Hellobee Boards Topic: How often do you call daycare?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How often do you call daycare? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 16:57:15 +0000 Mrs D on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585606 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 13:24:06 +0000 Mrs D 2585606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @stargal: I think calling as you are transitioning (this is a big change for you and them) is perfectly normal. Our daycare encourages it. At our center, all calls are funneled through the office...if the room is busy/chaotic they will call you back with an update when they can. If its calm - they put you through to the teacher. When I first put K in I called or stopped up every day for the first 2 weeks. Then I got comfortable and trusted they would call if they need me. I still called if I had a concern (sick/rough drop off/etc). With E...I did not call - but I have a close relationship with the newborn head teacher so I had complete faith and trust...she also texted me twice with pictures/updates. Dont feel bad... alphagam84 on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585548 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 12:46:28 +0000 alphagam84 2585548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I should add that for the first 2 months (4-6 month old) of her being in daycare, she was able to be in the daycare onsite at work so I went over everyday during lunch to hang out with her. By the time she went to a normal daycare she was 6 months old and I wasn't worried. madger on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585541 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 12:43:43 +0000 madger 2585541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I used to call every day BUT, that's because I would go at lunch to nurse her, and I wanted to make sure she was awake and it was a good time to stop by. I've never called just to check in. PinkElephant on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585535 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 12:38:58 +0000 PinkElephant 2585535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've never called preschool/daycare (other than to say a child is not coming in that day). Preschool has never called me (except for a time a check got lost in the mail and I owed them $$, haha). Daycare has called my husband a few times because DD2 was (a) pretty worked up or (b) calm again after being worked up, but I think they only do that because they know he's on-site (it is a backup daycare at his office). @stargal: I don't mean this AT ALL unkindly, but do you think you might feel better NOT knowing everything as it is happening at daycare ? I know that when daycare calls DH to say DD2 is having a crummy day (or hour!), and he subsequently calls me, all it does is make us feel like crap. DD2 is not sick, not hurt, not in need of anything, she's just expressing her displeasure at doing something she doesn't really want to do....and them calling us doesn't change anything, because since none of the above are issues, we're not cancelling essential meetings/appointments to go pick her up when nothing is actually wrong. ETA: but as a previous poster said, you're paying, so as long as you're not wanting to have long conversations with them, I don't think it's a big deal to call for a quick check if it actually DOES ease your mind. ms.line on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585529 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 12:34:30 +0000 ms.line 2585529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Last week was my daughter's first week at daycare (she's 4 months) and my husband called every day. She's our baby and we're paying a TON of money and the conversations are less than 90 seconds, so I have zero guilt about calling. ShootingStar on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585516 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 12:28:23 +0000 ShootingStar 2585516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I used to call every day when he was little. He went through a rough patch where he wasn't napping and was sick all the time, then they moved rooms and he was miserable every day at drop off. Part of the reason I called was because all of the teachers that would spend most of the day with him would be gone by pick up. And I never felt like the daily sheets were all that helpful. Once we switched daycare I stopped calling. And FWIW, we switched at 15m and even now at 2.8, we still have days of crying and clingey-ness at drop off. alphagam84 on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585449 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 11:42:07 +0000 alphagam84 2585449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I never call, I figure they'll call me if there's an issue. I think calling just distracts them from their job. FaithFertility on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585290 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 08:37:00 +0000 FaithFertility 2585290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've called twice in a year I think?? Pumuckl on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585289 Wed, 13 Jul 2016 08:35:32 +0000 Pumuckl 2585289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Only when I have to call them in sick. Both of mine started daycare at 9m and it was brezzy getting them used to the daycare setting, so that helped. Can they go for 5 days to get used to the daycare setting more? Then after D has adjusted scale back to three times? JoyfulKiwi on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585159 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 21:42:02 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2585159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @stargal: I called a handful of times in the early days. I knew he was fine, but I wanted to HEAR it, you know? I teach preschool and have a parent every so often who needs a little more reassurance. Currently I have a mom who calls every single day just to hear me say "Yes, his morning was great! He did XYZ and is resting well now." she makes sure to call during rest time and it's really brief. I don't mind it, so don't worry about being "that mom" for a while. Mae on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585138 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 20:47:42 +0000 Mae 2585138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @stargal: I just saw this and I so feel you. Fia started daycare at 20 months and it was freaking ROUGH. Like so much worse than I expected for so much longer than I expected. It took 8 weeks for me to not feel like she hated it, and just last week at 6 months in she finally stopped crying at drop off and I feel like she really LIKES it at daycare. Mae on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585137 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 20:46:17 +0000 Mae 2585137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think I've ever called just to check in. Maybe once when she was having a hard time her first few weeks. I do call pretty frequently though when I need something (generally they forget to release her daily reports to my email or I have a question about something). stargal on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585136 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 20:44:59 +0000 stargal 2585136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thanks everyone, I guess I'm just having a hard time letting go. He's 22 months and having a hard time adjusting (cries throughout the day) so it's hard for me. I have a lot of guilt leaving him. mfa_lady on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585111 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 20:08:51 +0000 mfa_lady 2585111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have never called. Our sitter called on the first day (to ask if she should wake her from a long nap, lol) but would normally only call if she had a fever or another symptom worthy of getting picked up early. In the early days, we got a "report card" of when she slept and pooped and how much she drank. Once that became consistent, the reports stopped. (DD goes to an in home daycare.) Every now and then she sends pics, but not often. SweetCaroline on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585093 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 19:54:57 +0000 SweetCaroline 2585093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Once or twice when she was on the verge of an ear infection. Mrsbells on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585080 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 19:41:05 +0000 Mrsbells 2585080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @stargal: How old are they? WHen LO started she was 12 weeks so I called once a day for the first week. then I stopped calling. I knew they would call me if there was an issue Charm54 on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585053 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 18:40:22 +0000 Charm54 2585053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never, unless we are picking her up early or if she's sick and not coming in.the first few months they would send me text and picture updates to let me know all was well, maybe once a week. I didn't ask for them but they were nice to have erinbaderin on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585052 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 18:39:21 +0000 erinbaderin 2585052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I called a few times during his first week, and since then only once when he had a really bad drop off to make sure he'd stopped crying. PawPrints on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585051 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 18:37:06 +0000 PawPrints 2585051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have never called. I assume if things aren't going well then they will call me. I don't think you should feel bad for being concerned, but maybe try to think of what they're having to step away from in order to take your call. You'd probably rather they focus on the kids, right? nana87 on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585045 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 17:54:31 +0000 nana87 2585045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've never called to check on her. When lo first started, the head teacher texted me updates to let me know she was doing well. Otherwise I just talk to the teachers at pick up/drop off. I've only called when lo was sick or going to be late sapphire on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585044 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 17:52:27 +0000 sapphire 2585044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO has been at two daycares- both of them called me the first day to let me know how she was going. I've never called for a status check - I mean, if she is having a bad day what am I going to do about it? I'm at work. Unless there's an emergency I won't be leaving...so I'd rather not have bad news! With that said, I love our daycare and our LO had a great time there. ElbieKay on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585041 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 17:49:23 +0000 ElbieKay 2585041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have never done that. ETA: I do occasionally email them, but it's about logistics like a billing issue or a question about sending supplies/gear to school. oliviaoblivia on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585035 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 17:32:34 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2585035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I called her out sick one time... Shantuck on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585011 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 17:01:24 +0000 Shantuck 2585011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've never called to check on DS. They will call me if there is a problem. looch on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585003 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 16:56:19 +0000 looch 2585003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I called a lot, but I always spoke to the director. youboots on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2585001 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 16:56:01 +0000 youboots 2585001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The director is available via text.... Occasionally. She will also text if T has diaper rash or if she has a question. We don't get those daily report cards. DillonLion on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2584991 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 16:44:49 +0000 DillonLion 2584991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I only email if there's something specific I need to relay to them (like if LO's grandparents are picking her up that day or something). I did call to check on her on her first day. But that was it. Pumpkin Pie on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2584963 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 16:17:37 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2584963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never. autumnlove on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2584961 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 16:13:27 +0000 autumnlove 2584961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never Alba4 on "How often do you call daycare?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-call-daycare-1#post-2584960 Tue, 12 Jul 2016 16:13:11 +0000 Alba4 2584960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never...