https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 19:23:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2832016 Tue, 03 Jul 2018 08:48:57 +0000 periwinklebee 2832016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@megpie: that's amazing!</p> <p>I've been listening to the Power Broker, which is this phenomenal, Pulitzer prize winning account of how one person - backed by oil, automobile, construction, banking, etc interests - amassed massive power in New York that he used to build (largely toll) roads/bridges and to crush mass transit. The description of how much commutes suck as a result is incredibly well-written, and he talks a lot about how resigned people become to it. It's super depressing how much better commutes could have been if planners in the early 20th century had had different priorities... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831996 Tue, 03 Jul 2018 08:02:33 +0000 MaryM 2831996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted twice because it's 1-2 hours depending on the day/weather/traffic. </p> <p>Before I had DS, I worked 10-6 so I could take the HOV lanes when they opened up to general traffic. But daycare is open 6:30 to 6:30 close to home, so I had to switch my hours to 8-4 so I'm home in time for pick up if DH can't do it. </p> <p>It's usually not too bad getting to work at 7 a.m. But trying to get as far into VA as I can before 5 p.m. when leaving DC at 4 sucks. </p> <p>DH works in sales so he's in his car all day. He works out in the county more, so our house is pretty centrally located. Plus he grew up in the burbs so it's where he's happiest (and I wouldn't be happy living in the congestion of the city. We wanted a yard and neighborhood community) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831957 Mon, 02 Jul 2018 20:52:16 +0000 MrsSCB 2831957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do daycare drop off in the morning, which makes it closer to an hour (this includes stopping at Starbucks to pick up my preordered coffee, though 😂). Afternoon is about 30 min. We’re moving soon, and my morning commute should stay the same time, but afternoon will be a bit longer. So excited to get into our own house, though.</p> <p>@dc yoga bee: also in the same area (nova). Traffic is SO bad. Blech. Definitely worse than when I was growing up here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831900 Mon, 02 Jul 2018 16:16:12 +0000 megpie 2831900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live about 3 blocks away from work - so about a 5 minute walk or 1 minute drive haha. DH is about a 10 minute drive to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831585 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 19:57:37 +0000 Anagram 2831585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: so one way is an hour and fifteen minutes, door to door? That's not terrible. How was the adjustment? Do you park at the train station? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831580 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 19:41:19 +0000 Iced Tea 2831580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both work from home, so we don't commute at all. The kids go to daycare about 7 minutes away. And my husband does have to travel internationally a lot. He just left for a two week trip. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831561 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 15:26:54 +0000 periwinklebee 2831561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.Mermaid: Right now biking isn't really an option b/c I won't do it on city streets with LO, but if we end up moving to the burbs - which seems likely - I'd ideally like to be near a rail-trail that links up with public transit so I could potentially bike into the city. Those bikes look awesome! I'd seen the trailers you can hook on the back that convert into strollers, but not the cargo bike solution... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831533 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 09:53:42 +0000 QBbride 2831533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work 20 mins from home, so my commute is 40 minutes. I work 12 hour shifts and work a 0.7 position so I only commute 10 days/month. </p> <p>My DH works 30-35 mins from home, so 60-70 minute commute daily. Maybe a bit longer coming home so maybe more like 1h20 mins daily. He works M-F. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831529 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 09:42:09 +0000 birdofafeather 2831529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>10 minutes round trip for preschool drop offs for me. I WAH for myself. DH is a firefighter so only drives once every 24 hours (or 48 or 72) about an hour away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831507 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 08:27:17 +0000 Ms.Mermaid 2831507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: is biking an option? I’m happy to chat kid carrying logistics and storage. I just bought a long tail e-assist cargo bike to help with my commute. </p> <p>I used to commute an hour each way and changed to 3 miles - city traffic can sometimes suck, so driving is 15-35 minutes but biking is 25 minutes there/20 min home plus I get to ride my bike. My husband also rides or drives 2.5-3 miles to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831503 Sat, 30 Jun 2018 08:10:46 +0000 mrsrain 2831503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both work within a mile of home. It takes me two minutes in traffic and DH about 5 minutes. It’s a small town and we happen to live and work near the town center. We moved from Austin, TX so we really appreciate what we’ve got here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831492 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 23:09:18 +0000 youboots 2831492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now we both WAH. He does go see customers. Sometimes he drives 0 hours a week. Sometimes 14+. But we are moving to his corporate headquarters in August so it will be 40 minuets round trip for him and I’ll still WAH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831482 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 21:14:17 +0000 Miss Ariel 2831482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It’s about 15 minuets in the morning and 45 minuets in the afternoon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831476 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 21:02:13 +0000 cake2017 2831476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>35 mins to work and about an hour leaving work. DMV traffic sucks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831449 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 18:47:49 +0000 Litebrite 2831449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: agree, there is no way I would have have put up with my current commute for so long if I didn't love my job...but its starting to wear me down. As much as I love my job I couldn't do the commute forever </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831448 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 18:45:30 +0000 Litebrite 2831448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I commute &gt;2 he a day and it really impacts my quality of life. Like @LCTBQE, it's a balance between the house/community we can afford and accessibility to the city. Eventually I'll need to find something closer to home, but it will likely be a more boring, worse paying job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831443 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 18:17:35 +0000 lamariniere 2831443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WAH, so zero. </p> <p>My DH has about 1 hour each way, sometimes it’s more, especially if it rains. His office is less than 5 miles from home but we live in a heavily congested city and my DH takes a bus + train + taxi (sometimes a boat!) to get to work every day since there is no public transit near the office. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831435 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 17:32:54 +0000 Eminthevalley 2831435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 minute drive, 12-15 minute walk one way. We made some deliberate choices and decided small town living and working in town would be best for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831418 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 16:11:34 +0000 Ginabean3 2831418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SAHM but when I used to work it was a 10 mile commute that could take anywhere from 45-60 minutes. Driving. It was horrible. </p> <p>Currently DH’s commute is 10-15 minutes. It’s awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831400 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 15:10:30 +0000 nana87 2831400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>dh works from home, so no time at all.</p> <p>The girls' daycare is ~20min commute no matter how we go (public transportation or walking or car). My commute depends on the day--I sometimes work right near them, and sometimes work from home after dropping them off. Starting in Sept, 2 days/week I'll be commuting about an hour away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831395 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 15:06:45 +0000 dc yoga bee 2831395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: AMEN to the subway madness! Or sexually assault you with no one to help. So sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831392 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:57:06 +0000 periwinklebee 2831392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: This is a good perspective! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831391 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:54:16 +0000 periwinklebee 2831391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: I have a very similar commute now and feel similarly...</p> <p>@wrkbrk: Hah, that's crazy close! </p> <p>@LCTBQE: A fairly apt description of the subway. :silly: And I'm sure it could only be worse in New York. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831390 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:51:33 +0000 wrkbrk 2831390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: IKR. That’s why we chose to build where we did, in the city. That and it was much more affordable!! Now I do pick up DS most evenings and that means it is about one hour from when I leave work, drive to get him, wrestle him into the car from his class,<br /> and drive back home... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831389 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:51:26 +0000 looch 2831389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So much of it is your attitude though. If you're commuting to a job that you don't like, any amount of time is negative. People think I am nuts to do this commute, but the perks I get are worth it to me.</p> <p>I try to look at my super commute days as me time. I don't drive during that time, so I can read, watch a show on my ipad, do some of my volunteer work, or even take calls from the office, so I don't view it as totally wasted time. I instead look at it as 8 hours of time I week I have to get things done so I don't have to do them later. On the other days when I drive, I listen to NPR and it's how I catch up on the news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831387 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:47:31 +0000 LCTBQE 2831387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: omgggg I'm so jealous, you're saving years off your life </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831386 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:46:59 +0000 LCTBQE 2831386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: yeah, I imagine that neighbors who you *own* with could get a lot hairier than neighbors who you just rent next to, especially if there's no condo board or whatever to reign them in. sounds like you could get lucky or unlucky...</p> <p>my co-workers keep asking me how the new commute is. I say, what I lost in time I make up for in experience. I basically added 20 minutes each way, but I love having my own house as much as I thought I would, and as a bonus no one is trying to show me their dick or beg for money or crush me to death on the subway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831385 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:46:39 +0000 wrkbrk 2831385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: 4 minutes door to door for me (lawyer). We can see my office building from our second floor deck! I love living downtown. 15 minutes for DW (professor). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831383 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:33:35 +0000 dc yoga bee 2831383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dahlia: that’s the kicker for me, I work 7-6 everyday. I have no choice but to be in shitty traffic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-long-do-youyour-partner-spend-commuting-each-day/page/2#post-2831381 Fri, 29 Jun 2018 14:21:41 +0000 808love 2831381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both live and work in the burbs. About 15 min each way. </p>