https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 10:31:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2501368 Mon, 21 Mar 2016 08:37:57 +0000 snowjewelz 2501368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really does depend on whether her main teacher is there at pick up or not! My mom picks her up, and she has no problem asking a bunch of questions. Since DD only goes half day and usually the only one getting picked up the teacher will have time to answer questions/elaborate. </p> <p>I don't find that it bothers me too much.. If I want to know something, I'd just ask. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2501334 Mon, 21 Mar 2016 08:10:16 +0000 edelweiss 2501334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>our daycare has a daily communication sheet where they write some things about what LO did, and they'll usually say a little something at pick-up (depending on how busy things are, what i ask, etc.). i think the feedback is really nice, so i think it is okay to ask for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2501324 Mon, 21 Mar 2016 08:02:59 +0000 mediagirl 2501324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"She had a good day!" Standard. I usually ask specific questions like, did she nap, who did she play with and what seemed to be her favorite thing? Also: What books did you read today? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2501321 Mon, 21 Mar 2016 07:59:20 +0000 Adira 2501321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, this wouldn't bother me. I'm usually just trying to get in and out and I don't want them to feel the need to give me anecdotes about his day. I only really care if he had a bad day or someone accidentally slipped him some milk!</p> <p>You arriving shortly after nap time, they probably still have all the other kids there and are busy anyway. It's easier to talk to the teachers if you arrive at the end of the day and half the kids have left already.</p> <p>When Xander was in the toddler room, his main teacher left before I arrived everyday, so I could only talk to the other teachers that might have only a small idea of what his day was like. His main teacher would write me detailed notes, only if necessary (like during potty training or if he got banged up or something). Since he was happy and thriving, I didn't care! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2501316 Mon, 21 Mar 2016 07:50:46 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2501316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree "Fine" is the normal answer and then I try to ask a specific question and then I get a bit more details. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2501312 Mon, 21 Mar 2016 07:45:13 +0000 Mamaof2 2501312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I would schedule a time to talk on the phone with her teacher during the nap - maybe while they nap? And then ask her those questions you have listed. Does she participate? Does she tend to play with anyone in particular? Is she sharing? etc. That way you can get all your questions asked at once.</p> <p>As for everyday questions - maybe wait till Friday and then say overall how did her week go?</p> <p>I have also emailed the director and asked her to relay questions/comments for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500591 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 16:31:08 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2500591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: when my son moved from infants to toddlers, his teacher never could say more than his day was "good" and his daily sheet notes were so generic. It drove me crazy! I felt like my kid was invisible to her and I almost pulled him out. But then he started in twos and it was much better. So it could be teacher personality (I'm a lead teacher in a primary classroom &amp; give info like this when I see parents at pick-up; I encourage my assistant, who's younger, to do the same but she's very shy with parents).<br /> I don't think the types of questions you mentioned in a reply are over-the-top. Does your school do conferences? You could always ask for some one on one time with the teacher and explain you're anxious about this change &amp; not knowing specifics. I bet she'd happy to keep doing the small notes if she knows it's important/appreciated. I think it's better to say something before it annoys you or becomes an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500465 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 12:02:00 +0000 gilmoregirl 2500465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It varies by teacher for me. There are a few teachers who are really friendly and chatty and always have stories about his day. Right now, his main teacher will usually volunteer a little story about his day but the floater and the new teacher in the room don't unless asked. They usually have a white board by the door with a list of activities and I'll ask about something on it in a complimentary way... Like, "oh that project sounds really cool, what did you do?" And then they usually will offer more. It really depends though. </p> <p>I'm glad your daughter seems to be doing better! We had a tough first couple months and it was really hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500447 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 10:46:05 +0000 gingerbebe 2500447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have an in-home provider. DH usually does pick up and some days we just get a "he had a great day" and some days we get an anecdote about how much he ate or if he particularly enjoyed eating something. Like apparently he really likes zucchini (hardly touches it at home) and likes sucking down pouches (he squirts them all over the house here). I do pick up once a week but I'm known as the high maintenance mom so when I ask how his day went, they will tell me how he ate, what was for lunch and snack, how long he napped, and his mood. They are super detailed when DS isn't feeling well, but mostly I figure to justify why they may not want him back the next day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500442 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 10:26:13 +0000 Bluemasonjar 2500442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I split drop off/pick up and we both get little anecdotes or updates from the different teachers on a daily basis. We also have a real time app that tracks diapers, naps, food and sends pictures. I like having it to reference so I can see patterns. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500424 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 09:22:39 +0000 nana87 2500424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daycare is really good about communicating, but I know it's not the norm. We get daily notes, which are 1 paragraph about what she did that day (ie who she played with, what activities she liked, etc), and it's a notebook we pass back and forth so I can ask qs, like if lo has been extra fussy/sleepy lately, or tell them what's going on with us--so like, when fil was in the hospital, they put doctor toys out in the dramatic play area so that visiting the hospital wouldn't be totally unfamiliar. Plus I often have conversations about what she's up to during drop off and pick up--more actually during drop off, bc at our center parents stay 5-10 mins and play with our children to help them transition, so it's more relaxed than pick up, when I'm gathering all lo's things and trying to get her out the door. Sometimes I'll ask how her day was and get a short "it was good, she had fun" answer, but then her notebook will be more detailed. Usually if I ask a more direct/detailed question, like "she didn't sleep well last night, was she very fussy today?" I get a longer answer. We do talk a lot about where she is in her development stages, like how her vocabulary is changing or her relationships with the other kiddos, or about how right now she's saying "why" to everything ;) we also have 2 parent-teacher conferences/year which are very detailed convos </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500417 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 08:45:25 +0000 milano14 2500417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our set up is the same - the teacher that is there when I pick him up has not always been there for the majority of the day.<br /> He is in the two year old room and we still get detailed daily reports though. So I have a general idea of how his day was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500403 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 08:10:02 +0000 Alba4 2500403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kid is 2.5 and he still gets daily written reports. They include diapering/potty info, activities he did, the food menu, and nap times I usually ask how is day was, but the responses are short and simple usually. His old daycare stopped giving anything written once he turned 18 months. I love that his newer school does this still, although I doubt it will continue once he moves up in a couple of months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500395 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 07:58:27 +0000 ShootingStar 2500395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could always call during the day and talk to her morning teacher. Or you could ask for a parent teacher conference. I found this stuff really tough when we started daycare too. I found now that we're at a school I trust much more I don't worry so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500389 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 07:45:37 +0000 Charm54 2500389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We might get a "she had a good day" , or they might tell us a funny story, but generally I only hear if something happened (she didn't nap, she wasn't hungry), etc. Sometimes her main teacher is gone so I won't hear of a message until the next morning. If it is SUPER important they wil write it down and put it in her lunch can (this has happened maybe once)</p> <p>I see people on HB who get daily written reports but we definitely don't get anything even close to that at all. I'm fine with it, though. I get the info that I need to get. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500387 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 07:42:02 +0000 erinbaderin 2500387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We really just get "He had a good day" too, unless something unusual happened like he had a hard time with his nap or he didn't eat as well as usual. I'm sure they'd be happy to give you more details if you asked specific questions but I imagine they also spend a fair amount of the day attending to the general business of taking care of 8 kids (or however many) - the cycle of meals/cleanup/naps/diapers/activities probably keeps them pretty busy and they aren't paying as much attention to a cute thing an individual kid might have done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500328 Sat, 19 Mar 2016 01:54:01 +0000 Applesandbananas 2500328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't feel high maintenance! You're paying a lot of money for her to be well cared for and if you don't feel like you're getting enough information, tell them! </p> <p>I'd probably frame it like "I loved getting those little stories about her day, like XYZ, that was so nice, it made me feel like I had a better insight into how she's doing! Can you work that into her daily log again, I really enjoyed it!" If the teacher knows how important it is to you, I bet she'll resume it!</p> <p>You could also reach out to the director and see what the policy is around pictures, I always loved getting pictures at his old center, it was really hard to go from getting 2-3/day to nothing at the new center, but the new center is much stricter about teachers using personal devices to take pictures :( but LO is next door to me now, so I can pop by and I do!</p> <p>I call during the day too, if somethings up with LO, like he's got hives right now, so I've been calling the teacher during nap (which is when she prefers to get calls) to check on him. You could always try calling too if you need more information about something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500300 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 23:34:51 +0000 Anagram 2500300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our current head teacher is super on top of those things and usually volunteers all kinds of extra info about LOs day, but if she's kinda busy all I have to do is ask a particular question and she always is able to tell me (like...LO hasn't been eating well lately...I'm wondering of she might be coming down with something. And she'll jump right in and say, I did notice she didnt eat as much as usual at breakfast and lunch and seemed more tired today, but she still seems happy and wasnt fussy at all, so it could just be a toddler stage). I appreciate her just NOTICING and paying attention to details. It's not too much to ask for teachers to tell parents this stuff each day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500286 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 22:37:02 +0000 matador84 2500286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much nothing. We get a daily sheet of what they did tbat day, how they ate, etc. But, when I drop off the girls that watch her for the day are only there until like 3 and then late care comes in--so they really don't know how her whole day was only from when I get there until pick up. Just the way it works I guess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500265 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 21:59:24 +0000 SproutBee 2500265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you can ask those questions in a little more pointed way? " Since it's her first time at daycare, I was wondering if she plays well with the other kids?" "She seemed a little touchy this morning for me (even if that's not true!), was she ok at school? Throw any tantrums?"</p> <p>I've found some teachers immediately tell me a ton about their day, others less so... So if you're really curious, I think you will have to just start asking more questions. I'm sure they're used to it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500221 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 21:07:38 +0000 Mae 2500221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petitenoisette: I do sometimes ask specific questions (usually if she napped) and they will answer those. But I guess I'm not sure exactly what to ask. What I want to know is how she IS there. Is she outgoing? Shy? Does she have friends? Did she throw a tantrum? Did she learn something new today? But it feels like those questions are too open ended and I always feel like I'm being high maintenance for even asking "how did her day go?" every day when I pick her up... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500217 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 21:05:09 +0000 Mae 2500217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: Oh man I would love a real-time app because I'm always dying to know if LO napped or not! We have an app/electronic daily sheet system but it isn't online. They enter stuff on an iPad throughout the day and after pickup they "release" it to be emailed to me. So I don't usually know stuff about her day until we are home already. I did ask them like a month so ago to please give me more information because it was frustrating that the sheet basically just says what she ate and diapers and nap with some generic thing like "we played with legos today!" So for a few weeks her teacher seemed good about putting *something* there like "Fiona's favorite thing today was x." But that stopped a week or so ago and I feel high maintenance saying something to them about it again. I'm trying to just let it go because she seems happy enough there and I feel like I might have somewhat unrealistic expectations/hopes for daycare. I feel like if I spent 8 hours with someone else's kid I'd have something to tell them about their day... but I guess if you're watching 7 kids and you do it every day maybe you just don't have anything to say? I dunno. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500215 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 21:04:22 +0000 petitenoisette 2500215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also generally just get the "it was good" response. If you want more info, try to ask her some specific questions. Lately we're working on LO eating table foods so I'll ask about that. In the past it was more questions about how she napped. </p> <p>I know that my kid's teacher has other kids to attend to (and is still attending to when I pick up) and so I don't expect her to rattle a bunch of stuff off at pick up. But she's more than happy to answer any questions I may have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500207 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 20:51:05 +0000 AprilFool 2500207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Her main teacher will give more info but the other 2 will just say good. At the moment we're potty training so it's usually a bit of a chat but normally, unless something is wrong, it's a quick check in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500187 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 20:26:13 +0000 Ms maths 2500187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both of my kids have a point teacher; the point teacher generally has something to tell us about their day, in addition to whatever is on their note. If the point teacher is away, we don't get much more than "good day!" I'm not sure if the point teacher is more tuned in to the kids they point for, or if we just happened to luck out with the chatty point teachers.</p> <p>I think asking some specific questions could be a good idea: you get answers to those questions, and the teacher starts to figure out what you are interested in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500173 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 20:11:03 +0000 hellobeeboston 2500173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. Yeah ours always says the same "It was good!" With barely any extra elaboration. It's frustrating... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500169 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 20:08:34 +0000 Applesandbananas 2500169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This drives me nuts on the days where his teacher is already gone when I get there. We don't get daily reports anymore so I'm totally in the dark if she isn't there at pickup. </p> <p>When we did get daily reports, I asked for more info, like was he happy/sad/grumpy, what was a cute thing that happened today, etc. because when he was in that class, the teacher was always gone by 4ish, so long before pickup. She was happy to oblige, it didn't take her much longer to write happy/sad/whatever plus a discovery or cute thing from the day (usually like two sentences or less: "LO loves the magnatiles!" or "Used his words well today!") not much effort, but it made me feel more connected. </p> <p>I'd think about what you'd really like and just ask! Maybe they can find a way to accommodate!</p> <p>The infant room at LO's center uses an app that parents can access and enter info into too, so the teachers know before the kiddo arrives how things are going (if they ate, last diaper change, etc.) and the parents can access the info in real time. I'm so excited to have access to that much info with the new baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-do-your-los-daycare-teachers-say-about-your-lotheir-day#post-2500154 Fri, 18 Mar 2016 19:53:58 +0000 Mae 2500154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we are still new to daycare, 2.5 months in. We had a *rough* start but I feel like LO is finally starting to settle in (knock wood). I'm generally pretty happy with her daycare at the current moment-- her basic needs seem to be met and she looks happier in the photos we receive and when I pick her up. She is 22 mo and doesn't talk well yet so she can't really tell me anything about her day or if she is happy.</p> <p>Really the one thing that I am still not super thrilled about is the lack of communication with her teachers. She has one teacher that is with her all morning and another that is there after nap. We pick her up 1-2 hours after her nap so her afternoon teacher isn't with her for nearly as long as her morning teacher. At pickup I always ask how her day was and the teacher generally says "it was good!" with no elaboration. </p> <p>Is this pretty much the norm? I guess I thought daycare teachers would be a little bit more.... chatty? Like oh LO did a funny thing today, or she's great friends with x kid, or we are struggling with x thing. </p> <p>I mean, it's FINE... I mean she seems happy enough and this isn't a big enough deal to make a thing of. I guess I was just surprised because I assumed that the people spending 40 hours/week with my kid would have more to say than "she's good!" But I don't know if that is just how all daycares are, or ours is weird. </p>