https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 18:11:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992997 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 16:35:56 +0000 snowjewelz 1992997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sure we talked about having kids very early on and as our relationship progressed and we got married we got more &amp; more into the details. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992830 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 11:08:51 +0000 pastemoo 1992830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the 5th date or something way super early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992828 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 11:08:13 +0000 babycanuck 1992828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nonchalant conversations from ME about 4 years in, no serious conversation from him until well after we were married. About 9 years in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992827 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 11:07:02 +0000 krispi 1992827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about hypothetical kids pretty early on when we were dating. By the time we were engaged, we had a general plan for when we would have them. We started narrowing own our plans seriously around our 1 year wedding anniversary. We got pregnant 4 months after our anniversary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992779 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 09:57:49 +0000 BSB 1992779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we were dating in college, I was really unsure if I wanted kids. I wasn't sure if I would be a good mom. I was afraid that we would raise them up to the best of our knowledge and something that we couldn't control could happen to them ( like drugs... I've seen good friends go through this and I don't think it was anything the parents did.) It wasn't until I graduated from college that the now DH brought up that he wants kids and he couldn't be with someone who didn't want kids. I slowly started opening up to the idea of it. Then we got engaged and started talking more about it and decided DH could SAH and I think that made me feel better about it. I know DH would be a great dad. So then we got married and as you guys know... We are trying desperately to get pregnant while have IF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992652 Sat, 20 Dec 2014 00:31:05 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1992652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even as friends, I've always known he wanted kids. At the time, I was sure I didn't want kids of my own. I was always open for adoption. But in my year teaching abroad, I realized I wanted to have kids afterall. This was also when we started our relationship. </p> <p>In my visa application to move here, I talked about how we wanted children one day, because that was the one thing we knew, even if we never talked about marriage (and back then I wasn't even sure if I ever wanted to get married again). Marriage isn't a requirement to move here.</p> <p>It's also the reason why we chose to live here and why we'll stay here - it's very family (kid) friendly country. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992636 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 23:40:22 +0000 pui 1992636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty early on I think. Having kids was important to me, so I discussed it early with anyone I was serious with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992608 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 22:55:45 +0000 Corduroy 1992608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started dating at 17 &amp; 18. I don't remember a specific conversation but I'm sure I at least made sure he wasn't anti-kids in the early days. We didn't start talking about timing for kids until 8 years later or so (still prior to marriage) and then started TTc at 29 &amp; 30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992543 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 21:18:59 +0000 Rockies11 1992543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we discussed wanting kids and what number like about date 3? I was looking for a serious relationship and I also did not want to get attached to anyone who didn't want kids because having them for me was a non-negotiable. We decided that we would start trying as soon as we were married about a month after we were engaged. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992538 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 21:04:01 +0000 Canoli 1992538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Snowdrop: yup! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992530 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 20:51:01 +0000 Mae 1992530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We discussed our (ever evolving) ideas about the possibility of kids pretty much from the start of dating. But it was always a "long ways in the future" thing. We didn't seriously discuss possibly having a kid until about 1.5 years after we were married, and at that point we discussed possibly starting to try in another 2 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992473 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 19:27:30 +0000 artsyfartsy 1992473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We discussed future kids openly not long after we were dating. Not seriously of course but I know it came up in conversation a few times that we both wanted kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992471 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 19:24:59 +0000 Snowdrop 1992471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Within a couple of months of dating. I don't see the point in wasting time with someone if you disagree on fundamental things like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992446 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 18:45:15 +0000 fairy 1992446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>About 14 months after getting married.. and then we were pregnant 2 weeks later lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992441 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 18:41:48 +0000 mrs. wagon 1992441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about wanting a family in a general sense from when we started dating. But we didn't talk kids until we were ready to start trying... I think 3 years into our marriage. I was scared of kids!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992223 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 15:42:26 +0000 sapphire 1992223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly don't remember when we discussed this first! I remember some conversations early in iur marriage but I'm sure we talked about it earlier...I do know that we were always on the same page though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992067 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:30:00 +0000 sunny 1992067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we confirmed that we both wanted children sometime during our dating relationship. We started seriously talking about TTC when I had a milestone birthday coming up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992037 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:18:30 +0000 lilteacherbee 1992037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started dating at 16/17, but we were pretty serious by the time we were in college, so I'm sure we discussed our future relatively early on. When we got engaged, we had a timeline for when we wanted to start TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992025 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:13:38 +0000 sarac 1992025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started dating as teenagers, but I'm sure that we discussed our life plans pretty early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1992016 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 14:09:01 +0000 Somebunny 1992016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um... I think it was about 3 days into our dating relationship. He told me loved me and told him I wanted to have his babies. lol We move fast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991962 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 13:45:13 +0000 Anagram 1991962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh gosh, I don't even remember! But we both knew while were were engaged that we weren't going to wait long after marriage to try (since we were 32 when we got married) and we got KUd after we'd been married 2 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991840 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:58:26 +0000 nana87 1991840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were 22 and 23 when we started dating and nowhere near ready, so we might have talked about it theoretically but neither of us was thinking of it then (dh didn't even say "I love you" for most of that first year we dated!) by the time we were engaged, 3 years later we knew we both wanted kids. We didn't start making concrete ttc plans though until we'd been married like 2 years<br /> Eta I was 30 when lo was born, so 8 years after we met </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991834 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:56:29 +0000 LuLu Mom 1991834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was something I brought up after a couple months of dating, one of my previous boyfriends had a daughter at 17 and decided that was his only child, he informed me of this well into our relationship and I wasn't willing to give up being a mom and I was devastated, I didn't' want it to happen again. He wanted kids and even stated he didn't want to wait too long being 32 when we got married. We agreed wait a year after marriage and start trying. WE ended up bumping it up several months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991833 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:54:53 +0000 ineebee 1991833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we probably talked about personal preferences around a year after we started dating, then actually planning together after we got engaged. Hard to remember! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991822 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:49:19 +0000 mrsjyw 1991822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about kids early on within our first year of dating. We both wanted kids but it didn't really go beyond that while we were dating. During our engagement is when we started planning loosely family planning timelines then that changed a year after we got married and we decided to have kids a year or two sooner than what we originally said. No regrets! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991819 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:48:13 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1991819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about how many kids we wanted before we were dating. At the time I was debating breaking up with my then boyfriend because he didn't want kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991818 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:48:09 +0000 Mamaof2 1991818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991816 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:47:41 +0000 .twist. 1991816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: lol jinx. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991815 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:47:23 +0000 .twist. 1991815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about it pretty early on because he already had two children and having a child of my own was really important. So, if he was done having kids then I wasn't interested in dating him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/how-soon-did-you-discuss-having-kids-with-your-so#post-1991813 Fri, 19 Dec 2014 12:46:58 +0000 autumnlove 1991813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I guess either? :P </p>