https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 14:37:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927329 Wed, 03 Aug 2022 12:40:35 +0000 karenbme 2927329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lahela017: thanks for this context. The room we stay in at my parents has a double and twin bunk beds and she was so interested in sleeping in the bunk beds last time so fingers crossed she’ll be happy about it this time.</p> <p>@nwm: We’ve been thinking about shortening nap, but she’s skipped it a few times recently and no one is happy/bed time is usually worse when that happens so we’re a little gun shy 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927320 Mon, 01 Aug 2022 14:43:57 +0000 nwm 2927320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we have found when this has happened to our kids we generally needed to shorten or remove their nap, and they would immediately have a much easier time going to bed at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927316 Sun, 31 Jul 2022 14:14:59 +0000 Lahela017 2927316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@karenbme: ugh, I'm sorry you're struggling with this. Sleep issues are no fun at all, especially when you are worried about bringing a new little into the picture soon. </p> <p>Just wanted to say not to worry too much if the twin bed doesn't work at Grandma and Grandpa's house. We did the same thing as you. When my daughter was about to turn 3 we tried the twin at my parents' house since she was too big for the pack and play she used to use there. Well, it was a total disaster and she ended up in the pack and play in the middle of the night. One month later though, back at home, we transitioned her to a twin bed because I wanted her out of the crib before little brother came, and she did totally fantastic. Couldn't have imagined it any better. It sounds like she might be ready for a twin bed since she's trying to climb. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927315 Sun, 31 Jul 2022 13:02:44 +0000 karenbme 2927315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, ladies. Last night she tried to climb out of her crib and got scared half way and lost it. I found her sitting on the top rail screaming, and we snuggled together in the recliner in her room for another 2 hours until she fell asleep, so idk if it’s fear after all. We weren’t planning to move her to a toddler bed yet, but maybe that would help. It would certainly make laying down with her easier. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We’re going to try her in a twin with a bed rail when we visit my parents next weekend and see if it helps at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927314 Sun, 31 Jul 2022 07:17:44 +0000 bhbee 2927314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it’s probably not the answer you want but physical contact worked really well for us, if your husband can do it. It’s still the best way to get our almost 4 year old to sleep quickly (usually a hand/arm but sometimes we lie down) and even my 7 year old falls asleep faster if he has a hand to hold. But I do think it depends on how much your child craves physical touch. Our middle (the 7 year old) has always needed a lot of touch for comfort. When he had troubling settling his body around age 2 we would actually lie down with him and throw an arm or leg over part of him and that just spoke to his system (maybe like a weighted blanket?) vs it taking hours. I think especially with new baby changes coming, it makes sense to need physical security during the transition to sleep. No one size fits all though, just throwing it out there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927313 Sat, 30 Jul 2022 08:20:10 +0000 Umbreon 2927313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really have advice... we went through this as well. It lasted like 2-3 months. We tried a variety of things... eventually it got better and now bedtime is easy. I dont expect it will last though haha</p> <p>It was super hard during those few months though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927312 Fri, 29 Jul 2022 23:53:32 +0000 LemonJack 2927312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All of our kids have gone through this phase at around 2-3. I know with our older two it was clearly fear around the dark and noises they would hear in the house or outside. We ended up having my DH take over bedtime at that age, and he would lie down with them until they fell asleep. Same as with you, we were expecting another baby each time, so I wasn’t a part of bedtime because we wanted things to remain consistent for them when the baby arrived.</p> <p>I know some people are opposed to lying down with them, but we don’t mind, and they have always tended to fall asleep super quickly (and stay asleep afterward). When we aren’t around for bedtime they adjust just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-fight-on-toddler-bedtime#post-2927311 Fri, 29 Jul 2022 19:44:46 +0000 karenbme 2927311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2 1/2 year old has recently started resisting bedtime—crying because she doesn’t want to be in her beds, wants one of us in her room for hours, just will not fall asleep sometimes until 10 or 10:30 and then is exhausted and cranky all day. She’s in a particularly fearful phase, where lots of things that used to be fine are suddenly scary and I’m a little concerned that she’s afraid of the dark or something but isn’t saying it. I feel awful telling my screaming child that she needs to fall asleep by herself, but I also know that when #2 comes in a few months we won’t be able to be 100% responsive only to her, so I don’t want to set that precedent either. </p> <p>I guess I’m just looking for support or strategies to get her to sleep. We got new Bluey and Bingo plushies that go in her crib and that fixed it for one night. It’s so hard though to hear her cry about how she wants me and have to hold the boundary. 😭😭😭 </p>