https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 21 May 2026 09:14:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219160 Fri, 26 Jun 2015 01:13:54 +0000 lamariniere 2219160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to be a nanny, and it's definitely something I would have wanted to be aware of during the interview process. That said, I think you can broach the topic organically. If they interview is going well and you can tell the candidate will be on your short list, mention it. If you can tell you won't be calling back a particular candidate, no need to say anything.</p> <p>Eta: as a nanny, I wouldn't have been less likely to take the job given the circumstances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219149 Fri, 26 Jun 2015 00:36:03 +0000 aderyn 2219149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't see any harm in telling the sitter, AFTER you choose them. I don't see the point in sharing it with everyone you interview, as it is a very personal thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219071 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 22:05:12 +0000 Greentea 2219071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.Badger: hey there. I would follow your intuition and kind of feel it out as far as when to share in the interview process. I don't think it will overwhelm them, will probably give perspective to your concerns and needs/expectations/desires. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219060 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 21:52:34 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2219060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you do what feels natural. I've interviewed 4 nannies and the one that worked out best was the one I was most honest with. What I was really looking for, my faults (being messy, etc.) and so forth. I told her how Dylan was a preemie and I was extra worried about him getting sick even though he was almost two when she started. In my area there are tons of people looking for jobs so it wasn't like I had to beg someone to work for us. If you feel like it's natural to talk about Lucas, do it and explain the situation just like you did on here...</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219053 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 21:45:32 +0000 Rockies11 2219053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would bring it up, and I don't think it matters which interview. I would feel much worse and more awkward finding out later (wondering if I said the wrong thing) and it wouldn't make me any less likely to take the job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219019 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 20:40:31 +0000 78h2o 2219019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would bring it up during the interview process. I don't think it matters too much if it is the first or second interview, but it they are going to see photos when they walk in the house, it might be less awkward to bring it up right at the start. Either way, as a former babysitter/nanny, I can say that it wouldn't make me less likely to take the position. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219018 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 20:39:36 +0000 Madison43 2219018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I interviewed nannies, I did an initial phone interview, a second in person interview with a bunch of candidates that I liked and then a trial day to see how my favorite few did with my LO. Assuming you're doing something similar, I probably wouldn't discuss Lucas in the first interview. My first round of interviews was mostly getting to know the nanny, her experiences and credentials. I gave a little info about my LO and the general job requirements but that was it. The second interview was really where I got into a lot more detail about us, the candidates met my LO and husband and we talked about parenting/nanny styles. I think that's the best time to introduce the nanny to your LO and tell her about Lucas. But really, it's just about what you're comfortable with. Regardless of when you decide, I can't imagine a nanny would be deterred from the position because of your family's loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219016 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 20:34:54 +0000 MrsF 2219016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that I would probably bring it up if you have someone in your home for a second interview. If I were a nanny I would probably feel more awkward finding out about Lucas later, but I'm sure that whatever feels comfortable to you will work out fine. I hope that you find someone who's a great fit for your family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219015 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 20:34:52 +0000 mrscobee 2219015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: I agree. Now that I think about it more I'm changing my mind. Hard to decide what to do for sure... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219013 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 20:33:31 +0000 ShootingStar 2219013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything in the initial interview. When you're doing final interviews or once you've decided on hiring someone, I would then try to tell them simply about Lucas and explain that as part of your expectations you'd like them to notify you asap about any health issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2219006 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 20:28:23 +0000 mrscobee 2219006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would bring it up if your plan is to bring the final candidates in anyway. Part of the interview will probably include telling the candidates about yourself which includes Lucas. If I were the candidate I would not be overwhelmed by this information. In the initial meeting you could keep it brief and say he passed from health complications. There probably isn't a right or wrong though so you should do what you feel most comfortable with. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-to-share-during-interview-with-nanny#post-2218997 Thu, 25 Jun 2015 20:19:20 +0000 Ms.Badger 2218997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm starting nanny interviews tomorrow. I am very unsure of what, if anything, I should share about my unique circumstances during the initial interview. I had a son, Lucas, who passed away following significant health problems at 14 months old. This information has almost no affect on the care of J, but we have specific health related concerns to watch for (it is unlikely J will be affected with the same condition, however, because we never found the cause, we cannot be entirely sure). Even in the unlikely event that J does get it, it would not require emergency-type response. These facts make me think it's best to omit bringing up Lucas entirely.</p> <p>However, I'm understandably anxious and would like any health concerns, even minor, relayed to me immediately. And also, I will bring top candidate(s) to our home to meet DH and J for a second interview (after I've talked with references) and there are pictures of Lucas up throughout the house, so either they'll think we're strangely close with another relative or we'll need to tell them then.</p> <p>So what do you bees think? Bring it up during the initial interview or sometime later? If you were interviewing for a nanny job would this information be overwhelming and make you less likely to want to take the position? </p>