https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:17:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150733 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 23:46:34 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2150733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if everything goes pretty well it doesn't matter as much who catches the baby, but from my experience and others I've spoken to, if things go wrong/the process is long it's nice to feel like you have a friendly and competent face to help you along.</p> <p>I didn't think I cared all that much before the labor began, but a horrible experience for the first 24 hours of labor has me changing my tune for any future baby. I am *SO* lucky my OB came on call and did my c-section. For a future pregnancy I want him and no one else! The woman on call the day before was horrible, and when I did research after the fact she was rated 105th worst out of 110 on a list of OBs in the area. Coincidentally, on that same list my OB was listed as #1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150716 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 22:46:41 +0000 ElbieKay 2150716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not have cared how well I knew the person but bedside manner and respect for my strong (rooted in fear) preference for a low intervention birth were key.</p> <p>I started out my pregnancy with a practice of four OBs but switched to a sole practitioner. That was definitely not the reason for the switch but it was a nice added bonus. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150683 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 21:05:54 +0000 brownie 2150683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I worked with my first birth ob because he pretty much let me do what I wanted. Then he didn't actually make it for he birth and the nurse (all of them were great) caught my son. Then I passed out and he stitched me up and was slow to intervene but did when necessary (blood transfusion).</p> <p>For my second birth I knew I wanted midwife model. So we did a birth center with 4 midwives. We got to know each at the prenatal appointments. I got the one I wanted on call for my birth. I was so in control for this one that she wasn't too needed but she helped as requested. She was really good with my stitches (which was a concern of mine). So it worked out well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150554 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 19:20:49 +0000 namaste 2150554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted the doctor that I liked from our practice, even though there was no guarantee. She came on to shift and gave me a chance to push when the doctor I didn't like was ready to send me to a C-Section. :( I think my labor would have been much different if she was there when I came in or if I had a doctor from the hospital. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150530 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 18:57:20 +0000 jhd 2150530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was newly pregnant I might have worried about that too. As it turned out my doctor was out of town and I had never met the on call OB. I hardly remember that doctor at all, honestly. The people that mattered were my nurse and the team who took care of my LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150528 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 18:51:14 +0000 Ginabean3 2150528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't care. With my first, there were three rotating doctors and I loved all three and "my" doctor ended up delivering me.</p> <p>With this pregnancy, I've seen two normal OBs and one high risk doctor (all in the same office...we have Kaiser) and they have all been great. The way it works at my hospital is, if you are 35+ weeks and everything is looking good/normal, 90% of the time you will actually be delivered by a midwife! There is a large midwifery group at my hospital (I just never I initially saw them because I had high risk issues). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150514 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 18:41:03 +0000 Corduroy 2150514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't care throughout my whole pregnancy with LO1. I knew the chances that I had ever seen the person before would be remote at my HMO. I didn't even see a consistent doctor throughout my pregnancy figuring I need to be comfortable with lots of people. However, I ended up really not getting along with the midwife that delivered my LO. So for LO2's delivery I'll take anyone but her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150513 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 18:39:56 +0000 FannyMae 2150513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was in my earlier stages of pregnancy I thought I wouldn't care if my OB wasn't there, but during the actual labour he was fantastic and I'm glad he was there for it. He's usually very quiet and soft spoken, but during the labour he saw me 3-4 times, was very supportive and firm in what he needed me to do. I met the midwife for the first time during the labour, and even though her shift was ending as I was pushing she stayed with the new midwife til baby was born. I saw OB again for my last pregnancy that ended in miscarriage, and he was incredibly supportive during/after procedures. I'd be really disappointed if he isn't there for me when I'm in labour again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150492 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 18:23:08 +0000 Coffee-lover 2150492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im having a scheduled C section, so I would probably panic if some random OB showed up to operate on me. Im open to having someone else deliver my baby as long as they are good at C sections. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150480 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 18:15:34 +0000 Charm54 2150480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't really care, (which is good because you never know which doctor will be on call when you deliver). I was thrilled when I went into<br /> Labor, walked into the hospital and my favourite doctor who I had seen throughout my pregnancy was there, though ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150472 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 18:06:17 +0000 msplatypus 2150472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did care and was induced because my Dr seemed like he cared too and I ended up with someone else who I looooved and it didn't matter so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150461 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 17:58:22 +0000 jape14 2150461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: when I went back for my 6-week pp visit I ran into that doctor and he was legit disappointed that my DH (and the baby too...kinda) wasn't there! And then when I got home DH asked if I saw him. If we go for a second kid I might be forced to induce when he's on call lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150381 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 16:26:57 +0000 catomd00 2150381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't care at all. I liked all the docs in my practice. I'd love the same dr next time but I'm switching practices because we have new insurance. Oh well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150370 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 16:14:26 +0000 Ree723 2150370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I met the midwives who delivered my babies for the first time whilst I was in labour. In Australia, you don't have a particular midwife you see - you visit the antenatal clinic and see whichever midwife is on duty. The midwives who are actually working in the delivery suites are an entirely different group of midwives from my understanding....</p> <p>I didn't care that I hadn't met the midwives before - once in labour, you're assigned one midwife who stays with you, and only you, throughout the duration of your labour. She was in the room with us nonstop and I felt like we got to know her better than we would have known a midwife we saw for our regular appointments. </p> <p>And even if it had been set up differently, I would hate to have all my hopes pinned on one particular person being available to deliver my baby! Too many things can pop up and I'd hate to be disappointed and dealing with all of this whilst in the midst of labour. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150363 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 16:05:03 +0000 BabyBruins 2150363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It mattered to me that my OB was part of the delivery decision-making process. I had an emergency c-section with my first and when she told me I had to have my baby 6 weeks early, I trusted her.<br /> For my second, I wanted to have (and ended up getting) a VBAC and again it was important to me that she was there to help achieve that and put me in a position to do so. I would have worried that a doctor that I didn't know would push an agenda on me that I didn't want. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150362 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 16:04:51 +0000 miramira 2150362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's very rare here that you would know the midwife or doctor who delivers your baby. I'd never met the ones who delivered mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150275 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 14:56:13 +0000 Keybee 2150275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go to a midwifery practice where whoever is on call when I go into labor will be the one to deliver. I think there are 9 or 10 midwives, I've met quite a few of them over the years and am comfortable when any of them delivering my child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150268 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 14:53:03 +0000 Freckles 2150268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cared that it was an OB I knew. My OB didn't deliver my first but it was an OB who was covering for him and I really liked her (lowest c-section rate OB in the hospital). There was a chance he wouldn't deliver my second but I was fine with it since it would be the same OB covering him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150173 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 14:04:48 +0000 twodoghouse 2150173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to a big practice with a lot of Drs and midwives, so I knew there was a chance I wouldn't have my regular OB for delivery. It was just going to depend who was on call and whether my dr was available when the time came. However, I was induced so we planned it around a time my dr was on call. It was important to me to have her there because of the circumstances - twins with one transverse. She was on board (and very encouraging) with delivering twin a vaginally, then attempting to do an external version or breech delivery on twin b. In the end, I begged and begged for a section and she encouraged me to keep going to deliver Alice vaginally. Time and time again she said we talked about how important this is to you! You can do it! I think another dr would have just done the section. As an aside, Blake was a csection but that was an emergency because we lost his heartbeat during the external version. My dr was an incredible support during the 4.5 hrs of pushing (sitting there the entire time except for 20 min when she had to check in with the nurses during shift change) and an advocate for me with all the nurses and anesthesiology staff in getting me the twin birth I hoped for. I'm really glad she was with me and not someone I'd never met! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150113 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:37:26 +0000 snowjewelz 2150113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: Yes the nurses really were make or break for me! Docs just breezed in and out and did their things.. Nurses are the ones to really monitor you and care for you and do all the dirty work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150104 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:33:41 +0000 simplyfelicity 2150104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At this point, it doesn't really matter to me. I go to an OBGYN practice with 3 OBs and one of them is always on-call. I like all of them well enough but have a preference. I am much more concerned about the nurses. Fortunately, I met a few of them when I went in for decreased fetal movement (all is well!) and the nurses I met were SO nice. With my sis and DH there, I think I am going to feel really supported. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150070 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:18:03 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2150070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well I'm 39 +4 weeks and my OB is out of town so....he delivered me last time and they aren't there for much so assuming all goes well, I don't think it matters that much. That being said, as tired as I am of being pregnant, the thought of him not being there makes me slightly nervous, which is weird because I really didn't think I'd care </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150044 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:07:44 +0000 snowjewelz 2150044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Ugh that's awful! I'm glad you held on till she was gone haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150041 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:06:39 +0000 Me3 2150041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first baby, I had a practice with rotating doctors. You got whoever was on call when you went to the hospital. That was fine with me, and I ended up liking the doctor who delivered me, but my delivery turned out to be pretty complicated and scary--long induction, forceps, etc. So for my second baby it was important that my new doctor (whom I loved and who had seen me throughout the pregnancy and knew all my concerns) was there to deliver. He was, and it was a good thing--I had a 10 lb posterior baby who needed a vacuum to get out. It was intense, and I was really glad to have a doctor I trusted there for the delivery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150039 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:06:13 +0000 snowjewelz 2150039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jape14: LOL @ your DH's bromance!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150033 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:02:40 +0000 snowjewelz 2150033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: Totally agree! The nurses MADE me whole experience there plus they were the ones that did everything anyway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150029 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:02:02 +0000 snowjewelz 2150029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I had yet another doc that stitched me up! </p> <p>A diff doc broke my water, a diff doc delivered my baby, and another one stitched me up... lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end/page/2#post-2150027 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 13:00:20 +0000 Greentea 2150027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand being apprehensive. I almost switched to a family practice doc because they really try to be there (in my particular system). I stayed because the OBs are all partners and specialists, they all share hospital hours delivering for one another's patients. Very happy, the doc on call was awesome! Never met him before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end#post-2150024 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 12:58:43 +0000 Ajsmommy 2150024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go to an office that has lots of ob's and I like all of them except ONE. She held me in the hospital overnight when I went for my rh shot and my BP had spiked. She accused me of diluting my urine and wouldn't listen to anything I said. It was terrible, I complained about her to the head dr after wards. Of course the day I went to be induced she was on call! I was so upset but Dh calmed me down. She ended up being useless to get me dilated and thankfully she went off duty before I had DD. I actually had 3 dr's b/c my induction was so long. The one that ended up delivering DD was a stranger to me and I didn't care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-care-about-who-delivers-your-baby-at-the-end#post-2150023 Mon, 20 Apr 2015 12:58:09 +0000 sarac 2150023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even with my very long labor, I didn't get my favorite midwife. The one who delivered me was great, so I didn't mind terribly. But I'm really, really hoping to have my favorite one this time. </p>