https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 16:01:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112606 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 16:39:55 +0000 chopsuey 112606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thank DH and give him praise fairly often. LO gets praise every day. Mostly "good girl" etc </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112604 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 16:38:54 +0000 BoogieBea 112604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is really good at giving praises. Not so much for me since my parents were never praise givers. It actually makes me feel awkward when I get verbal praises. But we praise I'll kids more than we do each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112592 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 16:32:05 +0000 BabyLove 112592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been trying really hard lately to praise SO more than usual. I think we've both been feeling less appreciated. Our focus is on LO so we forget to nurture each other. Now I'm constantly thanking him, even if the things he's doing are small. He tends to say, "no need to thank me!", but I know he appreciates it. Can anyone get sick of hearing thank you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112588 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 16:31:25 +0000 LuLu Mom 112588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH expects praise or acknowledgement for just about every household item he does on his own. I thank him if he does something I ask,but if it's something like putting the laundry away I don't feel like I should have to praise him. I mean he never acknowledges that I'm the one that washed, dried, and folded the same batch of laundry? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112580 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 16:22:18 +0000 banana 112580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uhhhh. My DH wants praise and credit for EVERYTHING. We were at dinner one night and he goes to his friend "Dude, I'm such a good dad. I totally take care of my kid." I'm like "You're supposed to, you dork." He's a major credit hog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112500 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 14:16:12 +0000 Andrea 112500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SO loves getting praise but I don't want to overpraise him because I just think at some point it is too much. There are all things that we need to get done and don't need to get praised for. But I think it is important to show appreciation. It is similar with the LO. She needs praise, of course, but I don't want her to think that everything she does is wonderful either. I feel like some praise is appropriate but not to the point of spoiling her. Maybe I am just mean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112498 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 14:15:16 +0000 heffalump 112498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: never. But I could care less. I made half those dishes dirty, it's only right that I do them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112495 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 14:13:11 +0000 mrbee 112495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Interesting!!</p> <p>Does your DH thank you when you do the dishes? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112487 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 14:07:55 +0000 heffalump 112487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do praise my so a lot. My dad is huge on getting thanked for any tiny thing he does, and I know he'll stop doing things if he isn't thanked for it. Even if he's just doing something he should be doing as a husband or dad, like the dishes. I never ever expect to be thanked from anyone for doing dishes and I'm not. But my dad does, so I figure its a boy thing and dh probably does too, so I thank him for doing the dishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-praise-your-so-versus-your-lo#post-112482 Thu, 05 Apr 2012 14:03:39 +0000 mrbee 112482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We make such a big deal out of everything our LOs do... "Wow, what a big poop you just made! Good job!!" But one day, you poop and nobody says, "good job."</p> <p>I wonder if our kids will miss all that praise. I remember the first time I pooped and nobody cared. That was the beginning of the end for me... I was a middle child and it's true that we get ignored! It all worked out though and now when I go to the bathroom, I just give myself a mental high five.</p> <p>Which brings us to the point of this post (sort of). Do you make it a point to give positive feedback and/or praise to your SO? How much more do you praise your LO versus your SO? </p>