https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 05:04:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858407 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:28:13 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1858407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I compromise with drop-off times. Although it's not really an issue anymore since I now have earlier days, it used to be an issue for us. They have a set schedule and it was either I drop her off before breakfast (at 7) or before roll call (at the latest 8:45). Back when I was working at home, the earliest time for pick-up was at 2 pm, often times she was still napping when I got there (her naps were long back then). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858350 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:09:07 +0000 Dagny 1858350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LULU MOM - thanks for your comments here. I think I need to work on making peace with the fact that it's not me taking care of him all day.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858341 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:04:52 +0000 Dagny 1858341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MRS. TICTACTOE - that's good advice. Maybe I just need to be more clear about my expectations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858340 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:04:13 +0000 LuLu Mom 1858340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO doesn't eat as healthy as I would like &amp; they watch some TV, these things I would change if I could, however the in home makes up for those downfalls in all other ways. In my mind (and I know I'm not the majority here for this feeling) is it is daycare, of course it's not going to be perfect, someone else is not going to "parent" the exact way I would. That's life, she's been at it for 20 years and doing something right as my kid comes home happy, fed, clean, and she loves them &amp; gets sad when she leaves. I'm fine with it to see how much she loves them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858338 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:04:01 +0000 Dagny 1858338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MAMAOF2 - No, I let him eat however much he wants (of certain parts of the meal, so no unlimited fruit but unlimited veggies) and she hasn't offered him anything other than the food I've brought for him. Yesterday she told me that he wouldn't eat two out of the three types of veggies that comprised his snack and implied that he wasn't going to eat that, as if he will never eat red peppers and zucchini. She didn't straight up tell me that I need to bring something he will eat, but was acting like I shouldn't bring things he won't always eat. I'm probably being sensitive, but her energy about it really bothered me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858329 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 15:01:38 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1858329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have learned to let things go when it comes to the nanny and preschool. </p> <p>I think if you don't short order cook for him at home, he won't ever expect that from you. Usually, kids behave differently with different people. They learn what they can get away with and with whom. That said, if it is bothering you, you should bring it up. I would keep it casual and just say something like, "He eats so great at home and I never worry if he doesn't finish what I offer him. I don't make him something else if he doesn't like what we're having dinner because I don't want him to get used to that." And hope she gets the hint. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858318 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:59:26 +0000 matador84 1858318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on what it is. If the gym is in use and they can't I outside, the kids in late care watch tv. I don't like it but it doesn't happen often so I don't say anything. </p> <p>If it were something affecting his safety or health, I would probably bring it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858314 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:57:20 +0000 blackbird 1858314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our in home, our Friday only provider lets the kids watch movies. I'm not thrilled with it, but it's my ONLY negative so I let it go. Especially since E doesn't even watch it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858305 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:54:42 +0000 Mamaof2 1858305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't compromised on anything that I can think of - they always have done what I asked of them.</p> <p>Are you saying she keeps offering him food when you want him to stop? Have you asked her to stop? What did she say?</p> <p>ETA - we are at a center, not in-home </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-compromise-with-daycare#post-1858299 Thu, 11 Sep 2014 14:51:36 +0000 Dagny 1858299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 17 mo and just started daycare at a small home-based daycare. I'm having a really hard time with it and am feeling like I am going to have to compromise on certain things that are important to me. </p> <p>For example - with food at home, LO eats whatever we eat and if he doesn't want it, then he's done eating (in other words, I don't give him something else I know he'll eat). He eats well so this isn't really an issue, but there are times where he will eat one part of dinner and won't eat anything else and that's fine with me. I don't want to be a short order cook and I don't want food to be a fight. I feel like the daycare provider is so concerned with the kids eating enough that handling food this way might be an issue. Food is really important in my life so I really don't want to compromise my preferences. </p> <p>I want to be realistic and understanding that I can't have everything the way I want it, but I'm curious what others compromise on with daycare. </p>