https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Jul 2026 18:22:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031470 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 17:53:06 +0000 swurlygurl 2031470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a huge (still am?) drama queen, so I try to let her get hurt and move on on her own. I think it's working, because she is not quick to get upset about minor injuries. She's also not much of a daredevil though, so there hasn't been any falling off high surfaces or face planting on the concrete or asphalt... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031431 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 17:16:28 +0000 Mae 2031431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She is 8 mo. Depends why she is crying. Usually the only reason she does a real cry at this point is if she hurts herself. My kid is a daredevil and she falls down like 400 times/day, no joke. Whenever she falls down or hits her head or does whatever, we either ignore it or make happy sounds and don't do anything unless she starts crying on her own. If she does I pick her right up. I think she's a little too young to tell her to rub some dirt on it :) (and she isn't really a drama queen usually-- of the 400 falls per day she cries maybe 2 or 3 times). If she is doing her whiney cry because she gets frustrated or wants food I usually talk to her while I"m making her bottle or I try to distract her with something to make her happy. If she cries in her crib I give it 5 minutes unless I just saw her fall over and hurt herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031424 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 17:10:00 +0000 loveisstrange 2031424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is nearly 3. If it's a tantrum, I dont. If she gets hurt, then I wait and see her reaction. If she's actually hurt, I definitely go right away.</p> <p>At night, i give it 10-15 minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031342 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 16:16:00 +0000 meredithNYC 2031342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is nearly 3, but I have kind of always taken the wait and see approach. She's not one to freak out, but I'm not sure if that's down to nature or nurture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031296 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 15:45:06 +0000 littlebug 2031296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I"m in the wait-and-see camp. If he whimpers but seems generally fine, I say, "You're ok, shake it off" and shake with him. If it was a real wipe-out or he really smacked his head, I pick him up, snuggle, and offer him some ice for his bonk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031272 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 15:34:31 +0000 .twist. 2031272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wait to see how he reacts (unless I can tell he's truly hurt himself). Usually he kinda whimpers, sees that I can see him and that he's ok, and then goes back to playing. If he did hurt himself I pick him up and whisper comforts to him and kiss the boo boo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031260 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 15:30:00 +0000 artsyfartsy 2031260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: haha yes if he throws a tantrum bevause he can't have something he's not supposed to I don't comfort him. I explain to him and wait for him to get over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031191 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:58:32 +0000 Espion 2031191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: LOL!</p> <p>I wait to see how he does. He usually runs over to sit in my lap, sheds a few tears, then goes back to playing. He's been adventurous lately, so he's had some pretty hard knocks!</p> <p>ETA: I don't immediately respond to obvious tantrums with a obvious causes. (Like, no, you cannot bang my iPhone into the ground to see what happens.) Certain things I don't give him any attention, and other things require a small explanation, then no attention. </p> <p>One day he'll get annoyed at us singing, "It's the end of the world as we know it!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031188 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:57:25 +0000 blackbird 2031188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: eye rolls for DAYS </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031183 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:54:59 +0000 Cherrybee 2031183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I rush to her side, scoop her up into my arms, say "there, there, there, poor baby, poor baby" and sometimes I cry myself; I pick the block up, smash it into a million pieces then sue Fisher Price for harming my precious child. That might be a slight exaggeration but I definitely have a problem! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031180 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:54:30 +0000 pinkcupcake 2031180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I respond to her each time she cries (she's almost 3 years old). She rarely cries when she falls/gets hurts, so if she cries, I know something must have happened.</p> <p>The only cries I don't respond to immediately are when she wakes up and I'm not in bed (we co-sleep). She whines/semi-cries, but I know that she knows I'm right out in the living room, so I let her whine it out and then come out of the room :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031164 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:46:11 +0000 MrsRcCar 2031164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually I wait to see how they react. N will usually just get up and say uh-oh then move along. We are doing the same with E. If they do cry I still scoop them up and comfort them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031154 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:42:55 +0000 LuLu Mom 2031154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: HAHA agreed! I was with her this weekend and she tripped over her own two feet (the kid is clumsy) and she started to bawl blaming it on my daughter, and I'm like UM not a chance, she's sitting on my lap right now she did not push you down. My sister is a bit of a drama queen and she's like "I think I saw her push her" haha I just said "no she didn't, get your child up people are staring at her tantrum." I had zero patience for it Saturday...whoops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031147 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:40:15 +0000 blackbird 2031147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: yeah i know a few of those, lol. This mama ain't got time for that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031126 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:25:42 +0000 LuLu Mom 2031126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: @autumnlove: Agreed, unless I know it was a "bad" one, I usually go "oh man you got an owie, rub it" and if she needs a hug i'll of course give it, but I think over-reacting tends to make them overreact. I have a niece who is 3 and full out BAWLS every time she falls/bonks her head/trips, ect. I'm talking 20+ minutes, and I believe that is a direct response to parenting not that she's actual in pain/hurt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031121 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:22:23 +0000 autumnlove 2031121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: I do the same thing. My kids are 3 and almost 21 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031117 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:20:12 +0000 Greentea 2031117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always respond immediately, or at least let her know I am on my way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031116 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:19:25 +0000 blackbird 2031116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends what it is. If she bonks herself, I usually wait to see what her response is before reacting. She basically takes a ton of bumps and bruises and gets up, totally unphased now. I would probably sit next to her and pat or rub her back and comment on how she banged her head with a block. Sometimes she just cries out and goes back to doing her thing. If she put her arms up for me, i'd pick her up. That's just what we do. If shes upset and wants me, she definitely lets me know ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-quickly-do-you-comfort-your-crying-child#post-2031110 Mon, 19 Jan 2015 14:16:39 +0000 artsyfartsy 2031110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And what age is your child(ren) currently?</p> <p>T is 11 months and I let him deal with any frustration or fussiness while he's playing. It usually resolves quickly or he's telling me he needs something (hungry, sleepy).<br /> But when he full out cries from either being hurt or being upset about something I'm always quick to rush to his side. I wonder if I'm not doing the right thing?<br /> He knocked himself in the head pretty hard with a block a minute ago and instantly wailed. I swooped him up and checked his head and snuggled him for a minute and he was back to happy go lucky baby. Barring an obvious injury or accident that needs immediate attention, should I rush to him so quickly? I mean he would have been fine after knocking his head with a block. It was just the upset wail and tears that made me rush to him. </p> <p>What do you think? What do you do? </p>