https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 00:34:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions/page/2#post-546266 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 17:54:58 +0000 hilsy85 546266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: aw this makes me sad...I'm sorry he's not more supportive! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions/page/2#post-546261 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 17:53:31 +0000 MrsRcCar 546261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is extremely supportive of my choice to breastfeed our son. However he would be extremely supportive if I wanted to switch to formula. I would be uncomfortable. I, however, do not nurse because DS can not latch properly. I have to admit it would be easier to nurse then it is to pump. I can understand your husband being uncomfortable though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions/page/2#post-546074 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:36:33 +0000 mrsmenow 546074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is neutral about breastfeeding. He appreciates that I do it, but if I wanted to stop he wouldn't mind. He doesn't usually say much about covering either. I am really private about it though-I go to another room if we have people over or aren't at home. I don't usually nurse with other people in the room (besides DH and DDs.) If I weren't as modest and he asked me to cover I would do it to make him comfortable- but his butt better be helping me with the cover. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions/page/2#post-546071 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:28:35 +0000 78h2o 546071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband isn't very supportive about breastfeeding. He thinks it's a pain and formula would just be easier. He calls me the "baby boss" because I won't compromise on that decision. He is really uncomfortable about my breastfeeing in publi. He usually asks me to do it someplace else, like another room or the bathroom. I do sometimes, but other times I say no, I'll do it here but I will cover... He doesn't like it but I guess we're both okay enough with that arrangement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-546069 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:25:09 +0000 Ra 546069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I expect DH to respect my wishes when it comes to my comfort level in all aspects of life. In the same respect, I honor his. I am currently pregnant, but DH has already voiced that breastfeeding without a cover makes him uncomfortable. For that reason, I will always wear a cover while in public. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-546064 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:19:42 +0000 pinkcupcake 546064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: @Weagle: agree with y'all's. </p> <p>I get to make decisions about whether I choose to BF or not, but I would totally respect his feelings about covering up. I'd also think that he would grant me the same courtesy and consideration if something he did made me uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-546046 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:08:14 +0000 Weagle 546046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Same here. I appreciate him trying to protect my privacy and modesty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545731 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 07:26:42 +0000 PrincessBaby 545731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I must be old-fashioned;). While I totally think that all BF decisions are 100% up to me, if my DH wanted me to cover up or if there was a situation that made him uncomfortable, I would cover up as a courtesy/out of respect to him... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545688 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 02:01:00 +0000 sarac 545688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hell to the no. I would never. My husband and I are totally on the same page about me never covering, ever. But I would make that choice - not him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545366 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 20:32:19 +0000 Ree723 545366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: yup, that was my DH's stance as well.</p> <p>Fortunately, DH is totally on board with 'my body, my choices' when it comes to just about everything - labour and delivery choices, breastfeeding, etc, but if he had an issue with me feeding in public, that would be his problem not mine. He does not own my body and therefore cannot 'hide' me away so others can't see what are 'his' (my boobs). I understand compromise but for some reason this issue rubs me the wrong way and I don't think a husband should have say in what level of exposure a nursing mother is comfortable with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545216 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 18:40:12 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 545216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I are on the same page about this, so we've never run into an issue, however, I don't think just because it is my body that my husband doesn't have a say in it.<br /> My husband would def ask me to cover up and I totally get that (I cover up anyway...actually I usually leave the room entirely when in public). He used to help cover me and hold my blanket in place or he'd help me get the baby on while blocking the view with his body haha<br /> Anyways, bottom line, my husband has a lot of say when it comes to my breastfeeding. Luckily for us though, it hasn't ever been an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545215 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 18:39:02 +0000 sera_87 545215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh has said he finds it funny how much the babe actually covers my boobs. It doesn't bother him at all if I bf in public w/o a cover (and even if it did, tough cookies, tbh. He's not the one trying to fiddle with squirmy baby+cover+whatever else might be going on). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545104 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 17:38:54 +0000 travelgirl1 545104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: Ha ha, love that word!</p> <p>@SAHM0811: Yeah, but the door was open. She had her back to the door though so no one could really see her eat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545065 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 17:15:30 +0000 Lindsay05 545065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH understood how I felt about BF. He would not be embarrassed if I did it anywhere with no cover and would probably tell those who said anything where to go. However, i'm too shy myself and would cover up around most people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545056 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 17:09:45 +0000 cyndistar3 545056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are on the same page, I always use a cover in front of other people. However even if I was comfortable with not wearing a cover I would use one if dh asked me to in public because his opinion matters a lot to me and I know he wouldn't want other people to see my boobies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545050 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 17:08:23 +0000 SAHM0811 545050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: worried about passersby? but you were in a treatment room waiting for a doctor and an ultrasound tech to come in? </p> <p>I think in your case not using a cover in a pretty private, medical setting is understandable. What other people need to take into acct too is that oftentimes using a cover attracts more attention. There are ways of discreetly bf'ing without a cover... It just looks like you are holding a baby. Also, having a cover over a baby while they are eating isn't the most comfortable thing for the baby... My baby would often swipe at or kick the cover off... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545039 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 17:04:14 +0000 lovehoneybee 545039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about this when I was pregnant and he said then that he thought he'd prefer I cover up (he didn't want my boobs on display) but after actually seeing me do it he doesn't care. He'll offer me a blanket in case I want it (there are some places I'm not comfortable doing it--other people that are looking at me a bit...skeezily (totally a word, yes?) and will cover us up if I want it, but if I don't it doesn't bother him at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-545001 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:53:40 +0000 kiddosc 545001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH has a problem with me breastfeeding in public. He embarrasses easily, so I take that into consideration. His hang up is definitely people seeing my boob though, not people watching E eat. Honestly I'm more comfortable sitting in the car or a quiet room than being out in the open, I embarrass easily too, and I've never felt it was my mission to help make other people comfortable with breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544948 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:34:09 +0000 tequiero21 544948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably get annoyed at him, but I think my hubby has a say and I'd respect his wishes... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544933 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:28:57 +0000 cascademom 544933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have discussed our expectations for breastfeeding. Right now, it's a fluid discussion where I still go in between wanting to do it for 6 months only or as long as I can. He originally envisioned a year. In the end, it's my body. I have the final say on when we stop breastfeeding and start weaning.</p> <p>ETA: He could care less about the cover up thing or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544927 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:27:58 +0000 LuLu Mom 544927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH stayed out of it, but I'm very modest so I was pretty much always covered in the hospital unless meeting with the LC. I included him in my decision to stop breast feeding, but he said it was ultimately up to me since it was my body. I would have it no other way, it is my decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544916 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:24:30 +0000 Mrs. Train 544916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think after four kids my husband didn't care any more. He would offer the cover as a help to me when we were in public. If I didn't want it he said fine. I was very good at being discrete so he didn't care. He was ready for me to wean our last at a year but eventually we did it at 15 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544898 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:19:49 +0000 pui 544898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband would probably want me to always be covered in public. I would probably just do it unless there was some kind of reason it wouldn't work (baby was fussy under the cover, ect). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544884 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:14:07 +0000 hilsy85 544884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's kind of strange....he wanted your baby to have her privacy?! That's a bizarre reasoning...I would guess he just didn't want your boobies on display, which is more understandable. Anyway, DH is supportive of however and whenever I want to BF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544754 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 15:35:45 +0000 MsLipGloss 544754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I agree. </p> <p>It's all about compromise. If I, for some reason, asked him to cover up BabyGloss (or himself) in public (for whatever reason), he would. It's more of an us thing than a me thing . . . BabyGloss is our baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544670 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 15:14:45 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 544670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your boobs, your decision. DH was always supportive of me if I was trying to use a cover and needed help adjusting, but he would never ask me to use one if I didn't want it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544519 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:45:02 +0000 Mrsbells 544519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand that a husband might feel awkward with other people being able to see part of your boob. My husband is definitely protective of me and evenw hen I have a cover on her helps "Adjust" it lol. I also have a friend whose husband stands next to her and kinda blocks view of her boob. I just smile and think its sweet </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544503 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:41:27 +0000 Lozza 544503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's stance on breastfeeding was basically "That seems hard. Thank you for doing it. Let me know what I can do to help." He has pretty much zero modesty concerns about either of us (I would be much more likely to cover up, whereas he thinks women should feel free to feed coverless when/wherever they want). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544221 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:14:48 +0000 Maysprout 544221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: I probably would have given him the stink eye too, I can see how it seems he didn't respect your decision making. </p> <p>My LO is 20 months and I haven't nursed her in public in quite awhile but yesterday my husband had surgery and she missed her nap so I ended up nursing her a couple times at the hospital and there was no keeping a cover on her. It would have made me upset if DH had said something about it or pushed a cover when I was already stressed with the situation, he'd have def got the stink eye at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-say-do-you-give-dh-in-your-breastfeeding-decisions#post-544209 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:10:43 +0000 Modern Daisy 544209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know for sure my DH is going to be forcing the cover on me. He is super sensitive about my privacy in general so I can't imagine him just sitting back being okay with me nursing out in the open. </p>