https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 08:04:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863394 Sun, 23 Dec 2018 15:12:38 +0000 ElbieKay 2863394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband leaves the house around 7:30 or 8am, and he gets home around 8pm most of the time. He used to work later more frequently but now we have infant twins.</p> <p>I commute after 8:45 preschool dropoff, and I get home at 7.</p> <p>We are both dealing with less “stretch” in our day now that we have three kids. It is a lot harder to check in with work while we are home now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863386 Sun, 23 Dec 2018 12:11:11 +0000 Marfi 2863386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On a typical week DH works 40 hours. His company does consulting work for other companies so occasionally when they have a huge project nearing a deadline he will work late hours. Last week for example, he worked 8am-7pm almost every day (except Friday when he worked 1pm-8pm, because he was originally planning on taking holiday that day but wasn't able because of the project so he went in late). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863365 Sun, 23 Dec 2018 08:01:51 +0000 hellobeeboston 2863365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is also an attorney but works in-house and has pretty great hours - about 40-45, but commutes 1-1.5 hr each way... I work about 40 hrs a week but can do one work-from-home day which is so key. My commute is long, but not as bad as DH's, mine is about 1 hr each way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863332 Sat, 22 Dec 2018 18:29:55 +0000 birdofafeather 2863332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is a firefighter so scheduled 24 hour shifts averaging 60 hr/week but he works OT often so we’ll round up to 84/week. His schedule can be rough but then he’ll be home in the middle of the week and it’s great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863308 Sat, 22 Dec 2018 14:37:05 +0000 cat620 2863308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works about a 45 hour week in the office, but he also works from home as needed during evenings and weekends, so it ends up being a lot more than 45 hours a week. He's always "on call," so if he gets a work call or text, he responds immediately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863230 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 15:23:10 +0000 peaches1038 2863230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is a full time professor at an art school. His “official” work hours are 18 or 24 hours per week depending on the semester. But he spends a lot of time grading, writing curriculum and attending meetings. He also has to keep a studio practice. I don’t keep track of how much he works at home, but I would say it’s probably close to 40 during the school year. He has A LOT of time off for breaks and during those times, he probably works 30 hours/week in the studio, unless daycare is closed. He does A LOT around the house and I really can’t imagine what our lives would be like without the flexibility his job affords, even though I get really jealous of his schedule! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863226 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 15:09:17 +0000 YogiRunner 2863226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Another DH who is an attorney... also was at big law for years then went in house. His current gig still has him working about 60 hours a week, though. The other week he had phone meetings at all hours of the night with people overseas, and pulled an all nighter. Ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863221 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 14:13:42 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2863221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ChitownRo: Sounds like the exact kind of job change my husband and I are hoping for with his next position. Also would love if his job was a 10 minute commute from our future house in your area😋. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863216 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 14:01:53 +0000 cake2017 2863216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for sharing- I sometimes feel alone knowing DH works long hours to provide for us. I didn’t realize it’s somewhat a “norm” with a variety of professions etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863215 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 13:59:46 +0000 cake2017 2863215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBarn: It’s tough having DH work a lot and most weekenights I’m in bed half asleep when he comes home. We do a lot of “catching up” on Fridays and Sundays. It’s tough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863211 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 13:35:59 +0000 yerpie110 2863211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is an engineer and works 830-530 + 45 min commute. Rarely ever has to work weekend, no work once he's home. He occasionally has to travel for a few nights. I'm a psychologist and work 9-330 + 1 late night until 6 + 20 min commute, and 2 hrs on Sunday. I consider us very lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863210 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 13:31:04 +0000 LBarn 2863210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: it’s so hard! I find myself getting jealous of my friends who simply get to eat dinner with their husbands during the week. Or when I see dads picking up their kids at my daughters preschool! I’m also 28 weeks pregnant and very emotional right now ;) </p> <p>@jape14: when he first started his job, his intention was to put in a few years at big law and then move in house. But now he actually really likes it and is considering staying and trying to make partner... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863209 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 13:05:29 +0000 Rocker2014 2863209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works a completely predictable 8:30 - 5 schedule M-F, which includes a lunch break. He almost never works at home in any way. I'm the one with the crazy schedule, with lots of day trips that make my schedule unpredictable and working at home outside of work hours. I oversee services in an industry that is operating 24/7/365, so I have to be available to address issues pretty much at any time. I have no idea how much time I actually work each week! The trade off is that my work is very flexible and I basically make my own schedule, so I'm available for appointments or to occasionally get errands done during the day. But, DH does all the daycare drop-offs and pickups, that's the only way it would work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863204 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 12:03:19 +0000 JJ2626 2863204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So many DHs who are lawyers here! DH is a lawyer and now in house after years in big law. I’d say it’s about 45 hours/week in the office and another 5-10 at home most week but sometimes less at home. So he still works kind of a lot but he has way more control over his schedule than he did at the law firm and can leave early if necessary. I am annoyed he doesn’t have one of those cushy in house gigs but he likes what he does... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863202 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 11:42:47 +0000 LCTBQE 2863202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jape14: same, although my husband went in house a few years ago. It’s so much better. He maintains the big firm experience made him a better lawyer and writer but especially now that we have babies he’s glad the 55-85 hr weeks are in the past. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863201 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 11:36:11 +0000 Ajsmommy 2863201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh works 60+ hrs a week. Mostly at his office..some at home.</p> <p>I solo parent most weeknights.</p> <p>Some nights he doesn't get home until well after we're all asleep.</p> <p>His day starts at 9 am... Then he basically works until he's done.. He tries to leave the office between 5-6 and Then he'll finish when he gets home but sometimes he has to stay in the office. Depends what's going on </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863198 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 11:04:26 +0000 krispi 2863198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: My husband works in IT but has a very similar schedule, except I think his is 2-3-2. So one week, he'll work Mon and Tues, be off Wed-Fri, then work Sat and Sun. Then the next week, he'll be off Mon and Tues, work Wed-Fri, and be off Sat and Sun. He has 12 hour shifts from 7 am - 7 pm when he works.</p> <p>I don't like that he works every other weekend. I'm used to it now, but it's still tough because he misses lots of family events. And I feel like we have to pack so many things into the weekends he is off, we're constantly on the go those days. </p> <p>He also doesn't get any holidays off, which we're both a little bitter about, because that wasn't disclosed before he took this job. If he's scheduled to work on a holiday, he works. And if he's scheduled to be off, he's off. They have PTO blackout dates around holidays, so it means we never get to enjoy a long holiday weekend. He's either working that Fri and Mon or that Sat and Sun.</p> <p>He does enjoy his days off during the week though, and he usually gets things done around the house during that time. I work a normal 40 hour week, but I work from home, so I do get to see him around the house on those days. Our daughter goes to daycare full-time because 1) She was already on that schedule when he started that shift and 2) I don't know of any daycare that would accommodate a rotating shift. So when he's off during the week, he doesn't have to worry about parenting. He can do home improvement projects, general chores, and does a lot of the grocery shopping. I'm still jealous though that he gets to enjoy a lot of days off work child-free, when half of mine are spent solo parenting all day. And because he can't take time off, I'm always the one taking vacation when daycare is closed for holidays.</p> <p>We've managed to make it work for 3 years so far, but he's starting to get tired of the schedule. I think the holidays are what's really getting to him. He's a bit underemployed in his current situation, as he took a step down to get out of a really stressful job. He enjoyed the mental break at first, but I think he's getting ready to look for something different. If he's able to find a typical 9-5 job, then I guess we'll have a different stress of trying to fit all those chores in on the weekend, instead of him having time during the week. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863196 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 10:56:18 +0000 MrsSCB 2863196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lahela017: Same, we're both very much 9 to 5 hours. I can't imagine either of us having such long work days! </p> <p>I actually switched careers because I used to have to work weekends, holidays, and weird hours (in the news business) and I was tired of it. Now I'm at a university where the official, full-time schedule is 35 hours plus an hour for lunch. My husband is a programmer and WFH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863192 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 10:27:29 +0000 snowjewelz 2863192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no idea how many hours he actually works. He is a pastor and while his day time schedule is more flexible (so he drops off and picks up and makes dinner before I get home), he also works weekends, nights, basically never stops :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863189 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 10:21:35 +0000 josina 2863189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both work 40 hrs/week. I work 8-5 with a 1 hr lunch; he works 7-3:30 with a 30 min. lunch.<br /> He works for the county so he is on call in the winter if it snows - which hasn't happened yet. He would then go in at 5 am until 5 depending on roads. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863188 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 10:11:31 +0000 superkate 2863188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works right around 40. I'm the one who works long hours in our marriage. I average about 55 or so, but go up to 65 or 70 in my really busy times. This is combined with me traveling almost every weekend from January-April. During the summer I only work 40 hours with no travel. I know it's hard on DH but he's a trooper and doesn't complain (too much). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863187 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 10:05:37 +0000 skinnycow 2863187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works a pretty consistent 40 hours/week with a 30-45 min commute. He does travel about 25% of the time though.</p> <p>With the exception of a few weeks per year I work exactly 40 hours per week. I'm paid for overtime work and my company tries to avoid it when possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863180 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 09:27:28 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2863180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It just depends. Some weeks less than 40. Some weeks it could be 80. We thought it would get better after the first few years and I would say it has somewhat but it's just hit or miss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863179 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 09:23:13 +0000 looch 2863179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband works for a global firm, and he supports an area that isn't in this country, so that requires him to be on site and when he is in the US, work their hours. He might have a call at 6:30 am, but then he's done by 3 in the afternoon. Both of us work nights and weekends about once a quarter, but we know well in advance and one of us is always available to do the parenting duties, which is good. I would estimate he works about 60 hours a week.</p> <p>While this may sound terrible on the surface, it's also his home country, so it gives us the best of both worlds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work/page/2#post-2863177 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 08:39:31 +0000 ChitownRo 2863177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH now works a predictable 830-6 and only has a 10 minute commute. Sometimes will do reading at home. Prob 50 hours/week now. He previously worked at a hedge fund and worked 630-7, would do 10 mins of bedtime reading w the kids, then work from home for a few more hours. So it was more like 70 hours/week - so hard. He took a pay cut for this new job but our overall quality of life is so much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work#post-2863176 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 08:27:23 +0000 Lahela017 2863176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, these hours seem really crazy to me. DH works 40 hours a week, never any more (actually since he has an hour paid lunch, he really only works 35). His commute is about 45 minutes each way though, so that adds to the time away from home. I also currently work 40-45 hours a week with a 45 minute commute. Neither of us bring work home with us for the evenings or weekends either. I guess we are pretty lucky. He's a computer programmer, and I'm a civil engineer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work#post-2863175 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 08:23:40 +0000 jape14 2863175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBarn: I totally understand your pain; hang in there! it was a large paycut but it is totally worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work#post-2863174 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 08:16:16 +0000 Anagram 2863174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband basically works 8:30-6:00. Sometimes only 8:30-6:30. If he has early meetings, he generally takes them at home (because his team is spread out in US, UK, and Hong Kong, so meetings tend to be at 7:00 am or 7:30 am), and he will go into work later around 9:30.</p> <p>His job actually has really predictable hours, which is great of our area. He's rarely home before 7, but also rarely home after 7:30. And then we get the odd day like yesterday where he walks in the door at 5:45 pm. He basically never has to work on weekends and he gets 5 weeks vacay a year, so it could be worse.</p> <p>I leave for work at 6:45 am and am home around 4:30 pm, and I make slightly less than 25% of what DH makes, so I guess he has it pretty good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work#post-2863172 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 07:42:32 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2863172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He is supposed to work 40 hours, it's usually more like 45-50 + 10-15 hours at home doing emails and grading. It can increase when he has to prep a course and record lectures and this spring will be insane bc he is teaching 3 courses on top of his actual full time job. He is a college administrator and adjunct professor. I work a more regular 40 hour week and can be totally done with work when I leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-hoursdays-does-your-dhso-work#post-2863171 Fri, 21 Dec 2018 07:31:43 +0000 Becky 2863171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBarn: I second this. I know I shouldn’t get annoyed, but it really bothers me when people I know complain about what their husbands don’t do etc. Sometimes I just want to say “At least he’s there!” Or when people like my in laws ask if he’s working late and insinuate I should tell him to come home early, like that’s an option I have chosen not to use. </p>