https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 21 May 2026 09:13:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-637312 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 14:58:23 +0000 banana 637312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and DH stayed overnight with me and baby. Everyone else stayed for a few hours. The first day, only family was allowed (we wanted family to meet her before friends). The 2nd day, friends came. I loved having visitors! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-637301 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 14:55:50 +0000 blackbird 637301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Blerg, we're still hashing this out. I have a list of 'rules' at home. Basically, nobody comes over unannounced or for long periods of time. Limited visitors for 2 weeks...hospital visitors are expected to be MIL and no one else. </p> <p>No overnight guests. None. At all. I'm making my parents stay in a hotel whenever they do come visit </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-637289 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 14:54:07 +0000 DillonLion 637289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a cagillion visitors (which I would have preferred not to have, but I felt too guilty denying people visits with my newborn). Honestly, I was so out of it I couldn't have even done much about it even if I wanted to. If the crowds were bothering me, I just got up and left the room (and took the baby if I needed to). No one had any issue with it. </p> <p>If anyone was uncomfortable about my nursing, they could leave. I didn't give a shit. Nursing was priority one. </p> <p>I had a few meltdowns about it, but was crying pretty much endlessly anyways in the beginning. Post partum hormones are intense. </p> <p>The only person who stayed overnight was my MIL., But she is seriously one of my best friends and was a lifesaver for that first week. I don't know what I would have done without her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-637272 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 14:50:24 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 637272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: haha i like your last rule! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-637265 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 14:49:04 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 637265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: omg!</p> <p>Subscribing because I seriously already worry about this and we aren't even TTC yet! Our family lives 3 hours away, so I know they will want to stay with us. I will want my mom there, but then my step dad and my ILs would want to come to. YIkes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-637205 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 14:34:00 +0000 mrsjyw 637205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we had both sets of parents, my brother, and cousin who is like a lil sis to me visit a few hours after he was born. </p> <p>that night, my aunt/uncle came for a visit to the hosp.</p> <p>then we were home for a few days before a few other extended family members visited and our bff couple friends came by at the end of the first wk.</p> <p>my parents stayed with us the first month and commuted to work from our house. </p> <p>it was perfect for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636450 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 10:58:10 +0000 Amelieisme 636450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This became a point of contention with my family as usually the WHOLE family gathers for the birth and waits in the hospital, but I am a private person and really didn't want that. Plus, my nerves about the whole thing just made me not want everyone around. In addition, I live out of state from my family so I had to tell a couple of my sisters (I"m one of 5) that I didn't want them to come until after we were home, which, of course, made them all mad. But oh well. I ended up with a scheduled c-section so there was no labor in the end.</p> <p>This is what we did:<br /> Both sets of parents came the morning of the c section and waited during the surgery.<br /> The only hospital visitors were parents and 1 set of grandparents. My siblings were out of state and as stated above, I encouraged them not to come until after we were home. In the end, they just didn't come at all (one out of anger). His brother came over the night we got home for an hour to meet the baby.<br /> I am sort of sad over the anger it caused, but everyone is past it now. And I really appreciated our time in the hospital with just our little family and remember that time fondly so I wouldn't change it (other than maybe have a more understanding family!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636439 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 10:53:18 +0000 lindseykaye 636439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was REALLY anxious about too many visitors, etc. when LO was born but things ended up working out really well. Only DH's parents visited in the hospital (my parents are out of state) - after we were moved to the post-partum room they brought us food and we spent a couple hours marveling at LO and taking photos, etc. They came back the next day to hang out with us while we were at the hospital still, bringing us more food from the outside. They would stay for a couple hours and leave for a couple hours which worked out really well and allowed me to rest/breastfeed as needed.<br /> After we went home, we had pretty much one visitor/group per day for a while. I could definitely handle that and it allowed a lot of people to come and give their congrats and meet her without it being overwhelming. I think only once did we have two visitors in a day but they were spread apart by a few hours and didn't stay long.<br /> We did not have overnight guests. Our house is small and the only guest area is the nursery. Even though she wasn't sleeping in there yet, I still was in/out of there a lot at all hours so it would have been really inconvenient for anyone to stay over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636404 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 10:44:55 +0000 mamabolt 636404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our plan was:<br /> 1. no one waiting at the hospital while I was in labor. If they wanted to, they could hang out at our house and we'd let them know when we wanted visitors.<br /> 2. no overnight visitors once we got home from the hospital. We wanted to be on our own with LO and settle into life as a family of 3. My mom came once DH went back to work.<br /> 3. daytime visitors on a case by case basis - we don't actually have a ton of close family/friends nearby so we didn't really deal with this, but all our friends were considerate and asked when they should visit or if they could visit rather than assuming or showing up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636369 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 10:34:45 +0000 Boheme 636369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO isn't here yet, but we already have a game plan based on my anxiety around visitors and learning to nurse/be a mom -<br /> *No visitors in the hospital except our parents. We aren't allowing them in until after the baby is born and we've had adequate time (2 hours+) for skin to skin, nursing, etc.<br /> *No friends or extended family for 2 weeks +, until we feel like we have a handle on things and are comfortable having people over.<br /> *No unannounced visitors, no sick people, and DH doesn't want people bringing their kids because he worries about our LO getting sick.<br /> *When people ask to come over, DH is going to give them a time and say "We've got 30 minutes or so at X time" so that they know they aren't welcome to hang out all afternoon.<br /> *We're making up a "panic button term" that will be code for "Get this person/your mom the hell out of here in 5 minutes or less" lol </p> <p>It sounds really strict, but we figured it was easier to put our foot down now rather than start off lax and have to hurt people's feelings later. Its just based on our comfort level...and mine is obviously low :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636353 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 10:31:04 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 636353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After we came home from the hospital? Too many to count.</p> <p>The worst was when 6 people came over unannounced at 11p.m..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636346 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 10:28:53 +0000 matador84 636346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and dad came on separate weekends. We had several of my work friends come to the hospital, my boss, DH's cousin, sisters and aunt. It was really stressful for me especially since I was constantly nursing plus being a new mom just figuring things out. No one stayed with us at our house...our house is too small and I put my foot down on visitors staying here. I would like to say in theory no visitors right after birth, but seriously, I think it is kind of wrong to not let grandparents see their grandchild. It was definitely stressful for me having people around and nursing on demand, but my parents respected our wishes and if I told them to leave and go back to the hotel they would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636314 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 09:56:21 +0000 Foodnerd81 636314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm subscribing to this since it's something I wonder about too. I don't imagine many people coming to the hospital for me though-- I like 4-5 hours from most of my family, and across from country from DH's. I don't want people coming out ahead of time and then sitting around waiting for me to go into labor, and don't really want people waiting in the waiting room-- too much pressure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636312 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 09:56:01 +0000 Weagle 636312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had my parents there the week she was born, ILs came a few days after my parents left, and SIl and her family cam a few days after the ILs left. The next visitor came when LO was 6 weeks old. Everyone else was local.</p> <p>I really liked having a few days alone between overnight guests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636308 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 09:54:40 +0000 mediagirl 636308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents stayed for two nights once we were home. I wish they had stayed longer but my Dad was getting bored. They had already been there for 2 days while we were in the hospital. We had a couple of friends visit after my parents left and while we were at the hospital. That was it and it was perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-many-visitors-did-you-have#post-636273 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 09:44:11 +0000 lomom 636273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Who came to see LO? How many visitors did you have? Did you welcome overnight guests? If you could go back, would you change what you did?</p> <p>We're trying to come up with a plan for visitors and I'd love to hear what everyone's experience was or what your current plan is! </p>