https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 12:30:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288928 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 15:13:11 +0000 simplyfelicity 2288928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: That's my biggest frustration. I am not going to make anyone feel bad about their means...It just seems appropriate to offer a suggestion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288924 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 15:08:43 +0000 simplyfelicity 2288924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I completely agree. It would be one thing if this was her birthday...plus, she does many of her friends' taxes for them, is always the first to offer help etc...I guess I feel like she deserves "more." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288906 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 14:52:11 +0000 Truth Bombs 2288906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: OH Lord, that's definitely an expense to be cut. I have spent a boatload of money on bachelorette parties in my day, but not a single one has had a stipper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288886 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 14:33:39 +0000 .twist. 2288886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. This thread is totally eye opening. I'm pretty happy I never posted my rant about a $100/per person party! I thought it was totally insane, but here I am feeling a little crazy right now reading through the responses here! </p> <p>I will say, that the Bachelorette I went to that was $100/person was super fun. Although, I felt like pieces could have totally been removed (two strippers? really?) Anyway, I will reconsider my view on this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288872 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 14:21:14 +0000 psw27 2288872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its a reasonable price based on what my friends and I have done over the years. </p> <p>Nothing frustrates me more than the person who vetoes everything but offers no alternatives.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288832 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 13:55:48 +0000 travellingbee 2288832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would expect to pay at least that much. We did the same for my bachelorette party (limo &amp; wineries) and stayed at my cousins rental house near the Hamptons (for free!) for the weekend. My friends are NOT loaded, at all. All except one were moms. They all drove there or took a train. I think they spent around $200 total for the weekend and were happy to do it. Everyone is different and has different priorities I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288818 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 13:49:17 +0000 daniellemybelle 2288818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: That is a very good point and I totally agree. But, I will say that my friend that got married recently is definitely middle class (or even less than that honestly) and so was everyone that joined. Of course budgets vary but no one was "all PBK furniture" level. :) </p> <p>We didn't do dinner out to save on the budget and brought our own finger foods at the hotel room. We made spiked punches so girls wouldn't have to buy lots of drinks out. Most of us shared a bed in the hotel room to cut costs. </p> <p>Still, after decorations, supplies and the hotel room, plus actually going out, it was definitely a lot more than $125 for the bridesmaids. (Her friends that were not in the bridal party only paid for their drinks out and their part of their hotel room.) Being in a wedding is just plain expensive. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288809 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 13:45:07 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2288809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: I've known my bestie since 2nd grade, so that changes things in what I'd expect from your friend's friends. You'd think the loudest one would offer up a suggestion at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288791 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 13:33:27 +0000 MrsSRS 2288791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: Agreed. Of course, all the weddings I have been in were in my early twenties when that would have seemed expensive but been manageable with 12 months notice. Now, with two kids and one salary, not really my priority. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288773 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 13:22:20 +0000 simplyfelicity 2288773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: I totally understand. I definitely didn't phrase it like "this IS what we are doing" but was just a suggestion and I also asked for other ideas. FTW, I don't have the means of many on HB but I know I could save up for the party. This is just what happens at weddings. I just hope she will offer suggestions vs just saying "no" to everything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288727 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 12:57:42 +0000 IRunForFun 2288727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be super happy if $125 was all a bachelorette party was going to cost me! But I've been jaded by an experience where we were originally asked to choose between options that were like $700 to $1,000 per person and we were able to negotiate down to like $400... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288723 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 12:55:18 +0000 simplyfelicity 2288723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: also, I thought about having different cars, etc but I feel like the point is to be together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288721 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 12:51:55 +0000 Truth Bombs 2288721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: I would definitely ask the unhappy bridesmaid what her alternative, budget friendly suggestion would be (that the bride would still enjoy!). I was a bridesmaid for my SIL's wedding recently and the bachelorette was such a nightmare. The girls all wanted to do a really nice weekend away, but didn't want to actually pay what it would cost to do that. They were suggesting things like renting a house the technically slept half as many people as were in our group. UHHHHH... I'm too damn old to sleep on the floor next to someone I don't know very well. </p> <p>While its nice to be conscious of being budget friendly, it also can suck to have to go to the lowest common denominator and have everyone else (including the bride) be let down by the event for the sake of one person's budget constraints. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288713 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 12:47:27 +0000 simplyfelicity 2288713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: They have been friends since childhood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288708 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 12:44:01 +0000 leighleigh 2288708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: I'm with you. I'd be plenty happy with $125. I normally spend like $250+ depending on what it is--with drinks/dinner/accommodations/activities. A lot bachelorette parties these days end up turning into a full weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288707 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 12:43:05 +0000 simplyfelicity 2288707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: I totally understand. It was one of the maids who refused to pay that much, so I can't imagine asking them to pay more. The rest of the bride's friends are very successful CPAs. I have been out with then before and I think they would expect to spend at least that. I agree, it's always awkward when things involve money. This is why I eloped.<br /> I did put in the post that this was merely a suggestion and I would be shopping around for the best deal if this is what we wanted to do. I also asked if anyone had other ideas and was met with her not so helpful comment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288703 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 12:39:21 +0000 simplyfelicity 2288703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: I have considered that but I am on mat leave and my pay has been cut in half for a whole year. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party/page/2#post-2288454 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:40:51 +0000 AprilFool 2288454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably pay it but I wouldn't be happy about it. I think that's a huge expense for a day out and wouldn't even come close to spending that normally. $125 is more than we paid per person for guests at our wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288430 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:31:55 +0000 snowjewelz 2288430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live in NY, so $125 everything included isn't bad at all! I would just be thankful that it's not a "lets fly to Vegas/Miami" type of thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288421 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:28:06 +0000 Mrs D 2288421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, I think that would be fine if that was the only event for the day and I was in the wedding. Is there other costs with the bachelorette or is this the only "event"? Is the $125 the cost for just the maids or for anyone attending? We usually have it where the maids pay a little more to cover bigger things (i.e. the limo). As just a friend (not standing in the wedding) I'm not sure I'd for sure participate for $125 if it was not a super close friend.</p> <p>I think whenever you are planning this stuff with all different kinds of people it is important to offer options so as to not alienate people with different situations. For example, it may be a bit of a stretch to assume all people involved could afford the $125 without batting an eye. However, maybe suggest that people could find their own transportation and pay only $XX, or skip lunch and save $XX. Or perhaps - "we could do a van rather than a limo for $XX"...sometimes people react just to react - but sometimes it is because they truly cant afford it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288410 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:21:20 +0000 lawbee11 2288410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that price is totally reasonable. The last bachelorette party I went to was like 5x that amount :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288406 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:17:27 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2288406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could afford $125, but honestly I wouldn't want to. Unless the bride to be was my BFF I would probably back out of the bach party altogether. Even if it was my BFF she wouldn't be into a production that would warrant a lot of time and money.</p> <p>Do you know if the other BMs are close friends or more so obligatory inclusions like sisters or cousins, FSILs, FI's friends or just friends to round out the numbers? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288393 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:02:05 +0000 wonderstruck 2288393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be able to afford that right now as a SAHM, and I'm pretty sure that only one of my four bridesmaids would have been able to afford that. Honestly, I think this isn't the best place to ask this question, because the answers are going to be skewed - typical discussion topics on here are stuff like PBK furniture, Nordstrom sales, expensive brand name diaper bags and shoes, house cleaners, etc. The majority of users here are definitely not going to have any trouble paying $125 for a bachelorette party. I would. </p> <p>Now, if an important friend asked me to be in her wedding, I would say yes in a heartbeat. And I would have to start saving up to make sure I could afford everything. The dress, a shower gift, a wedding gift...and yes, the bachelorette party. But if I was e-mailed info about one that cost $100+ with no previous discussion of everyone's budget for it, I would feel guilty but also kind of annoyed. Have you asked her what she has in mind/can afford? In the past I've helped swing the difference for friends in situations like this back when I was working full-time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288377 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 07:37:18 +0000 meredithNYC 2288377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds like a serious bargain to me! I usually end up spending closer to like, $500 on these things :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288372 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 07:32:24 +0000 Mamaof2 2288372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@simplyfelicity: I think $125 is very reasonable. But if the others think its too much how about skipping the limo to save some money? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288344 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 06:50:41 +0000 looch 2288344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is that the full cost, or does anyone have to travel to get there? The event itself is one thing, but if I have to pay for airfare and a hotel on top of that, plus meals, it adds up.</p> <p>I've never spent less than $1000 to be in a wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288324 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 06:30:27 +0000 SweetiePie 2288324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Super reasonable! But I think that I'm in a city where people tend to go over the top for a bachelorette party. I know my sister who is in a smaller town and in a different financial situation would think that was a lot. She'd pay it though! But she'd think it was a lot.<br /> I don't know what your situation is, but if it were me I'd try to cover one expensive-ish aspect of it on my own to alleviate the cost for others. Or just subsidize it (pay $500 so that everyone else's cost came down to like $50 or whatever. Totally making up numbers!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288295 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 04:31:49 +0000 Lilbear 2288295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is crazy reasonable! I would be so excited if that's what was planned for some of my friend's bachelorette parties!!! My friends are ALL doing destination bachelorette parties that last 2-4 days. It is so expensive and difficult to attend when you have small children! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288259 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 23:53:03 +0000 daniellemybelle 2288259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's pretty reasonable assuming the bridesmaids don't also have to pay for travel or hotels?</p> <p>I just participated in a bachelorette party. I was one of the bridesmaids and helped plan it. I definitely spent way more than $125. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-expect-to-spend-for-a-bachelorette-party#post-2288208 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 22:01:10 +0000 californiadreams 2288208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first thought was around $100 </p>