Hellobee Boards Topic: How often do you have to solo parent?

Hellobee Boards Topic: How often do you have to solo parent? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 08:51:52 +0000 Blueberry on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1820367 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 16:14:23 +0000 Blueberry 1820367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Just twice a week and that's only for like 6 hours.. DH's schedule is pretty great skipra on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1819702 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 19:32:47 +0000 skipra 1819702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It depends. I SAH so I solo parent on the weekdays. Sometimes DH works late and barely makes it home for a late bedtime. Often if he is working a lot we will go stay with my mom. We've also done that when we were moving but had no place for a month or had work done on the house or when family was visiting. I spent a couple weeks at my mom's house with just LO while she was on vacation and we only saw DH on the weekends. It is not at all unusual for me to have both kids overnight by myself. Ocean girl on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1819667 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 18:51:36 +0000 Ocean girl 1819667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A lot. DH has 10.5 months left of his residency program and works most days 7-6 and then studies in the evenings. I feel bad, he only gets about 30 minutes a day with DD. Thank goodness the end is in sight!! pinkb on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1819509 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 15:33:46 +0000 pinkb 1819509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH and I both solo parent 5 days a week since we work opposite shifts. MamaChin on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1819506 Sat, 16 Aug 2014 15:30:32 +0000 MamaChin 1819506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mon-Fri, he's gone before the kids wake and home just to do bedtime. So he spends 10 mins with each kid on weekdays. It's not easy but his demanding work schedule is what allows me to stay home so can't complain much, at least we have the choice. jhd on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818905 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 21:51:01 +0000 jhd 1818905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @OldEnglandMama: that sounds so very hard! Big hugs to you! spaniellove on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818786 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 20:46:26 +0000 spaniellove 1818786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Close to 12 hours a day, 5 days a week. He comes home just before bedtime. And several hours a day on the weekends. woodentulip on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818781 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 20:42:39 +0000 woodentulip 1818781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I solo parent for about a week a month when my husband travels. He is often around for breakfast, but then not home before bed, but then comes home shortly after so I can get some air! ;) Vegmama on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818777 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 20:41:14 +0000 Vegmama 1818777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I get a little "weird" about saying I solo parent ... While I'm home, he's working hard to provide, so I think he's parenting in that way. I am alone with baby in the mornings (until noon) 5 days a week, and most evenings until 6ish. We have a nanny 3 days a week, so I can work (I work from home). I will say, the days our nanny isn't here (and my partner works late) are harder than the others. It gives me a lot of empathy for moms and dads who don't have a partner for whatever reason. Balancing housework, taking care of baby, and work is hard. filly on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818466 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 16:28:40 +0000 filly 1818466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I do all mornings and maybe 1/month when DH goes to Portland [one night] for work. HLK208 on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818455 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 16:16:42 +0000 HLK208 1818455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A lot. DH is gone 14 hours a day with commuting and he works between 5-14 days straight. His schedule varies every week but he usually only has one or two days off. Aandmklover on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818435 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 15:40:19 +0000 Aandmklover 1818435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH travels for work a few times a year. He's going out of town next week and it will be my first time alone overnight with our 3 week old and 22 month old. Eek! sandy on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818373 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 14:41:23 +0000 sandy 1818373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It varies a lot. Sometimes he's gone for a work trip every week for 2-3 days for several months but then he'll have a stretch of no travel for a month. I don't mind the overnight trips. It's the trips that are longer than three days or back to back that can make it tough bc you get no break but my parents are always willing to come help if needed...even if just for an hour or two in the afternoon. Turd Ferguson on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent/page/2#post-1818298 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 13:50:19 +0000 Turd Ferguson 1818298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A ton. DH travels for work and is gone 5-10 days at a time, then home for a day or two, then gone again. illumina on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1818288 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 13:43:05 +0000 illumina 1818288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A handful of times a year...usually only a few days at a time. winniebee on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1818281 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 13:35:00 +0000 winniebee 1818281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A lot of the time. DH has an unpredictable work schedule and sometimes has to work weekends. On top of that had to do 3-4 weekends while he was at conferences. I'm used to it though :) bpcmarj on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1818271 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 13:23:57 +0000 bpcmarj 1818271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Every day? With DH's work and gym schedule he is pretty much home for dinner and bedtime most days. But he is usually asleep before LO. OldEnglandMama on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1818265 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 13:21:39 +0000 OldEnglandMama 1818265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ 95% of the time. DH is a 4th year med student at a school in Maine. There aren't enough patients up there so they get sent all over everywhere for clinical experience. DS and I live in MA (MetroWest ish), where my job is, DH has been in Central ME, MidCoast ME, RI, Western MA, and Northern MA, in the 5 months since DS was born. It will continue for the next year too. Then come residency, hopefully we'll be in the same place. Not only do I solo parent, but I'm the sole income, *and* we have zero family around here, *and* we've lived here less than a year so have zero friends. It's hard. But the hardest part is when he's home and tries to "help" - it just messes with our routine :( catomd00 on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1818210 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 12:46:25 +0000 catomd00 1818210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pretty much every day. cascademom on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817761 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 08:51:44 +0000 cascademom 1817761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ A couple times a month depending upon social schedule. I stopped going to one of my hobbies after LO arrived for a couple of reasons. Personally, I would hate to miss out on bedtime routine or hanging out with him for extraneous social activities. I'm still social and hang out with friends-tea this weekend, but prioritize our family first. BrandNewMom on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817753 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 08:47:47 +0000 BrandNewMom 1817753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ About 2 weeks a month he travels for work. It's Mommy daughter girl time! Bubbles on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817702 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 08:26:51 +0000 Bubbles 1817702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH does morning wake up most of the time but then I am solo all day and for bedtime Mon - Fri! DH also works about 1 weekend every 2 months. Alivoo01 on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817646 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 07:56:03 +0000 Alivoo01 1817646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Every Tuesday night for sure and occasionally Wednesday or Thursday night. And if it's a tournament weekend, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday too. matador84 on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817552 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 06:29:54 +0000 matador84 1817552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Myicitygirl: I alternate nights when I can. I bathe the baby in a puj tub and toddler in a tub. Non bath nights I just give the a good wipe down with a rag. looch on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817534 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 05:57:58 +0000 looch 1817534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Hardly ever. My husband does go out of town on business trips maybe once or twice a year, but they are for a full week. On those weeks, I stay at my parents house, usually. bushelandapeck on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817521 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 05:27:58 +0000 bushelandapeck 1817521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ All day T/Th/Fri until he gets home from work and then usually once a month for a few days when he's away for work. I also do most of the morning wakeups but I'm a morning person, so I'm usually up anyway. MamaT on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817510 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 04:42:40 +0000 MamaT 1817510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Myicitygirl: my husband travels a lot so for bath time with my 11 week and 2.5 ye old, I put the infant tub at an angle in the regular tub which gives my toddler just enough room to play at one side. I get everything I need in the bathroom before we begin and bathe the baby first. Then get him dressed while the older one plays. Then quick bathe my toddler. It's not ideal but it works to get them both clean! Then I can sit on my toddlers bed and read him bedtime stories while I feed the baby. SugarplumsMom on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817503 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 04:11:11 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1817503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The first 18 months of her life, I soloed. 06:30-17:00. Her first year was pretty much 24/7 since she preferred me. Now it's 50/50, but she's in daycare. Myicitygirl on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817497 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 03:50:05 +0000 Myicitygirl 1817497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @matador84: i am dreading bath time and bedtime. The baby is too little to sit up, so I cant bathe them together yet. matador84 on "How often do you have to solo parent?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-do-you-have-to-solo-parent#post-1817495 Fri, 15 Aug 2014 03:45:37 +0000 matador84 1817495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Myicitygirl: I have a toddler and baby. We have to get out of the house a lot!