https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 09:36:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555700 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 08:50:29 +0000 LuLu Mom 1555700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 18 months she's also sleeping with an entourage, she has to put each of them to sleep and kisses them when we put her in. She has puppy, baby, Mickey, and then her lovey (blanket) that she sleeps on. I think each week she adds another member to the night time routine, but it helps with the tears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555406 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 06:08:17 +0000 Lindsay05 1555406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Until she sleeps! Going in the room only makes it way worse. LO had this at the same time too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555365 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 01:28:42 +0000 lemondrop 1555365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the type of cry- freaked out and we get him immediately, just fussing and we give him 10-15 minutes. </p> <p>During that stage, I sat in his doorway for about 30 minutes until he fell asleep. Not long after we figured out that giving him a book and his Scout doll or his interactive Jake (&amp; Neverland Pirates) doll was super useful since he would read or play quietly until he fell asleep. After that discovery we have next to no crying and he doesn't need us to stay close. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555361 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 01:08:37 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1555361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>umm... ten minutes, maybe? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555360 Wed, 09 Apr 2014 01:03:42 +0000 Boogs 1555360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Mine is a year older than yours, but he did the same thing and we just let him cry until he slept because he was testing boundaries. It was rough, but he eventually figured it out. And when we figured out a distraction like getting to pick something special to bed made him happier to go to bed, it made life so much better for all. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555288 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 22:12:29 +0000 winniebee 1555288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: he might like that! Ts crib is overcrowded with stuffed toys it's insane! But he loves his entourage :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555285 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 22:09:06 +0000 HLK208 1555285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I do the same, every 5-10 for a back rub and eventually she gets it (unless she's sick) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555280 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 22:03:03 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1555280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: well, he does sleep with two stuffed animals. They aren't his loveys though and he doesn't seem all that into them. I wonder if I should tell him to pick out a toy to take to bed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555269 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:57:54 +0000 winniebee 1555269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: or have u tried a special toy? Like if I give T a little musical toy or train or book he is happy. He might not fall asleep for awhile but there are no tears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555264 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:54:24 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1555264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beaker: it's one huge bummer about small apartment living - I can't get away from it :( He does have white noise he sleeps with... but I haven't tried music. He LOVES music, so maybe I should try that... I'll consider the pillow too - maybe he is ready for it and it will be just the thing to get him to calm down and sleep :) thanks!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555261 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:52:43 +0000 winniebee 1555261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: it's hard to hear him cry!! We have started bedtime earlier and that way if he cries he won't be up all hours. T has always been a cry to put on Jammie's but ok after books kind of kid. But the past 3 weeks he has cried more frequently at bedtime. It's heartbreaking but I know I'm not doing him any favors by dragging it out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555255 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:48:53 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1555255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had this for a little while, and the only thing that eventually helped was a rock solid routine (plus warnings about the number of books &amp; songs he would get). If it's closer to whining I'd let it go on for a while, maybe try to offer him self soothing alternatives (nightlight? music or sleep turtle thing? or a special pillow like @winniebee: suggested?)</p> <p>If you've done all this I apologize. I hope it gets better. I wouldn't count whine/crying as real crying.. just turn the volume down on the monitor :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555251 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:45:44 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1555251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: haha! that's so cute. We had been planning to hold off on a pillow until we transitioned to a toddler bed, but he does love pillows (he likes to pretend sleep with them during the day). I do agree about bedtime is bedtime... and this age is one for testing boundaries... it's hard to know though, when is the right time to comfort/soothe/give in and when to be firm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555250 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:44:22 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1555250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pinkcupcake: they are so smart at this age! He knows I'm out here and he just cries, "mama! mama!" I mean, seriously kid, whyyyyy. Like he knows what he's doing to me! </p> <p>I didn't realize our LO's are so close in age, J is 25 months as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555247 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:42:16 +0000 winniebee 1555247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Until he falls asleep..... I will go in after 5-10 and shhhh and rub his back but that's it. Bed time is bed time! He was protesting bedtime a lot lately and we just have him a pillow and he is so much better now! He thinks it's special :). He is 23 mos </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555241 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:40:28 +0000 pinkcupcake 1555241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: we are going through this right now. I've been dreading bedtime with my 25 month old - she begs for another book, another song, etc...and it's awful now that she can talk and asks me to stay, pleeeeease :( we have been trying lots of "forewarning" about bedtime - like , "ok, three more books and then it's time for sleep sack and song and bed," "time for your sleepsack and then song," just so that she can expect and know that bed time is imminent. Some nights are better than others... Last week was awful. We let her cry for ::10-15 before going in and each time she was so hysterical and upset - and then immediately as soon as she sees us it's fine. Last week was so bad I had to sleep on her floor to get her to sleep at all :(</p> <p>So... Sorry I'm not more helpful. :( just letting you know that you're not alone :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555235 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:33:22 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1555235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: @littlecasita1122: omg! all our babies need to settle down and go to sleep!!! It still makes me so sad to hear him cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555219 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:15:53 +0000 littlecasita1122 1555219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: he is almost 22 months. And what do you know, he just started crying! Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555215 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:06:07 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1555215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: I think it could just be a case of cabin fever... he hasn't had the chance to be outside, burn energy, etc... so he's not getting as tired as he used to.... It's finally warming up so we've been trying to get him outside everyday </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555211 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:04:45 +0000 regberadaisy 1555211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BTW - totally coincidental but LO is crying right now! LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555208 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:03:36 +0000 regberadaisy 1555208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: LOL but on the flip side you're stressing yourself and him out spending so much time trying to get him to fall asleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555203 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 21:01:39 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1555203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlecasita1122: how old is he? I'm fine with rocking, because he's already two so I'm not too concerned about a habit... but I don't like him staying up this late.</p> <p>@locavore_mama: it's possible... but am *I* ready for him to stay up until 9 or 10 pm ;)</p> <p>And his cry is neither of those... It's different. Like, I just don't want to go to bed and I feel so betrayed by you cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555199 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 20:58:16 +0000 regberadaisy 1555199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends. We can tell the difference in her cries. There's the regular I just woke up but want someone to soothe me cry. Then there's the I'm scared/I had a bad dream cry. If it's the latter we go in right away. The former up to 15 and if she doesn't stop we go in to soothe her.</p> <p>Do you think maybe he's ready for a later bedtime? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555197 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 20:56:28 +0000 littlecasita1122 1555197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are going through this right now, it's so frustrating! We usually have a 10 minute rule and will go in and comfort him, but lately we've been stretching to 15 or 20 minutes, just because we can tell he's more whining and not hysterically crying. Last night we were all awake from 11pm-2am because we don't want to get into the rocking habit and he would just not go back to sleep. We are going to try starting the bedtime routine 10 minutes later tomorrow and then 10 minutes later the next night to see if a later bedtime will help so he's more tired and falls asleep faster on his own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555189 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 20:53:12 +0000 pl0508 1555189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>15 mins !! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-let-your-toddler-cry#post-1555177 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 20:42:03 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1555177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sleep trained a long time ago at 6 months, and then he started STTN at a year. He had a 6-week long 18-month sleep regression.... but lately protests bedtime like no other. He just cries and cries and cries, and now he's a pacifier addict again (after not having had it for 6 months). It is soooo hard listening to him. He wants to rock in the rocking chair for an hour and sing songs. But I just cannot do that until 10pm. ughhhhh. It's so hard. :(</p> <p>how long would you let your toddler cry? </p>