https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 07:52:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1488771 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 09:56:49 +0000 bunnylove08 1488771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: wow your link is very interesting. </p> <p>I put in information for a wedding after labor day weekend and it was saying we should give $365 for BIL's wedding, second marriage. That was a lot more than I was going to give </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1488229 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 05:39:14 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1488229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: I think it does. For our wedding we received two monetary gifts. And our only guests were parents and siblings. The costs of travel for the people who didn't gift us was very high.</p> <p>When I was younger and single all of the weddings I attended were a long drive and hotel or plane ride and hotel away. My gifts were $50-60 and one time I brought a date and made him write a check to my friend too. </p> <p>Cover your plate concept never makes sense to me. Besides the cost of food there are other costs associated with your attendance. The venue for one had to be large enough to accomodate all of the invited guests. Gift what you can afford and want to give the couple based on your relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1488208 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 04:02:21 +0000 Purpledaisy 1488208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Around $50. I feel like that's pretty standard around here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1488203 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 03:23:20 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1488203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the venue and how close we are to the couple. But if a long international flight is needed to attend, I only give enough to cover us (max $200). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1488157 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 23:46:05 +0000 birdofafeather 1488157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i usually buy a gift anywhere from $50-$100 depending on how close a friend it is. that's what we got from everyone else except our parents as well. i'm pretty surprised by the upper end of the gift threshold, but obviously everyone gives what they feel comfortable giving! i know i would have been completely shocked to receive gifts from our guests in the $200+ range and we had friends from all walks of life there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1488115 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 22:36:31 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1488115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>$150-200+ depending on how close we are and how much travel is involved. We are in Central Florida and we went to a wedding in Canada, have them $150. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1487883 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:33:01 +0000 lovehoneybee 1487883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: That's interesting! Of the two weddings we'll have to fly to, one is suggested $80, and the other $155 (the latter being a sibling's (second) wedding). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1487861 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:25:40 +0000 tlcbaby 1487861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>$50 is pretty much my standard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1487856 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:23:50 +0000 swedishfish 1487856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: oh, yes the amount given definitely decreases if we spend more to travel. </p> <p>I find this calculator fascinating: <a href="http://www.theweddingenvelope.com/calculator.php" rel="nofollow">http://www.theweddingenvelope.com/calculator.php</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1487848 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:20:00 +0000 lovehoneybee 1487848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a really fascinating thread! </p> <p>The last wedding I attended as a guest was a full decade ago, and it was a tiny, backyard shindig. </p> <p>At my wedding, the average gift (physical or monetary) was around $40-50, save for some of our wealthy family members who gifted us more. </p> <p>We have 4 weddings to go to this year, though, so I should probably start thinking about this. Does the amount you give decrease if you have to travel? Because at least two of the weddings will involve plane rides for all three of us... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1487847 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:19:52 +0000 Ginabean3 1487847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually buy from the registry...$100ish! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1487841 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:17:26 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1487841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Yes...not my personal opinion (I think registries are awesome!) but I definitely got the side eyes from my mom. That said, I did make an amazon wishlist for our families for Christmas this year and totally thought I would get told how ridiculous it was...but I made sure everyone knew it was only so that they could get ideas, not that we wanted those specific things. I had to be VERY clear on that one. Yikes. </p> <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: Yes, that is where we are too...although I grew up in the Triangle and still live there, which is a much more suburban setting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1487833 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:13:41 +0000 swedishfish 1487833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live on Long Island and registries are for the bridal shower. We give a check for the wedding between $150-$300. It depends on how close we are with the couple and how far we had to travel for the wedding. We would give more if a sibling was getting married. The tri-state area seems to have a higher gift giving threshold than other areas of the country. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/3#post-1487825 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:09:35 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1487825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I agree with cost of attending . We once didn't give for a destination wedding, because we spent hundreds getting there. We did buy for the shower though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487821 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:08:10 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1487821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: oh one more thing our biggest gift was one man bough 6 settings of our china (I didn't even want to register for china but my relatives insisted I register at a department store--yes so Southern--and I had already registered for everything else at WM and tarjay). My place settings were between 30 and 50 (mikasa cameo!) depending on where you got them. So between 180-250. I was floored. He was a colleague of my stepfather so mainly he did it out of respect. He also was from ATL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487812 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:05:40 +0000 Foodnerd81 1487812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: I agree with you on the "cover your plate" thing- most of the fancier weddings we have gone to have been paid for by parents of the bride or groom, while the less fancy, cheaper, weddings have been paid for by the couple. Why should I give a bigger gift to someone whose parents have deep pockets? I give more or less based on closeness and cost of attending (like travel/hotels)</p> <p>We give $200 or $250, which was about what most people gave us. For siblings or best friends we give a little more. We are in boston with lots of friends in the NYC area. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487809 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:05:11 +0000 MsLipGloss 1487809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion:@Mrs. Sketchbook: Taboo and Tacky, eh? Ahhhh . . . interesting! I, too, much prefer to have guidance! I want the new couple/ new parents to get what they need/want.</p> <p>I created a wedding registry for long-distance guests, and to keep track of some things I wanted for our home . . . I also wanted the post-wedding completion discount! :P I was *forced* to create a baby registry . . . I didn't want a shower for either event, yet . . . *sigh* I know I know . . . b-o-o-h-o-o . . . generous people wanted to throw me a shower. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487807 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:04:56 +0000 hotchildinthecity 1487807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Among our group of friends, we've always done $150 per person, so $300 per couple. We live in NYC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487805 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:04:20 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1487805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: I think it is definitely a regional thing! Small town in a state that traditionally hasn't been all that wealthy....I'm kinda thankful! We have three weddings to go to this year and we definitely will be sticking to the 30-50 budget! Any more and we'd have to start budgeting it for real! </p> <p>I think in WNC (where I am from/your DH is from, right?) a gift off the registry and less than 50 (usually 25 or so) is totally the norm. In our small NW GA town (technically considered Appalachia but to me it is more piedmont), none of DH's aunts bough off our registry. My friends in ATL did though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487796 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:59:10 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 1487796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: honestly I thought the whole world had come to terms with registering, but a few days ago I overheard some relative-in-laws saying how tacky it was to register, that it is far more appropriate to let people buy whatever they want and return it if you don't like it. I was surprised and it made me wonder if I similarly criticized? Personally I think registering is awesome. I do understand how some might think of it as tacky, but as a giver I appreciate the help. I did follow the etiquette of not mentioning it on the invite/shower invite, and I did register at like a million places so I would accommodate people in our small town and friends in the city. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487790 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:57:18 +0000 JerricaBenton 1487790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>$250 -$500 depending on the relationship. We're in nj and i feel like that's the norm here. We had some older guests give us into the thousands for ours! I know that when we've gifted our usual to dh's friends in the Midwest they were totally shocked we gave that much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487770 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:47:52 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1487770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really depends on how close we are to the couple. The last wedding we attended we didn't spent any money on the gift. Instead we passed on a family heirloom. We knew the couple would love it, and they did. I was a little hesitant about not spending anything, but the mother of the bride reassured me it was ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487733 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:34:51 +0000 Mrsbells 1487733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually 100... Sometimes 50, depends on the wedding </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487705 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:22:09 +0000 catlady 1487705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We tend to buy off the registry if there is one, and we usually spend $150 to $250. We usually spend more if we don't have to pay for air travel, hotel, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487698 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:20:16 +0000 fancyfunction 1487698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say minimum of $250 - more depending how close we are to the couple. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487658 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:01:02 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1487658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>$100-150 in check or registry gift. We would probably give alot more to close family like siblings, but as of now our sins are single. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487657 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:00:47 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1487657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I can't speak for @Mrs. Sketchbook, but registering in my family is considered taboo, as if you are expecting gifts (which would be "inconsiderate") I almost didn't register for my wedding or baby shower because I felt uncomfortable asking for things. In our world, the wedding is a time for us to throw a party for the people we love...gifts are given, of course, but to specifically ask for them is considered to be in poor taste. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487637 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 18:50:03 +0000 MsLipGloss 1487637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: Why/How would registering create a scandal? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487635 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 18:49:12 +0000 Mrs. Lion 1487635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: Same here! This thread is blowing my mind...I honestly only made it through half of the comments... :shocked: The most we have ever done is $100, and that was only one time and for our very closest friends. Usually 30-50.</p> <p>ETA...I read the rest of the comments. Didn't mean to offend with the shocked face. I just really am surprised. We were given one $200 gift for our wedding and it was BY FAR out of the ordinary. Just not the norm in our area/my circle I guess. I don't think shocked is the same as placing judgment. I wouldn't be offended at all if someone was shocked that 30-50 is the norm here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-you-usually-give-when-you-go-to-a-wedding/page/2#post-1487602 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 18:30:26 +0000 Andrea 1487602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The minimum amount we give is $300. </p>