https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 21:07:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-plan-to-provide-monetary-support-to-your-kids#post-77190 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 09:12:14 +0000 prettylizy 77190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents made my sister and I get jobs as early as was legally allowable, so we always had our own money for fun things. That being said, they also gave us a large sum of money to help fund our weddings, and we both got married in our mid-twenties. It was a slow taper off of the family payroll. I figure we'll do the same with our kids. To this day if I needed the money, I know I could ask my parents for it and they'd give it to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-plan-to-provide-monetary-support-to-your-kids#post-77168 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 08:57:21 +0000 mrs. wagon 77168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents always encouraged me to make my own money but never hesitated to give me money when I asked for it or needed it. They also always bought me tons of stuff all throughout my childhood and college, whether I wanted it or not! But spending money was always up to me to come up with, and after I graduated from college and my dad put a down payment on a used car for me as a graduation present, I was pretty much on my own. </p> <p>Rob Sr.'s parents were the same way as he was growing up (he had every cool gadget, toy, etc that any kid could ever ask for) but they didn't have much money when he got older, so he was on his own pretty much since late high school. He went to school practically for free and always had a job so he's been fine all this time.</p> <p>ETA: oops, I didn't answer the question. I would love to always provide support for my kids whenever they need it, and I hope to be in a financial position where that's always possible. But I'd like for my kids to always be earning some kind of money, even if it's just for spending money to go out with their friends. I wouldn't mind providing the essentials (housing, food, clothes, books) until they are done with college (or high school if they don't go to college). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-plan-to-provide-monetary-support-to-your-kids#post-77158 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 08:46:43 +0000 looch 77158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am undecided on this. It really depends on how I see my son growing up and handling himself. If he's hardworking and appreciative, I'll gladly help within reason.</p> <p>I was on my own (by my choice) after college and haven't looked back. I would hope my son behaves the same way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-plan-to-provide-monetary-support-to-your-kids#post-77157 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 08:44:34 +0000 tequiero21 77157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm with you. until they get a job and secure their own finances? but i would cut them off if i felt like they were leeching and being lazy about finding jobs. and i just hope the economies much better when our kids are finding jobs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-plan-to-provide-monetary-support-to-your-kids#post-77154 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 08:42:44 +0000 heffalump 77154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents also supported me until I graduated and got a job. They still help us out with things. Hubby had loans to get him through school. His parents will lend us money when we need it, and we pay them back when we can. I think it depends on what we can afford to do with our kids. I'd love to help them out as long as possible, but I also have to think about my own future and make sure we have enough in savings for retirement! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-plan-to-provide-monetary-support-to-your-kids#post-77153 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 08:41:57 +0000 oliviaoblivia 77153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'll support them for as long as they need it. I don't want them to have to worry about food or rent if they are having hard times. That said - I'm not planning on paying for shopping sprees and manicures.<br /> My parents generously paid for my education and that helped me get on my feet after school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-plan-to-provide-monetary-support-to-your-kids#post-77152 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 08:40:28 +0000 chopsuey 77152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hurmm. Maybe until they're out of college? I haven't thought that far ahead! We want our kids to work, but don't want them stressing out over money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-you-plan-to-provide-monetary-support-to-your-kids#post-77149 Fri, 17 Feb 2012 08:32:35 +0000 Andrea 77149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents provided for me until I graduated college and secured a job. DH's parents didn't pay for much of his college expenses so I guess you could say he was partly on his own once he started college. I saw that it was really stressful for him to come up with that money (and his parents had it) so I wouldn't want to do that to my kids. It ended up that he had to borrow money from his older brother to make ends meet. </p> <p>So I am willing to support my kids for the same amount of time that my parents supported me. But I don't think I would be happy to do it any longer than that (barring any special circumstances like health, for example). How about you? </p>