https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 06:12:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-your-preschooler-cry-when-you-dropped-them-off#post-1075586 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 01:34:42 +0000 VanillaBean 1075586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sandy-Hugs to you and hang in there. :) All the teachers are aware of how you are feeling so do not feel guilty for the teachers. I am sure that most if not all the classmates also cried too when they first started.<br /> The teachers' job are to help your lo adjust to being in a child care setting and be the child givers that your child can trust and learn from. In time, your lo will adjust. Like I said, it varies from one child to the next. It is always hardest for us mommies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-your-preschooler-cry-when-you-dropped-them-off#post-1075576 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 01:12:35 +0000 sandy 1075576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@VanillaBean: my LO is 21 months and just started a drop off program last week...she goes T/Th.. She cried 30 minutes the first day :( ...I thought "she'll be over it on 5 minutes" like everyone tells me but that wasn't the case :(. I feel guilty not not only for my LO but also for the teachers and the other classmates. </p> <p>@shellio: we're going through the same thing...I'll let you know when it gets better for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-your-preschooler-cry-when-you-dropped-them-off#post-1075568 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 00:58:52 +0000 VanillaBean 1075568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It vary from child to child. I used to be a provider for that age group and I had children who would cry anywhere from a day to 3 months when it comes to drop offs. I know it is so hard to see your child cry when you leave him with his caregiver but what you do not see is that the crying does not last long, typically anywhere from a minute to five minutes if you have a caregiver who is attentive and would engage with your child and/or help redirect his attention to an activity. This usually will stop the crying right away.</p> <p>Also, it is a lot harder for a child to adapt to child care when he is part-time, two days a week. Your son got to spend five days with you and then he is placed in child care and it rotates over and over again. Five days is a long time for any child to go from a home environment back to a child care environment without feeling overwhelm by being in a different environment and being with a different person who is not mom/dad. </p> <p>If possible, it might be more helpful if he goes Monday and Friday or Tuesday and Thursday so that the time he is away from child care is not as long. I find that this usually reduces that anxiety the child has when it comes to drop offs. </p> <p>I would wait a few more weeks and see if there are improvements in drop offs, then reconsider his schedule if you can. </p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-your-preschooler-cry-when-you-dropped-them-off#post-1074318 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 12:28:32 +0000 shellio 1074318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: I wish his teachers were that responsive... the lead teacher will respond to our texts during the day but she always seems so overwhelmed and busy as it is that I don't want to bug her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-your-preschooler-cry-when-you-dropped-them-off#post-1074295 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 12:19:35 +0000 mrs. wagon 1074295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wagon Jr. started daycare at 18 months and cried every morning for a week? or two? Then he went through phases... sometimes he'd run in and not even say bye, and sometimes we had to bribe him to go into the room and then sneak out. Luckily he really bonded with the teachers. And in the beginning, they woudl email or text us to let us know he stopped crying.. always within a few minutes! </p> <p>One thing that has helped us is that we give him a gummy vitamin at each dropoff. He still looks forward to it every morning! At almost 4 years old ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-your-preschooler-cry-when-you-dropped-them-off#post-1074285 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 12:16:16 +0000 autumnlove 1074285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, my baby started daycare at 12 weeks. She had clingy drop offs around 11 and 16 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-your-preschooler-cry-when-you-dropped-them-off#post-1074252 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 12:05:51 +0000 shellio 1074252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to add that he is not a very clingy baby, he does well with new people and when we have left him with adults he is not super familiar with (grandparents that live out of town etc) he has no problem at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-did-your-preschooler-cry-when-you-dropped-them-off#post-1074250 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 12:05:04 +0000 shellio 1074250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is 20 months, and has been going to preschool for about a month. He goes two days a week (Th/F) for 3 hours in the morning. I have only been home to drop off/pick up a couple of times, usually it is DH. Hubby HATES it because he cries every time. The first couple days he did great but now he gets so upset when they arrive. I have no concerns about the care he is getting there, I think it is a good school and per their reports, DS is doing well and participating in the activities without any issues. For some other reasons we have debated about leaving him in preschool at all but there are plenty of reasons we want him in preschool. </p> <p>I was just hoping to get an idea how long it takes them to get used to being dropped off. I know that only going two days a week doesn't get him into the routine as quickly. I'm hoping that soon, the crying will stop :( How long did your LO cry when dropped off? </p>