https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 16:36:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2537995 Sun, 01 May 2016 08:01:07 +0000 PinkElephant 2537995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: No announcement about anything, just dinner because we hadn't seen each other in awhile. Ended up being just six people in total (so only one other couple). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2537981 Sun, 01 May 2016 07:14:15 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2537981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: what was the big announcement they had? How exciting you were able to share your news in person with everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2537971 Sun, 01 May 2016 06:48:18 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2537971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: good!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2537931 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 23:23:20 +0000 PinkElephant 2537931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update: She wasn't pregnant. :silly: Her husband was making specialty cocktails when we arrived; DH saw him making hers and her drinking it, and decided to tell people "so before we have to dance around the why isn't PinkElephant drinking issue, we've got baby #3 on the way." Totally ended up being NBD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532793 Sat, 23 Apr 2016 13:58:21 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2532793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything. People are way too sensitive about the spotlight being taken from them these days though so I err on the side of pretty extreme caution I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532764 Sat, 23 Apr 2016 13:00:26 +0000 Modern Daisy 2532764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: I don't think you are wrong, but I wouldn't be upset about that personally. Especially if it was a good friend. In fact I might think it was weird if I found out after the fact that she was pregnant at the dinner party and didn't announce. If it was my friend I would want to know! I just think the key is letting them announce first and the excitement to die down, maybe an hour later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532733 Sat, 23 Apr 2016 11:15:40 +0000 ShootingStar 2532733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: Yeah, I'd probably be pretty excited if one of my best friends said they were too. Different story if it's your DH's friend's wife :silly: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532730 Sat, 23 Apr 2016 10:41:23 +0000 birdofafeather 2532730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I got all my best girlfriends together to tell them (only one knew out of 7) and I said, I'm pregnant! And one of the others said, me too! And we were all crying and happy, so moments shared don't have to be moments stolen. BUT it was both our first, and she is one of my best friends so different from your situation!</p> <p>If it were my husbands friends, honestly, he probably would just tell them all at this dinner since everyone was together as he wouldn't think about the third kiddo announcement that much. But maybe this is a guys versus girls thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532727 Sat, 23 Apr 2016 10:23:23 +0000 hb3233 2532727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with everyone else, I wouldn't say anything but if someone is blunt enough to outright ask, no need to lie about it either... I'd actually be super excited and not mad that anyone stole my thunder at all if I announced at a dinner party I threw and my friend did so at the same time (lol, I'd rather be the center of attention together with someone else :silly: ), but understand that a lot of people feel very differently about this... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532703 Sat, 23 Apr 2016 08:09:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2532703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This totally happened to me when I announced at work. My boss had been bugging me to announce. Several coworkers were personally told. Finally, I spill and he chimes in so- so is going to have a baby too. The othet pregnant mama and I had been swapping pregnancy stories and I'm sure lots of people already knew on the conference call about hers too. Still, I was thinking if I knew I had to share my moment then I would have just kept quiet. There was one more person on the call that was having a first baby too and my manager tried to prompt him to announce, but he stayed quiet since him and his wife didn't know the sex yet.</p> <p>All that to say, let them have their moment. Don't send out a group text beforehand because that will cut into the surprise. If people notice your bump and say something that's cool. If not, they will find out later the way you intended to authentically share the news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532621 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 22:21:03 +0000 SweetiePie 2532621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: I agree. I wouldn't go out of my way to announce before, during or after the party. Let people talk and wonder. If someone is clueless enough to ask why you're not drinking I would just say I was the designated driver for the night. I'd be shocked if someone tried to dispute that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532589 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 20:35:47 +0000 ShootingStar 2532589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I'd be so mad if I threw a dinner party to announce I was pregnant for he first time, to then have someone else be like "me too!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532398 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 15:14:01 +0000 Modern Daisy 2532398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's perfectly fine to announce at the dinner but let them go first! Once the excitement dies down a little say "guess what we're pregnant too!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532396 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 15:12:53 +0000 PinkElephant 2532396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks to everyone for the feedback - it's nice to see everyone is pretty much on the same page. I'll probably leave it to DH as to whether or not he wants to quietly/casually text his buddy as a heads up (again, these are more his friends than mine, so I'm not compelled to "announce" to them), and will do my best not to say anything the night of the dinner...but that said, if asked directly, I'm not going to deny anything (since at this point, it's pretty obvious I'd be lying), but will downplay my answer.</p> <p>@runnerd: @T.H.O.U.: No, you absolutely might be right! :) The woman is a fantastic chef (she teaches cooking classes) and we are about due to meet for dinner anyhow; it's just a few more people than usual, we haven't seen *her* (but have seen seen her husband) recently, and we know they were trying. But our suspicions could absolutely just be because we have babies on the brain! </p> <p>@Mrsbells: You'd think no one would ask, but there's one person in particular who can be very blunt/forward, especially if she's drinking. I think there's a high probability she'll feel the need to comment, and won't necessicarily use discretion about when/how/where she says something to me (ie., she'd say it while we're all around the dinner table) :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532365 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 14:49:00 +0000 MrsB2012 2532365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do anything yet. You don't know for sure that she's announcing at this dinner.. so there's no need to rush your announcement. If they do announce at the dinner, I wouldn't mention yourself unless it comes up. I mean.. if after they announce if you're talking with the ladies and it comes up in a "oh, are you guys having anymore kids.." etc, then you could say something then. Aside from that, I'd just say it when you're ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532272 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 13:19:56 +0000 LatteLove 2532272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we just had a similar situation! Dinner with friends where we were pretty sure they were going to announce their pregnancy (they did) and we didn't want to steal their thunder.<br /> I'm only 9 weeks, so we weren't even ready to share, but I basically planned to keep it casual and take a couple sips of my husband's beer. If they asked, then I would tell, and if not we'll wait a while to share. Hope it works out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532268 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 13:19:24 +0000 Mrsbells 2532268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: i'm with you and dont announce either. I would just play it by ear and only bring it up if someone asks. I dont think anyone will though. They might wonder but it's still a bit early for them to be sure you are pregnant </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532228 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 12:33:46 +0000 youboots 2532228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If just have DH text his buddy. Especially if you have already been telling people. I would not assume they are announcing. I would just not bring it up at dinner. I don't think it's a big deal regardless of what you do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532212 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 12:20:31 +0000 Ajsmommy 2532212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with some PP's I def would not announce or bring it up but if anyone asks I'd just be honest and say yes, but we are waiting to announce or something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532191 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 12:00:04 +0000 catomd00 2532191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I wouldn't say anything unless asked or it comes up naturally.You can not drink just because you don't want to! A "me too" after a potential announcement is def something id find awkward and kind of side eye as another partygoer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532177 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 11:45:27 +0000 JenGirl 2532177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just keep quiet unless asked about it. And if you're asked, be honest but downplay it. Then you're not "announcing" at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2532015 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 09:39:11 +0000 yellowbird 2532015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just let them wonder and not say a thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2531939 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:55:27 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2531939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: Agree, there is a good chance they just want to use their new wedding china and host a dinner party! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2531938 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:53:43 +0000 runnerd 2531938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it out of the norm for them to throw dinner parties? Just wondering if this may be a non-issue and a friendly gathering rather than announcement party?</p> <p>Either way, I would just wait if you haven't gone out of your way to tell them yet, but I wouldn't hide it if it comes up naturally in discussion, and you are cool with telling people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2531921 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:28:03 +0000 JerricaBenton 2531921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think especially because this is your DH's circle, don't announce at all and tell people individually if it comes up at the party. I definitely would not text or email beforehand. That almost seems more thunder stealing to me if the party is in fact a pregnancy announcement. I don't think you should have to lie or hide it either though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2531911 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:19:50 +0000 Happygal 2531911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just let people wonder and not bring it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2531905 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:14:36 +0000 Truth Bombs 2531905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely not announce before the dinner! I think the other couple may see it as you trying to beat them to the punch and steal their thunder. I would just go about your business at the dinner and if someone flat out asks if you are pregnant, then tell the truth! "Yep! But since this is our 3rd we haven't been making a big deal about announcing". I don't think you need to lie. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2531903 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:13:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2531903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: I just know from being pregnant with my third, at 13 weeks its really hard to not show! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2531902 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:13:40 +0000 Mamaof2 2531902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: I wouldn't announce but if someone asks I would tell them yes and leave it at that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-not-to-overshadow-an-announcement-wwyd#post-2531899 Fri, 22 Apr 2016 08:12:43 +0000 Foodnerd81 2531899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would sit there quietly. Hopefully no one calls you out publicly, and if anyone asks privately you could just say, yes, but I'm trying to keep it quiet for now. Don't even mention stealing her thunder. I feel like if you sent a text now she might be a little upset even though you are trying give sensitive. </p>