https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 11:03:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2850245 Tue, 09 Oct 2018 20:37:55 +0000 Iced Tea 2850245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, I wasn't too bothered if they simply chose not to use cloth, even though I know the process is essentially unchanged for them; I'd clean the diapers, not them. </p> <p>What bothered me was that it felt like it undermined my faith in the staff. My daughter's wellbeing is in their hands 4 days a week; I need to know that I can fully trust them to tell me the truth. For them to lie, just to avoid a conversation... it didn't sit right with me. </p> <p>Luckily, the director came out to speak with me at drop off today. She had thought about what I said and contacted some people to discuss it. She said she actually likes cloth diapers and would like to allow them but thinks she was told the wrong thing by a licensing person at some point. So now she is researching the issue and trying to make sure she can appease whatever grumpy licensing inspector was responsible for this. So I feel a lot better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2850008 Tue, 09 Oct 2018 08:51:55 +0000 jennlin821 2850008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Iced Tea: I think how hard yo upush on this depends on your budget. We cloth diaper because adding diapers to our weekly budget make a big impact. I found that most people and daycare centers think that cloth diapers are a ton of work and are unsanitary. We use white Charlie Banana brand diapers (pockets, without rise snaps) so that they look and are put on very similarly to disposables. Each daycare we've been had the rule that the dirty diapers had to be taken home each day - not a problem at all. After demonstrating the diapers, there is no difference between the handling of the cloth and of the disposable, except our cloth gets put into a wet bag, and disposables go into the diaper pail. </p> <p>Personally, this is a hill I would severly fight on because there are no regulations prohibiting you and it specifies in their handbook about using AIOs. Perhaps start with her classroom teacher - demonstrate how they work and if she is willing to use them, then tell the director. </p> <p>NO PINS, NO RUBBER PANTS, NO SMELLY DIAPERS<br /> just cute prints on big bums :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849989 Tue, 09 Oct 2018 07:51:23 +0000 MrsSCB 2849989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would not bother me if they just had a “no cloth diapers” rule—I can completely understand why a daycare would not want to deal with that. It would bother me that they’re trying to blame someone else rather than just saying, “this is our rule.” Because that’s fine, they can have any rules they want, I’d just like honesty about it. That said, if I was happy with the daycare otherwise, I prob wouldn’t push it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849986 Tue, 09 Oct 2018 07:46:01 +0000 LCTBQE 2849986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Guess I’m in the minority here with @ElbieKay: but this is not something I’d make a fuss over. These people are caring for and nurturing your kid and however incremental the inconvenience is to them to use your preferred diapering/feeding method, they feel that it’s an annoyance that gets in the way of their work—if you’re just being a stickler about how they address it and you’d comply if they had Official Rules about it, then it’s one of yhose “do you want to be happy or do you want to be right” situations. I’d save my complaints for issues regarding actual care of the baby, like if they were propping up a bottle instead of holding her for feeds, or not changing diapers frequently enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849984 Tue, 09 Oct 2018 07:41:14 +0000 misolee 2849984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's annoying for sure that they can't crop to their own rule but I agree with @elbiekay. It is not something I would press further. At the end of the day, this daycare facility and providers are not comfortable with cloth diapers. If they are not comfortable with it, then they probably might not put it on correctly, or change it correctly, or clean it away correctly, or whatever it might be. And I would rather them put on the diapers the right way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849970 Tue, 09 Oct 2018 06:33:01 +0000 ElbieKay 2849970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the grand scheme of things this is not a hill<br /> I would choose to die on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849959 Tue, 09 Oct 2018 04:30:46 +0000 erinbaderin 2849959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had kind of a similar problem when I started my oldest - the daycare told me that they couldn’t do cloth diapers for health reasons, as per their centre’s guidelines, but I had previously toured another centre in the same chain who told me they could as long as I provided them a bin and a wet bag. I was annoyed but I really liked everything else about the centre so I let it go. I was using a diaper service, though, so it wasn’t like I’d made the investment in cloth diapers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849946 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 20:49:56 +0000 Mrsbells 2849946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Iced Tea: I find it strange that they didn't make their diapering rules clear before you started. None of the daycares my LOs have been in accept cloth diapers so when we used cloth diapers we still had disposables for daycare. I think this daycare just doesnt have the set up to cloth diaper and is giving you wrong information about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849861 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 14:07:43 +0000 Mrs D 2849861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: She back tracked and said that she was worried about the bottles breaking if they were to fall. She didnt think it was safe. (Still not admitting it was "her" rule)</p> <p>So - I brought one in and offered for her to throw it on the floor, knock it off something, whatever. She said "dont be ridiculous"...I was like "well, you have a valid concern, if you see that they will not break maybe youll be ok with it"...she said I was being ridiculous and that plastic bottles were just fine. Then she reminded me my first daughter used plastic bottles. (Not relevant)</p> <p>She said their rule would be no glass bottles going forward, but still does not have it in the family handbook - which I snarkily remind her every time they send it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849841 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 13:33:28 +0000 Grace 2849841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: what happened in the end? Did she make it policy or let it slide? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849834 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 12:54:48 +0000 BadgerMom 2849834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haaaate getting incorrect information or people standing behind incorrect claims. So although I wouldn't pull my kid over it, I would do like @Mrs D: did with the bottles and press the issue until they allowed the cloth diapers or admitted that this was "their rule." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849830 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 12:33:00 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2849830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe because kids show up sick sometimes to varying degrees she interprets it that way? If this is something you're willing to be "that parent" about then show them what you're reading, but otherwise I'd just bite the bullet and do the disposable diapers for daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849801 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 11:04:55 +0000 Mrs D 2849801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went through something similar with DD2 and glass bottles at Daycare. I read all the rules of the center - no mention of restrictions on bottle types. So I invest a ton of money in glass bottles. Day one I show up (thankfully it was only a 3 hour stay for DD) and they say they cant use those bottles - that is was a licensing issue.</p> <p>So I reviewed the licensing. Nope. I talked to the director...she insisted it was a licensing issue...but kept coming back to "what if one breaks". I finally said "look, its your center - you make the rules...but we've been here for 2.5 years and I have read every version of the rules. If you dont want people using glass bottles you need to stipulate it"....she pointed again to the licensing at which point I told her to print me the applicable licensing guidelines that prohibits it - otherwise I'd be bringing glass bottles....unless she wants to tell me its her rule she is afraid to fess up to.</p> <p>I dont know why they do this...just own it - its ok to make your own rules but dont hide behind licensing.</p> <p>As others have said ... I made a fuss to prove a point because I was annoyed but ultimately was not prepared to yank my daughter over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849784 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 10:40:29 +0000 kiddosc 2849784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd show her the regulation and say that you understand if as a center they have decided not to allow cloth, but that she is in error claiming it is not allowed by regulation and they need to update their handbook. If she still claims you're wrong, I'd go over her head. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849779 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 10:34:13 +0000 Jennibenni 2849779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would irritate me and I’d probably press the point but it wouldn’t make me remove my child from their care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849768 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 10:07:26 +0000 avivoca 2849768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh, I’d probably show them their own handbook and also the current DHS regulations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-much-would-this-daycare-issue-bother-you#post-2849765 Mon, 08 Oct 2018 10:01:28 +0000 Iced Tea 2849765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sent my one year old LO to her new daycare with cloth diapers. The handbook says only all-in-one cloth diapers are allowed. They sent them back home saying, "Sorry, cloth diapers are against DHS regulations". I knew this wasn't right since we used them at all the other facilities, however I wanted to make sure since there were some recent regulation revisions. I called Daycare Licensing at DHS and they assured me that cloth diapers are neither forbidden nor required; each facility can decide whether they want to do them or not. </p> <p>So I talked to the director today, and she insists DHS told me wrong. She says she has no idea how all those other places "get away with it", and shows no interest in exploring the issue. Just keeps saying, "Sorry, it isn't up to me." </p> <p>I decided to read the regulations myself, and they are banned for sick care facilities only. If she doesn't want to do cloth diapers, that's fine, but it bothers me that she is making this erroneous claim. We like the daycare otherwise since they are more in tune with the research on healthy childhood development. </p> <p>So, how much would this issue bother you? </p>