Hellobee Boards Topic: How often does your child throw tantrums in public

Hellobee Boards Topic: How often does your child throw tantrums in public https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 02:31:46 +0000 MrsKoala on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public/page/2#post-2583972 Mon, 11 Jul 2016 08:48:34 +0000 MrsKoala 2583972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He's still young at 2.5 so it's really only happened once at Target. He's done it at home plenty but in public, he is easily distracted and doesn't do it at all. snowjewelz on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public/page/2#post-2583963 Mon, 11 Jul 2016 08:33:45 +0000 snowjewelz 2583963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ 19 months and so far no tantrums in public. Close to it once when we went out to breakfast after her 1st dentist appt that she did not enjoy, lol. looch on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public/page/2#post-2583921 Mon, 11 Jul 2016 06:46:13 +0000 looch 2583921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Throw himself on the floor screaming tantrums, never. But that's because when my son was small, if there was even a chance that he would do something like that (usually when he was overtired or hungry), I would just stay home...trust me, don't do that. It was soooo isolating. birdofafeather on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public/page/2#post-2583894 Mon, 11 Jul 2016 00:45:10 +0000 birdofafeather 2583894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ In public, I'm going with monthly although it's more since she's been 35 months. Threenager to the nth degree over here. I had to carry her screaming out of a feed store last week because she didn't want to get down from a tower of chicken feed. PinkElephant on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public/page/2#post-2583878 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 23:04:14 +0000 PinkElephant 2583878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I voted once a month, but if we are talking full blown tantrums, I probably should have voted never (or pretty much never). I can think of a time when one DD, and I honestly can't remember for sure which one it was, totally lost her stuff about a snack in the grocery store. She was in the stroller, I was almost finished shopping, and I had to check out because I'd shopped into my stroller! I just mostly ignored it and spoke soothingly aloud, more for the benefit of other customers being able to "see" I was doing something than because I actually thought it would calm my daughter. We definitely have our share of me having to forcibly strap an uncooperative child into a stroller to get home from an activity or the park, and that involves some degree of crying, "noodling"/going limp, thrashing, or in the case of DD2, pushing....but honestly I don't feel embarrassed by that because it's in places loaded with kids. In general, I try not to take my kids in boring errands If I don't have to, and when they do need to come, I try to choose the best times of day for all of our patience levels and the stores/doctor/whatever being less crowded. A friend also pointed out to me recently that my kids' tantrum volume is about a five, and to that reason, she wouldn't even consider their displays to be full blown tantrum. By comparison, she says her daughter (whose behavior I actually think is very mild) tantrums at about an eleven! :wink: MrsSRS on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public/page/2#post-2583872 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 22:02:50 +0000 MrsSRS 2583872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I agree with the pp about it being largely personality driven. DS just isn't confrontationally defiant so he just doesn't really throw tantrums. But, we also don't try to run errands or do other things when the kids are tired or hungry, and he's usually well rested amd healthy which helps, I'm sure. Now, DD, on the other hand, is already testing the tantrum waters at 13 months, so...😑 (FWIW for those wondering about the frequency of outings contributing, I'm a sah/wahm and have the kids out and about every day for fun outings and for all necessary errands. I actually wonder if the frequency might be lower if the kids are more accustomed to errands?) travellingbee on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public/page/2#post-2583805 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 17:53:39 +0000 travellingbee 2583805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Frequently, but I voted a week because he's in daycare full time so we don't go out in public too much. A few times a week. He tantrums when he hasn't napped or is hungry. We've had a few that lasted like 45 minutes (only about 15 minutes in public before we left and he continued.) :( I have a very strong willed boy. hellobeeboston on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583795 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 17:02:13 +0000 hellobeeboston 2583795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Luckily, never. LO is 3.5.... He has mini meltdowns, usually at home, but doesn't really tantrum like you're describing. whiskers on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583794 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 17:00:41 +0000 whiskers 2583794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD1 (3.5) is way to conscious of her surroundings to throw a tantrum in public. She does not like attention on her. catomd00 on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583787 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 15:24:14 +0000 catomd00 2583787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never yet. She doesn't really tantrum at home either though. littlebug on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583782 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 15:05:23 +0000 littlebug 2583782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @yellowbird: I totally agree with what @LBee: said. It's really personality-driven, not parenting-driven. My son is generally super chill, goes with the flow, and is pretty easily distracted. I can already tell, at 5m, that my daughter is going to much more difficult. She's much more opinionated and fussy that D was at her age. I imagine that will continue into toddlerhood and beyond (God help me in the preteen years!). yellowbird on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583780 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 15:01:11 +0000 yellowbird 2583780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @LBee: hahaha! Thank you! Sometimes I'm just like , what the hell am I doing wrong!?!?!? I always try to talk to her about it and I rarely lose my cool, but sometimes I just want to die while everyone is staring. chopsuey on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583767 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 14:20:35 +0000 chopsuey 2583767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My kids have cried briefly in public places, but have never had tantrums. DD is 5 and DS is 3.5 runnerd on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583750 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 13:24:12 +0000 runnerd 2583750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @LBee: haha yes I love that meme! kodybear on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583749 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 13:22:10 +0000 kodybear 2583749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ 3.5 yo - probably once or twice a year. It's rare, she's usually calm. She does have whining crying moments but rarely tantrums. And if she is starting to get worked up we are outta there and head home asap. Almost 2 yo - no epic tantrums yet although he will whine and cry when he gets bored. So we usually head out soon after. LBee on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583746 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 13:01:54 +0000 LBee 2583746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @yellowbird: you aren't doing anything wrong!!! It's tough, but you can't compare this kind of stuff with other parents. It's so personality driven, as @twodoghouse has beautifully represented. You can parent two kids the exact same way and one can throw lots of tantrums and one not. One day that strong will is going to serve her very well! @runnerd: strong will parents unite. He doesn't tantrum much in public, but that's just because I have the luxury of not having to do errands with him usually (perk of work out of home parent I guess). This thread made me think of this meme: [attach=4559/16/oa4237.600x413.image.jpeg] yellowbird on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583743 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 12:52:02 +0000 yellowbird 2583743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It's a few times a week with us and our 3.75 year old. She is so sassy and will not listen when we tell her not to do something! I feel like I am doing something wrong :bummed: Maysprout on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583716 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 11:07:37 +0000 Maysprout 2583716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Some of this probably has to do with how often the kid is out in public for an hour or more - for some parents it's everyday, for some it's just on the weekends or less. Also the activity, some parents can do most of their errands alone and some multiple kids are brought along for every chore that needs to be done. Both my kids have been most unreasonable bw 1.5 - early 2. I'm not sure how often it was but it wasn't great fun but at the same time I think they both learned some lessons that have stuck with them and make parenting now a bit easier. sorrycharlie on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583712 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 10:59:20 +0000 sorrycharlie 2583712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ In recent memory, my 3.5 year old only has once. If my 1.5 year old starts crying I wear her which nips it in the bud. That is NOT to say they don't have epic tantrums at home. They just save them for me 😂 sarac on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583711 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 10:57:16 +0000 sarac 2583711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never, for my older daughter. She's almost 5, and she's never had a tantrum like that anywhere. I'm expecting my 11 month old to be terrible about it, just to balance it out. littlebug on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583698 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 10:21:16 +0000 littlebug 2583698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Seriously hesitant to answer this question and jinx myself, but at 3.5 he's really only done this once or twice. KT326 on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583682 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 09:11:58 +0000 KT326 2583682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I didn't vote because it varies. He is 4 and we've had our fair shair of tantrums in public since he was about 18 months. I've football carried him out of many places. Most recently (like a couple weeks ago) he threw a screaming fit in the shoe store because he was goofing off and lost the lid to his shoe box under the rack and couldn't get it. He was on the floor and it seemed to last forever but was maybe 5 minutes before I convinced him the world was not going to end if he didn't have the lid to his box. One time when he was 3.5 and just potty trained we went to Target. He had to go to the bathroom but refused to wash his hands and started screaming. I finally just picked him up and carried him out. My husband said everyone could hear him screaming. It was awful and then we spent about 20 minutes just trying to get him in his car seat (he wanted to go back into Target and started throwing a fit about that). runnerd on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583674 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 08:47:17 +0000 runnerd 2583674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Just better comment to make the other parents of tantrum-throwing, strong-willed children feel better! :) can't believe all these never responses! Probably around 18mo it was weekly, now it's probably every 3 weeks at 2 yr old. (Only because we've gotten better at our snack distractions and bribe game) Foodnerd81 on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583668 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 08:19:53 +0000 Foodnerd81 2583668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @twodoghouse: mine aren't twins, and the baby is only six months, but it's already so interesting to see just how different their personalities are. I can only imagine seeing them side by side like twins. You are also giving me hope that maybe my more chill baby will continue to be a chill toddler than big sister. twodoghouse on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583667 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 07:52:31 +0000 twodoghouse 2583667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I voted once a month, but thinkig about it more, maybe once a week is more accurate for DD. DS rarely has problems in public, but if we are anywhere for too long, DD will melt down. I make it my goal to watch for the signs and get her into the car and on the way home before things get really bad. If we are doing anything that might run into naptime, bedtime, or mealtime we are guaranteed a breakdown from DD, so I just do my best to avoid messing with her schedule too badly. Off the top of my head, she's had meltdowns at soccer, the zoo, a family members' house, another zoo, the dr office, and a coffee shop in the last week. But she was sick with a cold this week so that certainly didn't help! We're pretty sure this is just DD's personality. She feels everything very strongly and has since the day she was born! It's so interesting to see the differences between DD and DS (twins) because one is very easy going and one is...not. @PawPrints: @Bubbles: We practice RIE too, and it definitely doesn't mean zero tantrums for us! It does help DH and I react to the meltdowns, though. avivoca on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583659 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 06:04:59 +0000 avivoca 2583659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh yeah, she also threw a fit at the car lot yesterday because she didn't get to look at any cars (we were in the wrong place). Talk about embarrassing as you carry your screaming kid out of the Honda showroom. Anagram on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583657 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 06:00:53 +0000 Anagram 2583657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It's happened occasionally. It just happened yesterday when she didn't want to leave Buy Buy Baby because of the toys displayed at the front. Bubbles on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583653 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 02:39:35 +0000 Bubbles 2583653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @PawPrints: we do our best to practice RIE too - but I think for us at this stage that means more tantrums! (Though usually v quickly moved on from) As he is generally encouraged to let out his feelings, and there is no way I will use bribery or give him his own way to avoid a tantrum! He's a fiery little guy though 😉 Bubbles on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583652 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 02:32:16 +0000 Bubbles 2583652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm amazed how many people are on the lower/never end! I picked once a week - although for us 2-3 minutes would be a very long one. He usually moves on pretty quickly. Although I do remember one particular occasion going well over 30 mins! He's 2.5. PawPrints on "How often does your child throw tantrums in public" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-often-does-your-child-throw-tantrums-in-public#post-2583650 Sun, 10 Jul 2016 01:09:47 +0000 PawPrints 2583650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never thrown a tantrum, only 15 months though. We will see what the future holds. We're trying very hard to practice RIE though so fingers crossed that groundwork will pay off in fewer tantrums down the road.