility (now pregnant at 36). Hindsight is always 20/20 but I had always hoped to have 3 children and now the third is looking a bit iffy so I sort of wish I'd started trying a bit earlier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533773 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:39:21 +0000 PurplePumps 2533773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married at 31.5, started TTC about 15 months later after 2 more big vacation. Took 3.5 years to get a BFP.. still on edge in the first trimester. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533770 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:36:06 +0000 thepicklemonster 2533770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got married at 31 and we started trying pretty much right away. DH is a bit older, otherwise maybe we would have waited a few months -- but we were both pretty much ready anyway. When our first baby is born in October (assuming all goes well), I will be 32 and DH will be 46. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533769 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:34:00 +0000 BeachMama 2533769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got married at 32 (almost 33) and had DD at 34 and DS at 37 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533767 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:30:46 +0000 nwm 2533767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Got married at 33 and got pregnant 3 weeks later! Similar to @portboston, husband is 15 years older so felt some pressure for that reason to get going. I also frankly assumed our combined ages made the likelihood of difficulty conceiving very high. I feel so fortunate we were able to get pregnant so easily, but might have given it six months had I known how quickly it would happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533763 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:23:58 +0000 Lilbear 2533763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got married 5 months before my 30th birthday, and we started trying 8 months later. I had my first baby exactly one year later (at 31). During those 8 months before TTC, we were completing our pre baby traveling bucket list! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533760 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:21:57 +0000 hb3233 2533760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I met my husband when I was 25. Due to our school/work situation, we were in a long distance relationship for 5+ years. Got engaged at 30 and married at 31. I recently turned 33, and we will start TTC soon. I am beyond ready on a personal/relationship level, but we have had some work-related constraints. On the bright side, I have really relished the opportunity over the past year to focus on improving other aspects of my life, that I don't think I will have time to work on post-TTC. Plus, we are trying to up our date-night game while we can! In an ideal world I would have really (really) liked to start TTC earlier, but in our actual world I'm confident we've made the decision that works best for our family. If we have prohibitive age-related difficulties, I would be enthusiastic to adopt and would (hopefully) not have regrets. </p> <p>That said, I do have some recurrent (mild) anxiety that we'll wait too long and miss the opportunity, one can imagine all kind of scenarios. I think it's my personality when I decide on something - especially something as major and life changing as kids - I want to feel like I'm doing everything I can to make it happen. Hopefully all this waiting to TTC is making me more patient and accepting of the fact that there's some things I need to let go of my desire to control. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533753 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:10:28 +0000 Portboston 2533753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got married at 30.5 and we waited 1 year exactly before we started trying. I would have waited longer but my DH is 13 years older then me and I didn't want to make him wait anymore. We were very, very lucky and got pregnant quickly but I, like you &amp; many other women, was worried about having issues. You just never know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533752 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:10:26 +0000 gingerbebe 2533752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married 3 weeks before my 30th bday. Started NTNP right after I took the Bar Exam (so 6 months after our wedding). We got pregnant right away but had recurrent losses, a serious health diagnosis, and treatment for the condition. All told, our first child was born 3 years later at age 33. I got surprise pregnant with our second less than a year later and he's due in a few weeks when I'll be 35. No regrets starting soon - I tell people all the time to have your kids younger if you can help it cuz it's exhausting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533750 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 16:07:42 +0000 Alba4 2533750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married at 30. We waited a few years to try and I had DS at age 33. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-you-wait-to-start-having-kids-if-you-got-married-at-30#post-2533743 Mon, 25 Apr 2016 15:59:51 +0000 cnidaria 2533743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Married at 33, started TTC 3 months after the wedding, pregnant after 3 cycles. We didn't want to wait in case we had difficulties, since the wait times to get a referral &amp; see a specialist are a bit crazy. However, we were just lucky that it happened so quickly for us :happy: </p>