https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 04:19:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-obedient-do-you-want-your-los-to-be#post-90271 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 09:33:22 +0000 Mrsbells 90271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want my kids to be able to recognise in my voice if I mean for them to follow my orders NOW or if its something negotioable. My parents had different tones of voice and you could tell if it was something you could try to argue with or of you should just drop it and follow orders </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-obedient-do-you-want-your-los-to-be#post-90270 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 09:32:09 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 90270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want her to be just like my nephew. That boy is the most obedient, well behaved and polite kid I've ever met. He never makes a fuss, always listens when an adult tells him something, always eats his food and is very polite to everyone he meets. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-obedient-do-you-want-your-los-to-be#post-90247 Fri, 09 Mar 2012 09:08:34 +0000 daniellemybelle 90247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to teach our kids to obey and respect our authority. However, if I got to choose how obedient their personalities are, I would rather them be more "free spirits", even if that means that they struggle with obedience more than other kids. I was a very stubborn child, and my pediatrician told my mom that meant I would grow up to be my own person and not swayed by others. She took a lot of comfort in that, and whether or not it was actually true or just a self-fulfilling prophecy, I think I am definitely an independent thinker as an adult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-obedient-do-you-want-your-los-to-be#post-89996 Thu, 08 Mar 2012 21:52:59 +0000 Boogs 89996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love to have that balance, but not sure how to make it happen. I'm guessing only time will tell, and maybe some tricks from here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-obedient-do-you-want-your-los-to-be#post-89976 Thu, 08 Mar 2012 21:45:45 +0000 Maysprout 89976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now she's so young most of the reasons I say no is because of safety so either she listens or she gets moved away from whatever she's doing. She gets so much freedom to play though I don't worry about stiffing her. I worry about her teen years when it's normal and probably good to question but teen reasoning is often based more on emotions than rational thinking........I'm worried about the teen years and all the angst that can go with it, I'll expect her to listen then but I have no idea how to make teens listen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-obedient-do-you-want-your-los-to-be#post-89960 Thu, 08 Mar 2012 21:40:26 +0000 runsyellowlites 89960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 7 and I can say I still struggle with this balance. =/</p> <p>Like you I want him to be able to independently think through how to handle a situation BUT at the same time he's still at the place where he does things WITHOUT thinking... sigh.</p> <p>We've really talked to him about the importance about listening to and FOLLOWING instruction when it's given &amp; how it's given b/c you don't always know what the outcome would be if it's not followed right then.</p> <p>DS is a really great kid and I've never had any real issues with him but this one has REALLY been getting us...... lol... DH and I often look at each and at DS and go "Son.... liiiiiiiiiisten..." lol</p> <p>Sigh.... gotta love parenting.</p> <p>If you find the secret, PLEASE share it! lol</p> <p>ETA: I think some of the issue may also be the new baby fixing to come, since the not following instruction well has gotten much worse the last 2 months than it ever was even when I was single. =/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-obedient-do-you-want-your-los-to-be#post-89932 Thu, 08 Mar 2012 21:31:35 +0000 mrbee 89932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I tell Charlie to do something, I want him to do it right away unless there's a good reason. </p> <p>The reason is his safety: when we're walking down the street and I tell him to stop, I don't want him to decide whether or not to listen to me. I want him to stop right away, so he doesn't run out into traffic (which is a daily concern for us, since we walk to his daycare every morning and evening).</p> <p>So when we're out and about, I want Charlie to be extremely obedient. When we're at home, it's less pressing but still a good thing I think. That said, I do want him to grow up to be an independent thinker. I guess I'm not sure how to balance this all just yet!</p> <p>How obedient do you want your LOs to be? How do you balance obedience with having your LO grow up to be an independent thinker? </p>