https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 13:01:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-61028 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 00:03:25 +0000 cyneswith 61028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2-3 close friendships have just gotten closer. :) Can talk to two of them about ANYTHING, and can talk to one about anything that isn't troubling to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-61017 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 23:36:07 +0000 mynoahbear 61017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since I got married and started a family and moved to another country, I've become less open to my good friends. Probably because I don't see them all the time anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-60995 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 22:31:44 +0000 SugarplumsMom 60995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to admit that I'm bad at keeping in touch with my friends back home. Whenever we talk, it's more general news since we talk so infrequently, which leaves no real opening-up time. It's just so hard with the time difference and they all have young babies too, so they don't have much time to keep in touch in general. But we have FB, and that's pretty much our link. </p> <p>Whenever we visit, we see each other and for the most part, nothing's changed - which is great, but I wish we had more time to talk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-60904 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 18:43:01 +0000 chopsuey 60904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stopped opening up to friends because I felt like our relationship was becoming one sided. It's really hard to maintain good friendships post marriage/baby. :P Now I focus all of my energy on my family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-60784 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 16:26:13 +0000 Adira 60784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely open up to my friends, but I really only have ONE really close friend that knows everything about me (including that we're TTC and what days we BD, haha). We've been through some up and downs in the past, but we've really grown closer and closer together over the years. I'm happy to have her in my life.</p> <p>That being said, I know that I can only really be a good friend to one or two people at a time. It's hard to be a good friend to lots of people, which is why I only have one really good friend (plus my husband). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-60770 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 16:17:00 +0000 mrsjyw 60770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: DH is the same way. He wore his heart on his sleeve when it came to friendships and got burned a lot. So now he says he's happy with the few friends he has and doesn't extend much more into those relationships either.</p> <p>I have always dedicated myself to being a good friend. A couple years ago, I lost my MOH/BFF (she pretty much severed the relationship with no rhyme/reason) and really struggled to come out of it emotionally... since then, I've been more appreciative of my other gfs and learned to heal through maintaining and energizing the other friendships I cherish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-60760 Thu, 26 Jan 2012 16:13:42 +0000 Rescuemom10 60760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw this quote and it made me think if this thread!</p> <p>‎"Sometimes we expect more from others because we'd be willing to do much more for them; and as we grow older, we don't lose friends, we just learn who the real ones are." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59273 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 19:17:34 +0000 Rubies 59273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stopped opening up to my very best friend only because I had confided in her on a certain topic and she told her husband. When I asked her why she had told her husband, she said that she tells her husband everything...Including our conversations. I was SO put off by that that I stopped telling her things, which makes me sad. I didn't even tell her I was pregnant (or what we were TTC) until we were ready to announce to everyone. She was upset. Ah well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59192 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 18:28:22 +0000 lilteacherbee 59192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I open up to close friends. I tend to be pretty emotional and I don't like to overwhelm DH or talk to him too much about things he can't relate to because he just gets confused or frustrated. However, I usually open up to my friends more than they do to me. It gets sad sometimes when I feel like I trust my friends and want to confide in them and then they don't do the same with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59176 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:59:56 +0000 owlmom 59176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a lot of close friends, but I'm very open with the ones I do have. I've pretty much always been that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59161 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:53:12 +0000 heffalump 59161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't open up very much, because they don't seem to care anymore. My friendships have def. changed since getting married and having a baby. I've made new friends with some mom's, but I haven't known them long enough to open up too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59142 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:41:58 +0000 sslm 59142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't open up much, because I have learned over the years that I really can't depend on anyone other than family. Maybe I have been unlucky in friendships? I do all of my opening up to my sister and my DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59132 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:26:38 +0000 Pepper 59132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have several friends that I open up to almost completely... and those who I consider good friends, but I don't tell them everything. </p> <p>For instance, I haven't shared that we're TTC with anyone but my best friend. I obviously tell my DH the most and he knows me in a way that even my good friends don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59116 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:09:27 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 59116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have one friend that I can open my heart up to completely. I'm no where near as close to any of my other friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59113 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:04:22 +0000 Andrea 59113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I have given my friendships a consistent amount of time and attention over the years. That is not to say I haven't phased out some friendships, though. Having my LO has given me more impetus to do so because I just have less time for some BS friendships. </p> <p>As far as opening up, I do it to varying degrees depending on the person. I open up the most to DH because he understands my entire situation the most vs. friends may only see certain parts of my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59098 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 16:53:52 +0000 Rescuemom10 59098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am with you MRBEE, I have found in past I opened up too much and it only let to being hurt and even taken advantage of. I think I have just learned to not be so quick to be the "best Friend" to someone. That thats something thats not meant for just anyone and thats OK. I am someone who has a hard time saying "no" and people can take advantage of a person like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59094 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 16:50:16 +0000 LuLu Mom 59094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still have my close friendships, but after me and my DH met I really only hang out with those I consider the closest. And we usually hang out with couples, its hard any more to find common ground with my single friends, and I have only really kept in touch with 2 of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-open-up-your-heart-to-your-friends#post-59085 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 16:44:15 +0000 mrbee 59085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to be a really great friend and wished that more people took friendship seriously like I did!</p> <p>But as I got older, I think something broke inside of me or something. I can still be a great friend, but I don't open up my heart like I used to. Maybe I just invest that energy into my family? I am not sure. Something has definitely changed, but I can't put my finger on what it is.</p> <p>How much do you open up your heart to your friends? Have your friendships changed since you met your partner, or since you started a family? </p>