Hellobee Boards Topic: How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 09:36:31 +0000 Mae on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so/page/2#post-2021701 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 09:51:56 +0000 Mae 2021701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Input on price, reliability, and cost of maintenance. I gave no opinion when my husband bought an audi (it was before we were married) and now I regret it because duh... german car = ridiculous maintenance costs. Not to mention it breaks ALL THE EFFING TIME. So now every few months it costs us hundreds (at least) to fix. He can pick out anything he wants for his next car but no more cars with expensive maintenance costs (luckily he is as fed up as I am and is already talking toyota. Thank god. lol) yoursilverlining on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so/page/2#post-2021670 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 09:37:35 +0000 yoursilverlining 2021670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Haha, timely as my husband’s car just died last week and he had to buy a new one on short notice. We each have our own car and honestly, I don’t really feel we get much say in what the other picks - - as long as it’s within the agreed upon budget. Similarly, I don’t want him picking my car for me – I’m the one driving it every day, I’ll get something I love thankyouverymuch. My husband isn’t a researcher (he’s an impulse buyer – so dangerous when car shopping lol) so he tells me what he wants and I do the research on fair price, etc, but I don’t veto the kind of car or features he wants, even if they are not what I would want for myself. JerricaBenton on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021656 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 09:31:29 +0000 JerricaBenton 2021656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I couldn't care less. I'd give him my opinion, like this one looks better to me than that one, but beyond that I'm cool with whatever he wants. lilyofthewest on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021647 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 09:28:09 +0000 lilyofthewest 2021647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Safe, meets out general practical needs, and in budget would be the only things I'd feel strongly about. If there was any possibility I'd ever be driving it, it would need to be automatic and I'd want to test drive to see if I could reach the pedals and see the mirrors at the same time. I am a shortie with an extra short torso and a lot of cars that are made for the American market are difficult to impossible to see out of and operate at the same time. Anagram on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021619 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 09:11:04 +0000 Anagram 2021619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ For my particular husband, I'd defer to him. I love to research, but he has me beat hands down in the car-research department. He's the type to research and agonize for months and months about a decision, and he only pays cash for cars, so I don't have to worry about the financial part. But this kind of depends on the people involved. snowjewelz on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021618 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 09:10:32 +0000 snowjewelz 2021618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I pretty much let him decide as long as we are on the same page about the budget! We just needed to upgrade his Honda Fit to an AWD SUV LuLu Mom on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021616 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 09:10:11 +0000 LuLu Mom 2021616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had some say (price point, ect.) but overall it was his decision since it was his car. (however, he does now wish he would have went with the one I had picked out instead of the one he went with, which I knew would happen.) It's hard for me to take a step back, but as long as DH makes an informed decision I'm willing to let go a bit, sometimes DH rushes things, and that doesn't work well for my type A personality ;) Caly on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021590 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 08:56:05 +0000 Caly 2021590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So long as its safe, reliable and fits our family needs, I'd let him decide. Fwiw, I love my Subaru Forester! 2PeasinaPod on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021589 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 08:55:37 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2021589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We're talking now about getting DH a new car. His is older, though mine is costing us a ton of money at the moment. I think we'll both end up needing new cars very soon. We both want a say in what we get. It's both of our money that's paying for it, and even though he'll primarily drive it, it's going to likely be the family car that we drive everywhere. I'd like to enjoy it as well! We usually make big money decisions like this together! Smurfette on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021578 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 08:46:30 +0000 Smurfette 2021578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am only having input because we need an SUV for the weekends. But he is going to narrow it down and will choose. I just told him I have to think it is pretty, but he has been asking my opinion on it. PurplePumps on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021569 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 08:42:54 +0000 PurplePumps 2021569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would look into it as far as is it safe, reliable, and is the mileage decent. Other than that it'd be up to him. MOMTOLITTLEB on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021565 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 08:38:32 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2021565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband looks into cars all the time even though we're not quite in the market and he wants me to get an Outback. You'll be good with either of those choices! Last time my husband got a car I had input because it's meant to be our family car, he has a separate work vehicle. He loves that stuff though so I trusted him and did no research. I think as long as one of you looks into it, it's fine. I see it as one of the advantages of being married- I don't have to think about everything! spaniellove on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021559 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 08:34:18 +0000 spaniellove 2021559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'd say it doesn't really matter except a few years ago, I picked out a car I wanted and bought it - and then a year later my husband and I ended up switching cars. He was really lucky I chose a car that worked well for his circumstances. looch on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021512 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 07:37:30 +0000 looch 2021512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Meh, it's not like my husband is out there buying a sportscar. He knows he needs to be able to have our son back there in a seat, so that limits his choices. My husband decided on his previous car without my input, I never drove the thing so I didn't care. Andrea on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021507 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 07:29:52 +0000 Andrea 2021507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We always make car decisions together. I feel like I have more opinions on it than him, haha. I leave the nitty gritty details to him, though, like financing and features. blackbird on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021482 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 07:08:24 +0000 blackbird 2021482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't really care. I was in this situation two years ago--DH's explorer died and he needed a new small SUV, fast. We had talked about him getting a new Escape (it's not like he was running out and buying a luxury or sports car), and I was being induced the next day, so he just went and bought it. Similarly, I picked out my CRV with minimal input--after all, she's mine :) Ironically, guess who the salesman harassed about having the spouse's input *eye roll* MrsBananaGrabber on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021479 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 07:04:20 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2021479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'd definitely expect to have input regarding the price. I'd also insist that he get a very safe car (especially since the roads around us are terrible in winter, and he's not the world's greatest driver.) The only other input I'd want is to ensure that it's a practical choice that meets our needs. For example, I drive a fairly small car, and he currently drives a compact SUV. If he wanted to replace it with another small car, we wouldn't have a larger vehicle if we ever need to move anything. Other than that, it would be entirely up to him. As long as it's safe and is a practical choice for our family, I don't care about the make or model or what kinds of features it has. If your husband is a practical guy to begin with, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about :) AprilFool on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021469 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 06:59:14 +0000 AprilFool 2021469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Price is the only thing I would want input on in a car my husband drives. It would just need to fit into the budget, otherwise I wouldn't care what he got. yellowbird on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021456 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 06:43:45 +0000 yellowbird 2021456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would let him pick as long as it was practical and the price was good. Otherwise I wouldn't care a bit! Mrs. Lion on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021451 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 06:36:52 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2021451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ If it would solely be his car, the only thing I would be concerned about would be cost. And that it has 4 doors, because we need to have 2 cars that can carry kiddos (right now we don't and it is driving me crazy! haha) ValentineMommy on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021448 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 06:30:07 +0000 ValentineMommy 2021448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband used to be a mechanic and I would STILL have a ton of input into it. But, I'm super type A. That being said, if you're "meh" about the decision, and the type of car at least fits into your lifestyle, I'd let him pick it. Mrs. Jump Rope on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021416 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 04:01:16 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 2021416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @78h2o: my husband is a Subaru guy. He had a WRX for nearly ten years that was falling apart at the seams and has has his heart set on a new impreza for years. My two criteria were 1. can the kids car seats fit in it RF and Ff? and 2. Can we afford this? because he wanted the 2015 model. They do and we could, and other than pushing him to get the blue car I kept my mouth shut which is normally pretty hard for me to do. :silly: You won't regret having a Subaru. It's such a nice car! MenagerieMama on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021410 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 03:24:34 +0000 MenagerieMama 2021410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @78h2o: no advice but I think we are decision twins! I don't even like DH grocery shopping because he just pulls the first thing off the shelf to be done quickly (sometimes getting the wrong thing!) whereas I check the unit prices, if the brand is good, what's on sale, etc etc. Good luck!! erwoo on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021384 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 02:07:10 +0000 erwoo 2021384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would want input on price, reliability, and safety. Model wouldn't be such a huge issue as long as I am satisfied with those three requirements. We're going to have to buy two cars when we move back to the states. THAT will be interesting.... :shocked: lemondrop on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021379 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 01:57:43 +0000 lemondrop 2021379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We worked out our budget together, but I did all the research and negotiations for our car (online was super easy and I had a record of all of our numbers)- a Forester (LOVE it!) and he test drove it and our other choices and was fine with my decision. We switch off on our cars- whoever has the kids, has the Forester and the other car is our work commute car. When he gets a new car, he will have the final choice as long as it is something I feel safe driving. Giving up full control of a decision is not a bad thing, and it won't be the last time with a little one on the way. Trust your partner (because he's choosing an awesome car) :silly: Coffee-lover on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021367 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 00:54:06 +0000 Coffee-lover 2021367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My only requirements for my husbands last car was to stay within our budget, to be reliable, and it has to have a backseat big enough for a car seat. He is the one driving it, so I dont care otherwise. 78h2o on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021366 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 00:53:34 +0000 78h2o 2021366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thanks everyone! You are making me feel better about possibly just leaving it up to him. Usually we make all decisions with 50/50 input, but I just don't feel up to doing all the research. I know he'll make a good choice. I am more frugal and generally get better deals that he does, but that's because he values his time more than he values getting the best vs. a good deal. A part of me worries his search might not have been exhaustive, but I know I can overdo it (man, I love me some spreadsheets/pro vs con lists)...so, I think I'm going to defer to him...for pretty much the first time, ever. Lol. mrsjyw on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021360 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 00:41:08 +0000 mrsjyw 2021360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ As long as it's within our financial budget then I would leave it up to him. Dh is very practical and researches a ton on his own and I trust his judgment. (We are in the midst of car hunting.) I have no desire to do extra research. Sapphiresun on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021355 Tue, 13 Jan 2015 00:16:57 +0000 Sapphiresun 2021355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ As long as it meets our needs and is in budget, he can buy whatever. We currently have a two seater truck, and my only criteria for the replacement vehicle is that it costs less than $30,000 and has room for a car seat. birdofafeather on "How much input would you want to have on a car that will primarily be driven by your SO?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-input-would-you-want-to-have-on-a-car-that-will-primarily-be-driven-by-your-so#post-2021338 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 23:53:42 +0000 birdofafeather 2021338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Well, I love our outback and I primarily drive it mostly because DH drives a lot and we don't want to put miles on the new car. But I want to be involved because I would still be in the car and want it to be a good complement to the car I drive!