Hellobee Boards Topic: How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How often do you have to parent without your spouse around? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 17:50:42 +0000 krispi on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2581170 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 14:14:44 +0000 krispi 2581170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I solo parent several days every week, but the days vary, due to my husband's work schedule. His schedule includes working 12 hour days every other weekend, so 2 weekends a month I solo parent all day. I also solo parent 2-3 nights during the week from daycare pick up until bedtime. catomd00 on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580398 Sun, 03 Jul 2016 07:13:04 +0000 catomd00 2580398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH is in sales so used to travel quite a bit. He just took a new job that won't require any travel out of state and nothing overnight. I'm so excited!! erinpye on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580380 Sun, 03 Jul 2016 04:45:31 +0000 erinpye 2580380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm a SAHM, so I do the regular 40+ hours a week my DH works (he's the CMO, so his schedule is often longer just depending, but he gets to work from home). And then he also travels about once or twice a month and I'm alone with the kids for the few days each time that he's gone. The hard part is our parents are all young and still work full-time during the week, so when he's away for work, I'm really on my own. PurplePeony on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580295 Sat, 02 Jul 2016 17:38:22 +0000 PurplePeony 2580295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Usually 2-3 evenings per week and 1-2 full weekend days per month. DH also travels for a week to 10 days at a time 3-4 times per year. I travel for work now and then, but usually only 2-3 days at a time and never over weekends. So DH almost never has to solo parent for more than a couple hours at a time. Rainbow Sprinkles on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580257 Sat, 02 Jul 2016 14:34:36 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2580257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I "solo parent" while my husband is at work, so about 55 hours a week. Part of that is while we are sleeping because he leaves early, but I do the 36392720 wake ups with our infant every night. I just consider it my work, though, that I do while he's at work. He is solo with them about 15+ hours a week while I do my PT job. MrsKoala on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580247 Sat, 02 Jul 2016 13:56:17 +0000 MrsKoala 2580247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not often at all. I'm actually away more than my spouse is. sotofamilia on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580132 Sat, 02 Jul 2016 07:31:18 +0000 sotofamilia 2580132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Most of the time. I SAH, but I don't consider that solo parenting, that's just my job. I consider it solo when he's not home for dinner/bedtime routines, which happens about half of the time. He's super helpful and engaged when he's home and I wanted to be a SAHM badly when I was working, so this schedule works for us. Finfan on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580121 Sat, 02 Jul 2016 06:54:39 +0000 Finfan 2580121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Almost never. DH is a SAHD but he gets lots of time to do his own stuff as his parents live in our town. I am usually home at 5:30 and always home for bedtime. youboots on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580094 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 23:19:31 +0000 youboots 2580094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH is gone 80-100 nights a year. I SAH. He works long hours sometimes but then has random light days. It works for us, but the physical care is hard on me sometimes. ineebee on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580031 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 19:01:02 +0000 ineebee 2580031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ All the time. I'm a SAHM and DH is basically here for breakfast and comes back either right in time for bedtime (50% of the time) or way after. Coming back for bedtime is a recent development, but thank goodness it's happening. We only have one LO (15m). I can't imagine what this might be like with two. nana87 on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580026 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 18:45:08 +0000 nana87 2580026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I theoretically solo quite a lot-- lo only goes to daycare part time so I'm with her 3-5pm mon-thurs and all day Friday's...but dh works from home so he's on hand if everything is a disaster, lol. He goes on maybe 3-5 trips per year as well which are actually solo SweetiePie on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around/page/2#post-2580014 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 18:20:02 +0000 SweetiePie 2580014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A lot. I SAH, but additionally I take a lot of trips with just LO and I (visiting family, going to our beach house, etc). This weekend DH is going to a wedding Sat - Sun, then LO and I leave Sun - Tues to visit my best friends and their kids. So sat - tues I'll be solo. I actually don't mind it, but it does make me appreciate him more when he is home! He's really helpful. daniellemybelle on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579927 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 15:15:07 +0000 daniellemybelle 2579927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm a SAHM. All day long on the week days. He's left for work by the time she wakes up and gets home a couple hours before bedtime. There are days every so often when he works late or has stuff going on that she doesn't see him at all. I can't imagine what it's like to hardly ever or never be one on one with LO! I really treasure our family time on the weekends. lioneyes on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579708 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 10:39:04 +0000 lioneyes 2579708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ SAHM here- during the week, husband gets up with our toddler and feeds him breakfast, I do the rest of the day including bath and bed. He travels for work every 8-10 weeks and then it's all me but it's really not that bad for 3-4 days. More than that and I start to go a little crazy. yoursilverlining on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579707 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 10:38:25 +0000 yoursilverlining 2579707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Usually 1-2 nights a week. It depends some on his teaching schedule. I also usually take at least 1 weekend day solo parenting (and sometimes the evening as well), but that should be pretty short-lived as my husband is writing a book and once that's done will have more free time. catlady on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579687 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 10:09:12 +0000 catlady 2579687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not much at all. Probably less than an hour per day on average (I do daycare drop-off/pick-up and also watch her on the mornings when he goes to crossfit). Every so often he travels for work so I solo for a day or two but that's only a few times per year. ladybee on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579675 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 09:55:49 +0000 ladybee 2579675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ During the school year, not much. During the summer I'm home all day. He leaves right after wake ups and is home after bed most days. FaithFertility on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579634 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 09:13:19 +0000 FaithFertility 2579634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Normal schedule every other weekend and 2-3 nights a week! caterw on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579625 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 09:03:46 +0000 caterw 2579625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am a SAHM, DH is a restaurant manager so he works crazy hours. I am solo probably 4 nights a week or so when he works double shifts and comes home at like 11-12. He does get a weekday or two off and he will come to DD's activities which she loves (or we can do a little daytrip when places are less busy). I miss him for dinner though. pwnstar on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579615 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 08:54:05 +0000 pwnstar 2579615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Truth Bombs: @PinkElephant: @sandy: We both WOH FT. When DH is not travelling, during the week I get myself ready for work and LO ready for daycare, DH does drop off, I do pick up, and then I'm on my own for dinner/bath/bed. He tries to make it home during the week for bath/bed, but it doesn't happen that often. He also travels a good bit, so of course on those days/weeks, I am totally on my own. snowjewelz on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579590 Fri, 01 Jul 2016 08:31:31 +0000 snowjewelz 2579590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Rarely. He is usually the one solo-parenting. lawbee11 on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579396 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 22:19:14 +0000 lawbee11 2579396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A couple of nights a week depending on his teaching schedule but it's not bad at all. ETA: Neither of us travel for work. Foodnerd81 on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579377 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 21:42:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 2579377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Like others said, I SAH so during the dummy it's expected that I'm solo parenting. But he usually gets home right around bedtime or after and that sucks- that last hours of finishing dinner and getting both kids ready for bed alone when everyone is tired and in a bad mood sucks. He travels occasionally for work which is extra hard right now with two kids who wake up at night sometimes. Luckily his travel has been pretty light recently. mrsbookworm on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579343 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 20:55:41 +0000 mrsbookworm 2579343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I SAH so the kids are with me from wake up until 6 or so during the week. I don't really count that as solo parenting though. DH travels about one week a month so that's my "solo parenting" time. Somehow, being alone on the weekend with the kids seems harder. avivoca on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579337 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 20:50:56 +0000 avivoca 2579337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ In the summer, a lot because of my husband's travel schedule. keepcalmcarrie on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579329 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 20:44:02 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 2579329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mon-Fri 7:30 am to 5 pm. I don't really mind (most days). I chose to SAH and I like having control of our day :) Luckily he can make it home for 99% of our evening routin (dinner/bathtime/bedtime) and neither of us do extra "stuff" at night or on the weekends, so it's family time all the time when he's not at work. sunny on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579288 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 20:08:33 +0000 sunny 2579288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh wow lots of you ladies are solo a ton. I typically don't need to do much solo. I pick up LO from school and DH is home 30-60 min after we get home. Right now on I'm on mat leave and I have LO1 in school only part of the day so I can spend more time with her. OldpuebloJenn on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579282 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 20:05:10 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2579282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I SAH, but don't consider that solo parenting time, that's just my day. A few evenings a month DH has late meetings, additionally he travels 12-16 weeks a year, in 2 week increments. That's what I truly consider my solo time, when there's no break, no additional adult in the house. Dandelion on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579277 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 20:00:10 +0000 Dandelion 2579277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Only a couple nights a week. DH is SAHP now so kids are his domain right now. Tanjowen on "How often do you have to parent without your spouse around?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-parent-without-your-spouse-around#post-2579234 Thu, 30 Jun 2016 19:16:06 +0000 Tanjowen 2579234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ All the time. DH is a pilot so he's gone and totally unavailable for 4-5 days a week sometimes. This weekend he goes to Africa for 5 days, ugh. The major benefit is that when it's not busy season he is home a lot.